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    Tonight was really tough, it has been slow and the girls are doing a lot of extras to stay in the game. I felt like a whore all night b/c of the shit guys were saying to me, told two guys to get the fuck away from me when I was supposed to be giving them dances because they were asking for sex/extras...and I felt like I was going to explode at them.


    But the big thing on my mind tonight is this guy who I went on a couple of dates with. As much as I hate to admit it, I really like him...and we have done nothing but make out, I have been totally straight forward about the fact that I am not jumping into bed with him...

    But no matter what, everytime he does or says something nice I think about the club and I feel like it is all a lie and I can't trust him. I have always been really scared of commitment and relationships, but recently I feel like I can't tell reality from bullshit and it makes me so sad. I don't know how to handle it.

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    Default Re: I feel like a whore

    But the big thing on my mind tonight is this guy who I went on a couple of dates with. As much as I hate to admit it, I really like him...and we have done nothing but make out, I have been totally straight forward about the fact that I am not jumping into bed with him...

    But no matter what, everytime he does or says something nice I think about the club and I feel like it is all a lie and I can't trust him.
    All I can say is that
    A. very few 'genuine serious relationships' ever materialize between dancers and strip club customers
    B. in many cities OTC activities between dancers and strip club customers tend to follow a pattern that leads to an expected end result (sugar daddy)

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    i was not talking about a customer, I was talking about a regular guy. In regular life, when I hear the things I hear at the club about how pretty/sweet/smart/whatever I am, it feels like a lie.

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    i know what you mean.. does you guy know what you do yeT? mine doesnt and grrr.. its fuckin killing me because im always lying to him as to where i am etc. its still really early (just a couple dates) so i wana make sure its definatly going somewhere before i drop the "i'm a stripper and make more $ than you BOMB" lol. All night at work tonight i was thinking of him..grrr not good for sales. good luck, keep us posted!
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    "Ya gotta keep 'em separated!" Best advice.

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    Having a seroius relationship with a man you meet outside of the club is often more complex than a normal dating relationship from one of the clubs "regulars" who you may or may not get dances from (not stripper dating or sugardaddy). The often unfouded stereotypes from the "outside society" and men who don't patronize the clubs is often more jaded and disrespectful than those men who do patronize the clubs. It is certainly not simple either way, but your best bet is to be UPFRONT AND HONEST and hopefully he won't judge you by you "job", but don't count on it...

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    This is pretty normal adjustment period. Stripping isn't all glamorous money and Cristal, ya know. Eventually you will get used to it.

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    Default Re: I feel like a whore

    ahhh no what you mean!

    im really starting to get sick of guys! especailly random perv guys who STARE u when your out...say even in the grocery line.

    and yeah its nice 2 hear compliments...but afterawhile, it gets repeitive. especaily when they say the same things they would say to any other girl. if they say a unique compliment, then i dont mind

    but hope u feel better..i sort of feel the same way. sometimes its hard to keep your "work attitude" different from your "normal life" attitude. you know? when im not at work, i try to forget that it exsists.

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    It helps to be a little schizo to be a stripper. Most dancers have their "dancer personna" and their "at home" personna. I think of Marilyn Monroe and Pamela Anderson and bit of this girl I used to work with and admire, and that is my dancer personna.

    When guys start asking for sex/ extras I give outrageously high prices in a joking manner, or say something like "Sorry, I'm already completely booked up for after hours shows tonight. Would you settle for dances and maybe we can hook up another time?"

    Then I encourage them to talk dirty, as that will give me clues as to how to extract more money from them. On the outside I'm acting all horny and turned on, in my head I'm plotting stragety to get the customer to spend the maximum amount he can afford on me.

    Be clinical and detached in your mind and you'll do just fine.

    *As a side note, my sex life since dancing isn't great. I've got no libido and have to approch sex with my hubby like I approch working out or other task. It's not that I find sex unpleasent, it is just that I kind of get over-stimulated working in a sexually charged atmosphere and have to work up to having sex at home. I have to put on my "Paris" personna to have sex now.


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    Default Re: I feel like a whore

    I can't tell reality from bullshit alot of times too. I'm numbed out, I suppose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    When guys start asking for sex/ extras I give outrageously high prices in a joking manner, or say something like "Sorry, I'm already completely booked up for after hours shows tonight. Would you settle for dances and maybe we can hook up another time?"

    Then I encourage them to talk dirty, as that will give me clues as to how to extract more money from them. On the outside I'm acting all horny and turned on, in my head I'm plotting stragety to get the customer to spend the maximum amount he can afford on me.

    Be clinical and detached in your mind and you'll do just fine.

    *As a side note, my sex life since dancing isn't great. I've got no libido and have to approch sex with my hubby like I approch working out or other task. It's not that I find sex unpleasent, it is just that I kind of get over-stimulated working in a sexually charged atmosphere and have to work up to having sex at home. I have to put on my "Paris" personna to have sex now.
    Paris, the 'all booked' line sounds great. I usually say something dumbass like "I'm going to go home to pet my dog and watch tv." But alluding to the possibility that you might actually do things, while not committing at all, seems far more effective.

    Also, my libido is LAME too. I mean... I get home at 2am, I'm not interested in sex at all. After all, I just sold shoddy reproduction of my actual sexuality for eight hours, honey, and now I'm exhausted. It's like... having all of these men stare at me and want my pussy seems to drain all of the life out of my vagina, y'know? It's like psychic pube vampires. I find, though, if I take a couple days off of work, I'm back to my regular horniness. Yay!

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