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    Default They want to see me outside the club help

    HI
    I am a newbie here and I would like some advice on custys who want to see me/hang with me outside of the club. Really, many that I meet I would love to see, but it's NOT a good idea. How can I tell them no? And they are not out right telling me they want sex, it's like:
    Me going to their gym to exercise
    Dinner only (and keep saying only dinner)
    Can I go to their church with them tomorrow.....

    Am I naive? What is the deal!

    Cherlo

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Hi
    If this post should be in the newbie section, would you move it for me? Sorry for the inconvenience!!
    THANKS
    Cherlo

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Repeat after me:

    "Sorry, but I really feel I should get to know you better first."

    50% chance you get a regular.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Just tell them you have a boyfriend or be honest and tell them you don't date customers.
    You may lose a customer but here and there but, if you see them for lunch or dinner or church you are still going to lose them as a customer. All they really want is sex. Your first OTC encounter may not include that but they will start pressuring you to take the next step and, when you refuse, they will move on to the next girl.

    And yes, Cherry_Sin's approach will get you a regular, for a while...
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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    unless you're hurting for customers, tell them "I am not interested in seeing customers outside of here."

    Or charge them per hour. $200/hr to sit next to them at church seems fair.

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    ^^^^^^^^Just be sure you are not like, lying to them. Cause if you say "Take me to VIP so I can know you better and then we will go out." That is a good way to start drama of all kinds of bad sorts.

    Just remember that saying "Not now, no, you smell funny, not ever, you are creepier than a plate of spaghetti and worms on a garage floor." may be honest, but tactful "Not nows for blah X reason." are less damaging to the ego and more bolstering to your garter.

    I kinda was vague there, as I realized afterwards.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Copied over from CustConv.

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    [QUOTE=Emily]Or charge them per hour. $200/hr to sit next to them at church seems fair. [/QUOTE

    That is hilarious!! Add $50 for each confession.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Well u could always let the ones who have something to offer take u out. Lately I've had a lot of men that are so not my type want to take me out. So now I make them take me out. Hell date em and get a knicks game or 2 along with an expensive dinner. The good life is what I'm saving for any way, so put it on their expense. If they have nothing to offer forgett em another will find his way into your sexy web.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    ^^^ I don't think that's a smart idea. You don't know who these guys are. They could try to rape you or harm you in some way. It's never a smart idea to go out with a customer unless you know him very well (and even then I still wouldn't- but maybe that's just me). Keep customers in the club. If they really wanna spend time with you, they can do it there.
    Take the road less traveled- just make sure you have a map.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    I understand meeting up with a loonnng time regular or something, maybe. But I agree that if you are going to participate in any escorting like behavior, go through a safe process with an agency where you can screen your clients and go about the whole thing securely. I wouldn't do it at all, but if so - then careful is the way.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    If you want to string them along in a platonic way, let them take you out to your favorite restaurant or somewhere public. DO NOT let them pick you up...meet them there. Let someone know where you are going and have them call or text you at a certain time.

    Remember, stringing some guys along can turn out to be a nuisance. There are the ones who can't take no for an answer and confuse a pleasant evening into something more. When guys ask me out, I tell them my dancer friend has to come along. Sometimes the guys decline, sometimes not.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    Customer fantasy No 1: "I can date a dancer."

    And to be honest, it can be a powerful motivating factor in buying private dances. Different dancers have evolved different strategies for dealing with the situation. These range from "I've got a boyfriend" to "maybe in a few months time", right through to "here's my number".

    Most strategies however are geared to getting dances, not eventually meeting the guy OTC.

    If you are thinking of meeting him, the three basic problems you'll have are:

    (a) It's almost certainly the dancer they're attracted to, not the real you - and the real you may be very different from their fantasy.

    (b) As Yoda says, 99% of the time, their primary moticvation will be sex. Their hope is by saying "It's just dinner, I promise" they've started you on the slippery slope towards bed.

    (c) You've got to worry about your safety. Strip clubs are not immune from have the occasional loney tune customer walk in.

    Even if you do want to meet a customer OTC (and it's a big if) it's best to wait until you feel you know him well enough to trust him. It's also possible the other girls in the club will know something about him - maybe he's a serial requester of OTC meetings?

    The three questions you've got to ask yourself are:

    1) Is he interested in me or my dancer alter ego? (Lay your money on your dancer persona).

    2) If I met this guy away from work, and he didn't know what I did, would I be interested enough to want to get to know him better? (Maybe he's playing a role in the SC, just like you are).

    3) If you do meet him away from work, is he mature enough to keep from blabbing to all him mates about what you do for a living? (Probably not).

    It could be that you'd like/be safe with the guy OTC but the odds are rather stacked against it.

    Finally, this link was recently posted on the blue side: www.wikihow.com/Date-a-Stripper (Appologies to the mods for x-posting).

    Does any of the approach seem familiar?

    Phil.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    what cherry sin said is correct. "I don't feel comfortable yet" and if they push, "I hope you will RESPECT my wishes," and sure enough they will stay and say oh of course i do, and if you push a VIP then they will most likely do it. not trying to thread hijack but im in a situation right now where a regular whom i used that line on is getting to the point of, i want your phone number.(im thinking of tellin ghim i have a jealous controlling bf.)

    so be careful yoruself and dont promise anything. but in any case, that line really works.

    Love it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W
    (b) As Yoda says, 99% of the time, their primary moticvation will be sex. Their hope is by saying "It's just dinner, I promise" they've started you on the slippery slope towards bed.
    Nuff said.

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    Default Re: They want to see me outside the club help

    I never mix "real life" with work life...it just causes TO MUCH drama, bull shit and possibly stalking. LOL.. seriously, some guys are fuckin psycho. When someone asks me for my number etc.. I tell them that i NEVER give my number to strangers but if we get to know eachother better than its possible. (after they've come in a number of times and spend mucho $$ i'll give them my privatephone.com number which is untraceable and goes right to machine) I haven't had a problem yet. :-)
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