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    <wee bit of a rant>

    This has been irking me for quite a while.

    Christ almighty, you helpless mooches, get your own stripperkit together already! Your first night or two is excusable, but come ON. Stop asking me every single night for wipes, tampons, power bars, mints, hairspray, and on and on and on!!! Take some pride in what you do! Haven't you ever heard of the concept of being "professional"? Yeah, you, the girl who's been working here longer than I have. Try being self-sufficient for a change! And I fucking hate sharing things like wipes and mascara with strangers whose personal hygiene might be suspect.

    I spend not only a good amount of money but a good amount of TIME on making sure I am always fully stocked on these things, and a lot of my stuff is actually high quality. That Bath & Body Works vanilla hand sanitizer? I didn't buy it for the general public to help themselves to. That Urban Decay glitter you've now asked to use the last four nights we've worked together? That's fucking expensive. Yes, I let you try it once. That is not a standing invitation to use it every night thereafter.

    And come on. When you ask to borrow my cell phone for an "urgent" call (since your phone is shut off because you can't manage to pay your bill, yet somehow mysteriously manage to cough up the dough for a huge, elaborate tattoo), you had goddamned well better not still be sitting there chatting with your boyfriend when I return to the dressing room (from working, by the way, try it sometime) HALF AN HOUR LATER, the battery now drained to the last bar. And when I tell you that no, you can't try my Dry Hands that I use for the pole because I'm down to the last few drops and I need to make it last the rest of the night, sheesh, don't ask again! Not even with a "Please, just a little?" The one half-assed spin in your repertoire won't be vastly improved by using it anyway, I promise.

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    Ugh. I really don't like being selfish. I think of myself as a generous person, and honestly, I have no problem with loaning out things in emergencies! Obviously, I need to learn how to say NO - and it wouldn't be the first time I've been accused of being a pushover, so ultimately it's my own fault if other girls are sponging off me. But I'd like to think that karma should allow for this, so I'd hate to pitch a big diva fit about how we shouldn't have to borrow things from each other, and then run out of tampons at just the wrong moment.

    We should all be able to help each other out when it's really needed, but using my entire kaboodle night after night . . . Just because you and your best friend work out of the same duffel bag doesn't mean that you have unlimited access to mine, too!
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    Yea there is a girl at my club who NEVER has her own stuff. She bounces around all the time asking if she can borrow this, that, oh and that over there! Girls rarely ask me for anything, but if they do I have no problem helping them out because I know it's few far and in between.







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    Eh, its how I was when I was dancing. I had everything packed that I could possibly need for the night. I had people ask me to use stuff at first. But, you know...I was there to work and make money...not friends and whatever they were asking to use off of me...the house mom probably had something like it...for a charge.

    Don't share your stuff. If someone takes offense at it...to effin bad. The more you let someone share/borrow your stuff...the more they and others will do it. If you make it an every once in a while type thing...chances are it'll stay that way.

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    A few girls will borrow spray or wipes from me but they are the same girls who give me stuff to wear when mine gets stollen or I'm on stage in 30 seconds and I cant find my gown.

    Also I dont mind letting this one girls use my curling iron because she always introduces me to her custys friend.... KWIM?

    I love sharing with girls who share back Wether it be material things or help with a sale.

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    Call me selfish, but I only share with the girls that I am close with or that I know aren't trifling b*tches. I just tell girls, "sorry, but I don't lend my stuff out." If they cock an attitude, then they didn't deserve it in the first place.
    I have one girl in my club that never talked to me, then one day, she just started a convo-next thing I know she's trying to bum cigs, asking me for baby wipes, pasties, even to use my eyeshadow! Thank god that now I don't have to work with her anymore due to the rule changes.... I was getting sick of trying to explain why I don't share my MAC makeup. Grrr....

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    i used to have girls constantly depend on me for shit. at one point, after getting fed up, i wrote a little note and taped it to my locker. it said:

    TAMPONS - $1
    USING MY HAIRSPRAY - $1
    USING MY STRAIGHTENER - $2
    USING MY BODY SPRAY - $1
    USING MY NAIL POLISH REMOVER - $2
    USING MY NAIL POLISH - $1
    BORROWING A GARTER - $2
    BORROWING AN OUTFIT - $5 (AND I HAVE TO KNOW YOU)
    THONGS - NOT FOR RENTAL
    MAKE UP - NOT FOR RENTAL

    you'd be amazed how many people will pay for shit when you ask. lol

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    I learn the hardway. I let a girl use my cover stick. That I use to put on my nipple with my sponge. So My nipple will not hurt, from the laxtex. She took my cover stick and replace it with her broken one.

    SO I do not let nobody borrow anything from me. I do not borrow anything from anybody else.

    Make up box
    Tampons
    Flat iron
    Sponges
    cover stick
    body spray
    nail polish remover
    what color nail polish I am wearing plus a clear polish
    Differant outfits
    three Garter(black, white, and nude)
    Scissor
    thongs(extras that I sell to custy)
    two pair of shoes
    body wash
    deoradant
    a smile

    Now thats all I am willing to have on me. But bring extras and selling it might not be a bad idea.
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    I know sometimes we forget to pick up some wipes and need to bum some for the night. But when a girl uses your wipes/other thigs every time you come in??? That is sooooo effin annoying. I hate girls that are not prepared. People swiping my spray/baby wipes is the worst.
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    There's this girl at my club we I can't stand, she's this snooty little princess type that thinks she's little miss priss, anyway, she's on many occasions gone up & down the aisles of the dressing room asking if anyone had a red garter or whatever color to match her new outfit. Fed up with it finally I said to her "You know, we have a boutique in our club that sells many garters in many different colors, why don't you go buy one?" She'd say "Well, I don't really want to spend the money on that right now". So, you can spend the money on a new outfit but can't fork over like $5 for a freaking garter? Then do without but don't ask me!!! I don't mind at all lending people borrow things from time to time because we've all at some point ran out of something or forgot it, gotten it stolen or whatever, it's the people that ALWAYS are mooching that you want to smack! I will never allow other girls to use my makeup except for this one friend of mine, we've shared makeup on many occasions, but no one else. This girl at my club let another girl use her eye makeup and she ended up getting a really bad eye infection from the other girl! Her eye was so red and swollen that she had to take a week off from work!

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    All I have to say to this post is, "THANK YOU!" JEEEZE we make plenty of cash, can't people get their own stuff! There is one girl in particular who not only wants to use my products, but has used my phone so many times, she thinks it's her's and will just go in my bag and get it with out asking- EVEN IF I'M ON THE FLOOR, not in the dressing room. She also constantly begs for rides to and from work and is always asking me to buy her a redbull/cigarettes etc. and she'll "pay me back"- yeah right. UGHHHHHH.

    She is also the girl who claims (really it's bragging) to be making SOOOOOOO much money every single night.
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    Make-up sharing = ick! People who even ask are ick for wanting to put something all over their face that was all over a strangers face, unless youre close and know your stuff will be clean. Its like customers wanting to make out with you or somefink. No one thinks of germies anymore! *sanitizes hands*

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    Make-up sharing = ick! People who even ask are ick for wanting to put something all over their face that was all over a strangers face, unless youre close and know your stuff will be clean. Its like customers wanting to make out with you or somefink. No one thinks of germies anymore! *sanitizes hands*

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    I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I've had this kinda thing happen in many OTC situations...people "borrowing" rides from me, "borrowing" my apartment as a place to live temporarily, borrowing my clothes(sometimes without asking), etc. I wrote about a few of these situations here on StripperWeb in months past. I feel the same way as you...that I've been a pushover before, and as a result, when I finally say "no" people get more mad than they should. It is annoying!!

    Right now, I'm going through a "borrowing" situation of my own with my friend/roommate...he's been temporarily living at my apartment(paying half of rent+ electric though, but still) for 7 months now, and I was counting down the days until he was moving out. It was planned that he'd only stay until the weekend following November 7th, because we were working on the elections together and the election was on the 7th. Then just the other day, he asked if he can stay until December 7th. Ugh!!!!! I was sooo looking forward to having my own space so that I could have boys come over late at night, or so I wouldn't have to deal with my roommate's uncleanliness/disorganization. Or him eating all of the cheesy bread before I get to have a second slice! Of course he is mad that I won't give in. I'm going to stay firm to my decision because I want him to respect me and see that I'm being more assertive. That's what I'm trying to do these days, be more assertive. I think you have every reason to tell people no, and remind them that borrowing something one time or in case of emergency is okay, but NOT on repeat occasions.

    Another solution to the problem, would be to take a rather passive aggressive approach, by hiding your supplies somewhere that they won't notice as easily. That, or else you could put on all your make-up at home right before going to work, so you'd only have to bring with you things such as baby wipes or tampons, but hide these in discreet packaging so that they're not clearly visible to the other dancers. Wait a minute...why should you rearrange your routine for these unappreciative dancers? Nevermind...do things as normal, but tell them no. I'm learning how to do that myself. From the sounds of it, you sound a lot more assertive than I am so far.

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    Oh wait, there was an ITC situation too where a girl annoyed me. This girl "Mia" always asked to borrow my Victoria's Secret body spray. All the time. This was last year, before I started working on being more assertive, so back then I didn't get annoyed. But then it was missing. She also asked to borrow money from me because she got sent home and didn't have money for a cab, so I lended it to her because I felt bad. Later that night, I ran into her at an afterhours dance club and I asked her for my money back(she'd promised that she'd pay me back ASAP after she'd get money from her mom later that day). She paid it but complained that I'd annoyed her by asking this in front of other girls at the bathroom. But as this encounter occured, she was spraying herself with MY Victoria's Secret spray! How stupid was that of her to do that?? But what's even stupider, is that I was too unassertive to confront her about the spray or ask for the spray back...esp since she'd already made me feel like an "asshole" for asking for my money back(I was unassertive, I know)...plus, she coulda cried that it was her own spray and tried to make me feel like even more of an asshole. So maybe I looked even stupider than her, by essentially letting her steal my spray. God I'm glad that I started putting my foot down. I look back at times in the past when people took advantage of my niceness/unassertiveness, and it is annoying at how much I let myself get walked on.

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    I really never have people asking to borrow my stuff. On the rare instances, it's a tampon or a wipe. No one's taking advantage so I'm fine with it. The one thing that DOES bug me is when they ask to borrow my phone! I usually let them because it's on a certain custy's dime and I probably only get asked once every few months (not by the same girl). But, I don't like strangers (crazy bf's, pimps, drug dealers... who knows??) having my phone number, even for a short amount of time. So, I usually leave the sound off and keep it put away in my bag so that I'm not asked. GRRR!
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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982
    Oh wait, there was an ITC situation too where a girl annoyed me. This girl "Mia" always asked to borrow my Victoria's Secret body spray. All the time. This was last year, before I started working on being more assertive, so back then I didn't get annoyed. But then it was missing. She also asked to borrow money from me because she got sent home and didn't have money for a cab, so I lended it to her because I felt bad. Later that night, I ran into her at an afterhours dance club and I asked her for my money back(she'd promised that she'd pay me back ASAP after she'd get money from her mom later that day). She paid it but complained that I'd annoyed her by asking this in front of other girls at the bathroom. But as this encounter occured, she was spraying herself with MY Victoria's Secret spray! How stupid was that of her to do that?? But what's even stupider, is that I was too unassertive to confront her about the spray or ask for the spray back...esp since she'd already made me feel like an "asshole" for asking for my money back(I was unassertive, I know)...plus, she coulda cried that it was her own spray and tried to make me feel like even more of an asshole. So maybe I looked even stupider than her, by essentially letting her steal my spray. God I'm glad that I started putting my foot down. I look back at times in the past when people took advantage of my niceness/unassertiveness, and it is annoying at how much I let myself get walked on.
    What a biotch! Don't feel bad about not asking for the spray back. She would have definately said it was hers and the drama wouldn't have been worth it. You got the lesson learned out of it... I repeat... what a lil b*tch! Jeeze!
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    You're right, Bella. And what I forgot to add, was that I got her Mac eyeliner later.

    A few months later, my very naive friend(the same one with the pimpish ex-boyfriend that I wrote about a few months ago...and yes, the same one who talked so big about how she wanted to be a model and a Hollywood star) gave "Mia" the keys to her apartment so that she could go use a pregnancy test in her bathroom. Well, Mia didn't just take the pregnancy test...she also went into my friend's bedroom and stole a shirt and two pairs of pants! And the stupid mooch(my friend's bf's lazy sister) who was living with my friend, was in the apartment at the time but didn't say shit or think to watch what Mia was doing! However, it was really naive for my friend to lend Mia the keys...why couldn't Mia have bought her own pregnancy test?

    Not long after that, I was hanging out at that friend's apartment and we found one of Mia's Mac eyeliners that she'd left behind at one point. I felt justified in taking it, because not only had Mia abandoned it, but it was worth twice the value of the spray Mia had stolen! Also, it's not like Mia was going to return for it, since my friend had decided to never let her back into her apartment again! *karma*

    Back to the OP's situation...Rose, does your club have a housemom? Why aren't these girls borrowing products such as sprays and tampons from her?(after all, they're paying for the housemom's services/products in the form of a tip/house fee) There is no excuse for them being this way if there is a housemom. Maybe you could point this out in a subtle way when they ask you for stuff, such as saying "I'm running low and I'll need the last of [product] later, but I think the housemom has some if you inquire."

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    I let girls occasionally borrow things from me when I first started. Then this one girl that I was ask by management to "show the ropes" kept borrowing my stuff. I didn't mind until she just went in my bag and borrowed my favorite dress. It was expensive, kinda like a short gown, and she ruined it. She wore about a 9 & I'm a 0, it never fit again, it actually got little runs in the sides, where the threads had ripped the material & a seam split. She said she thought I would be ok with it since I let her borrow my garters. I ask why she put it on when it was obvious it didn't fit and she got all huffy, like I was calling her fat (which I wasn't). After that I would just say, "Sorry I don't share my things." or "I don't have any."

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    Just be blunt and straight forward.

    "I'm not a house mom sweetheart. You'll have to go shopping like everybody else."

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    As long as you let them borrow your stuff, they will continue to ask. Once you stop letting them "borrow", they'll quit asking you (and start bugging someone else ).

    I HATE the girls who never seem to have their own stuff too. They're the ones who use the "pity hustle" on custies too I wish these bitches would just get the hell out.

    Whenever someone asks me for something, unless I know her to be the type who normally has her own, I just say no. They don't really care - they will just go beg off someone else. The lazy mooching bitches

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    I searched mooches and found this thread. ditto on the very first post! I'm so sick of everyone asking me for gum, baby wipes etc. I don't mind if my girls do it, but not everyone in the flippin dressing room, repetively every shift. So annoying. The mooch topic should also include customers that come into the club to "have a drink" and not spend. That is mooching, window shopping, cheap bastards... go home and spank your monkey to a porno pricks.
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    I think if you don't lend other girls your clothes, make-up, wipes etc then they will know not to ask you, unless they have no dignity. Gils never come up to me asking me for things and i think someone who walks round a changing room asking every girl evey time she works fo things hasn't got an ounce of dignity and girls who cry poverty annoy me more! I don't want you talking my ear off going on and on how you have to pay rent and eat!Do you think i sleep on the streets and live of solar power? We all have to pay those things pull yourself together!

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    Ugh....my worst pet peeve is when a girl comes in from a CR (my dressing room is right next to the VIP rooms) and she's been in there for hours making tons of money and we all know it, and she constantly comes in and asks to "borrow" a cigarette. The same girl does this every single night. She makes money, too...God, buy your own pack!!!!

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    As long as you let them borrow your stuff, they will continue to ask. Once you stop letting them "borrow", they'll quit asking you (and start bugging someone else ).

    I HATE the girls who never seem to have their own stuff too. They're the ones who use the "pity hustle" on custies too I wish these bitches would just get the hell out.

    Whenever someone asks me for something, unless I know her to be the type who normally has her own, I just say no. They don't really care - they will just go beg off someone else. The lazy mooching bitches
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    I hate this too and with the exception of the few girls Im friends with, the answer is always "No, I dont have (insert whatever here), sorry". I had a girl one night ask if she could borrow a pair of panties bc she didnt like the ones she was wearing, it's like, are ya kidding?! I went in to dance my first night with more stuff than some of the girls who ask me for stuff have on them (thanks to everyone on this site ) and they've been dancing for years!

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