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    Default They want to see me outside the club help

    HI
    I am a newbie here and I would like some advice on custys who want to see me/hang with me outside of the club. Really, many that I meet I would love to see, but it's NOT a good idea. How can I tell them no? And they are not out right telling me they want sex, it's like:
    Me going to their gym to exercise
    Dinner only (and keep saying only dinner)
    Can I go to their church with them tomorrow.....

    Am I naive? What is the deal!

    Cherlo

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Hi
    If this post should be in the newbie section, would you move it for me? Sorry for the inconvenience!!
    THANKS
    Cherlo

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Repeat after me:

    "Sorry, but I really feel I should get to know you better first."

    50% chance you get a regular.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Just tell them you have a boyfriend or be honest and tell them you don't date customers.
    You may lose a customer but here and there but, if you see them for lunch or dinner or church you are still going to lose them as a customer. All they really want is sex. Your first OTC encounter may not include that but they will start pressuring you to take the next step and, when you refuse, they will move on to the next girl.

    And yes, Cherry_Sin's approach will get you a regular, for a while...
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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    unless you're hurting for customers, tell them "I am not interested in seeing customers outside of here."

    Or charge them per hour. $200/hr to sit next to them at church seems fair.

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    ^^^^^^^^Just be sure you are not like, lying to them. Cause if you say "Take me to VIP so I can know you better and then we will go out." That is a good way to start drama of all kinds of bad sorts.

    Just remember that saying "Not now, no, you smell funny, not ever, you are creepier than a plate of spaghetti and worms on a garage floor." may be honest, but tactful "Not nows for blah X reason." are less damaging to the ego and more bolstering to your garter.

    I kinda was vague there, as I realized afterwards.

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    ...and $250/hr if a baptism is required.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    Or charge them per hour. $200/hr to sit next to them at church seems fair.
    That's god's money!
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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    This is the only time you step out of your game face. A dancer should be an alternate personality (flirtacious, witty, charming, sexual) except for this instance. When a customer asks you to meet him outside of the club for any reason you should politely respond with "I don't meet guys outside of work (and then give him a specific reason: I have a man, that is illegal in every state of the united states, I like to keep this side of me stricktly business, I'm a good girl darlin"

    I find that all too often the whole "customer asking entertainers out on dates" ordeal is encouraged when girls don't immediately present the fact that they will not ever date a cutomer and it is in fact illegal. It is important not to lead a customer on, this is when accident happen.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Claiming OTC dating is "illegal in all 50 states" is more likely to cause a customer to burst out laughing, don't you think? As I'm sure you know, there are many clubs where dancer OTC socializing with regulars is practically their entire marketing operation.

    And of course it's not illegal in most states. I can think of a few examples of clubs where it would be considered solicitation because of local laws. But if you want to discourage a guy from being a pig, it's probably better to use a line with a grain of truth to it. It just holds up better.

    You could try this:

    Dancer: "You know how when you get engaged, it's the guy who does the asking?"

    Customer: "Yeah."

    Dancer: "Well, in the club, the rules are reversed. For anything outside the club, I do the asking. And it's a little rude, sweety, for you to ask, sorry. [sympathetic pout] So how about a hot dance you'll never forget? You still get to make all the choices in here. [big smile.]"

    Trust me, this will take the power back from him. Or at least break his stride. And it has the benefit of being true.

    I've somehow inadvertently crossed over into DW's territory....

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner
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    I've somehow inadvertently crossed over into DW's territory....
    Lol! Great lines, wish I had a chance to use them at some point!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherry_sin
    you are creepier than a plate of spaghetti and worms on a garage floor.

    I love that.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Wonder how DW will take this encrouchment??

    Good advice I use the 'have to get to know you really well to even consider it some girls get attacked horror stories hoo boy, you wouldn't like me outside the club it would spoil the atmos and besides I'd get in trouble with the boss and my husband is always saying I'm a very expensive date so it's probably best we just go to vip and you see me here as the mermaid I am in my natural habitat!'

    Don't know how many people say, I want to know you and I won't buy a dance but would love to take you to dinner, I feel like we're really connecting. Usually this is about 2 minutes after explaining that his wife is in the US right now... Uh huh!

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    If you want to keep them coming for a little while longer i use the "i'm not comfortable with that. I know you'll respect my wish on that because you are a gentleman."

    **using keywords like respect and gentleman is very important. those words also keep them from touching if that's not wanted. e.g. "Some guys i do dances for try to touch even when I tell them to stop. But you are such a gentleman and respect me, and I really appreciate that."

    Love it!

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