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    From friendly..to sexy?

    Hello...!

    ok, im new and im not tottaly good with hustling yet(or selling).

    most of the time the guys ASK me for dances, so i dont have to worry. but sometimes its slow and i gotta start askin...

    and i know i could be selling more if I ask sometimes, too.

    i think my problem is, when i sit down with a guy or something, i dont flirt enough. its so hard to flirt with a guy u dont think is attractive! i just talk to them normally like a friend or something...and then i dont noe how to change the convo from friendly to..sexy like "so i would love to dance for you" or something. i just start talking bout stuff that have nothing to do or would even HELP me get a dance. how can i do that??? of course iwanna be friendly..but friendly as in flirty and getting them to buy a dance.

    im not even good at asking for dances. can somebody find me that thread about pick up lines for dances? i cant find it!

    any help would be great. thanks so much!
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    Default Re: From friendly..to sexy?

    i hear u i get into conversations that i find hard to change to "so let's dance". i guess im too scared to just walk right up and ask straight out.
    im not very flirty either. i introduce myself, ask their name, how their night is, then it seems to get into a full on conversation and then i don't know how to start the hustle. i guess we will learn.
    i am also making the mistake of spending too long with customers and i find that when i spend that long with them, they aren't interested in dances.
    i much prefer guys to come up to me and ask for dances which is good when its busy but when its slow i need to approach and use a more successful hustle.

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    Guys usually ask generic questions like 'how long have you been working here?'

    "Oh about two weeks now... I love this club so much! All of the girls are super friendly and I love the dj and... welll... I REALLY love getting naked for people!!!"

    THere are definitely ways to just throw such lines in the conversation. Keep the conversation light... if you are feeling that you are starting to connect with a guy on a personal level then steer it away from that by asking them how they like the club, how their drink is (maybe talk about how you love hot chocolate/spanish coffee because you get to lick the cream off), etc.

    And jaizaine... you should check out the dancerwealth (homestudy) course! He teaches that you should Always Be Closing. With enough practice, when you enter into a conversation youll be able to keep track of the opening, middle and close of a sale... and also, ask for the dance within two songs. Even if the conversation is getting interesting, taper it down slightly (so it's not totally incongruous when you ask) so that you can feel okay with the question isntead of feeling like you are killing the conversation -- you're just steering it in a different direction.

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    It takes time!!! I've been dancing for only 7 months, I've noticed such an improvement in myself from when I started but it takes time. The girls who are really high hustlers who know what to do and say are the ones that have been doing it for a long time. When I started I was afraid of hurting someone's feelings or I didn't want to be rude and now I don't care. When I say I don't care, it's not that I'm ruthless and take no prisoners approach, it's just that I see this as business and I won't allow customers to take advantage of me like I did when I first started. I think many times when customers know you're brand new, they'll do whatever they can to take advantage of you. When you go to a table, before you even sit down, already have planned what you're going to say, how you're going to lead the convo, etc. That was a big turning point for me when I learned that I was really the one in control, not him. I learned you can pretty much say anything and get away with it. You can be ditzy and out of it and so get away with it, like if the guy won't shut up and you can't seem to get a word in to close the sale, out of nowhere just say something airheaded like "I just love my big boobs and I want to show you, hehehe" and all the while of twirling your hair. When a guy pulls out money that he paying me for the dance and it's more than what he's supposed to, I'll say "You don't need change for that, do you?" 9/10 they'll say no because they'll look stupid saying yes, I've only had 1 guy say yes and he was a total prick and waste of time type of customer. You need to be in control and be a little intimidating so you can be in charge. Don't be too hard on yourself, it's takes a while of practice. Pay attention to other girls in your club who always make a lot of money and watch them, that should help too!

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    An easy way to flirt is to quit paying attention to their body, age, and all. Look them in the eyes. Everyone has euniquly different eyes, and all can be found sexy, cute, whatnot. The more you look them in the eyes, and think their sexy, nice, or cute, the easier it is to work yourself up. Also, hands and feet are good focal points too. If you don't want to stare them down, go from hands to eyes, around the room, coy glances away and whatnot.
    A lot of the pics of Anna Nicole show her gazing at that old guys eyes. Try it and see if you can flirt better.

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    If the conversation is going on to long..excuse yourself to go to the ladies room and tell him to get ready because you plan to kidnap and molest him when you get back. I find this works 99% of the time. And if he balks...at least you wont waste any more time with him.
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    I find myself having this problem a lot. But from reading on here, it seems like almost everyone has had this issue, esp. starting off.

    I am a lot better now than I was a month ago, especially with regulars/semi-regs. I can just walk up, tell them how glad I am they are there tonight, and say something stupid like, "Are you ready for me baby? 'Cause I've been waiting all night for this".

    If its someone I have never seen before, I'll say "When I came in and saw you over her talking to ___ I just couldn't wait to get my hands all over you" Or something of that ridiculous nature.
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    Quote Originally Posted by anomar


    And jaizaine... you should check out the dancerwealth (homestudy) course! He teaches that you should Always Be Closing. With enough practice, when you enter into a conversation youll be able to keep track of the opening, middle and close of a sale... and also, ask for the dance within two songs. Even if the conversation is getting interesting, taper it down slightly (so it's not totally incongruous when you ask) so that you can feel okay with the question isntead of feeling like you are killing the conversation -- you're just steering it in a different direction.
    hey thanks i will check it out, i feel awkward, i can't hustle, im so bad at it i get embarrassed.

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    it does take time. when i got the dancerwealth home study course i thought i'd be making lots and lots of money right away. what it took was time and practice to get better. i've only had the course for two months but now i never leave the club with less than $100 (not too bad for a new dancer). it's getting easier and better all the time.

    i set goals for myself. recently it's been one champagne room per week (i work three nights a week). i've been achieving that goal pretty well, sometimes more.

    it takes time and practice to get good at it, just like any other skill.

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