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    Hello ladies,
    I am new here. I am interested in becoming a dancer. However, I need some advice. I have some weight to lose. I am trying to lose it within 3 months. I have a few concerns. I am now 24, but I have been told by several people that I look very young and innocent (I guess.) Anyhow, I am not use to attention and this past Saturday when I went out for a run I was whistled at so much. I am not use to that. I got a boob job almost a year ago to take me from a DD to a G. I was thinking that that was the reason. However, I was realizing that has been happening to me since I was a kid. Men (teachers or people I just knew) always gave me extra attention. It was never sexual, but it never made me feel uncomfortable.

    I'm not use to getting attention. I grew-up in a very dysfuntional family life. I kind of figured that once I got the boob job that I was eventually going to do modeling, but I have always thought about dancing. Now I don't have any formal training and I feel so uncoordinated. I guess I should learn to dance alone naked at home in high heels. I do have two people that are very supportive of my decision. Other than that I have not and don't plan to tell any family. I live with my boyfriend and he understands that this is something that will make me happy and that I really want to put my new boobs to good use.

    My concern is that when I was born (very premature-only 1 1/2 lbs) I had to have emergency surgery two weeks after I was born to save my life. It seems as though the scars from that surgery have grown as my body has grown. I have a 4-5 inch scar straight across the middle of my belly button and then I have two indents on either side where the tape was that was hodling my tubes in place. The areas are about an 1" across my right side and an 1" across and then sort of down my left side.

    What I'm asking is can I still strip. I don't think make-up will help it and I don't really want to use it unless its for my face. What is strange it that when I was a kid it didn't bother me. It didn't start becoming an issue until about a year or so ago. Even after working out it will always be there.

    I have had a few lovers in life (okay late in life for me) and none of them cared about some stupid scar. I really am scared that it will hold me back. I will not have plastic surgery to fix it because I think it shows that I'm a fighter for life (in the sense that I fought to stay here.) Not to mention that I'm scared surgery will just make it worse. I just don't want people to be turned off by it. And the place that I want to work is completely nude.

    I'm looking for advice, but I guess I'm also looking to boost my self-confidence.

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    I don't think you'll have a problem. The men will be too busy looking at your tits too notice your scar, and if they do, it gives you awesome conversation potential.

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    I don't think the scar will be a problem at all, but guys will ask where it's is from. Jsut be prepared to talk about it.

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    Thank you Susie.

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    Emily,
    Thank you. I am willing to talk about it if they ask.

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    Was it Gastroschisis? That is one of the most disturbing things I've ever seen (not the scar, the process).

    If you are going to wear it as a badge of courage, then work it. Not to belittle it, but there are girls on this site who have been dancing for a while with much larger ones.

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    I agree.... scars aren't usually a huge problem in most clubs. I've worked with girls with C-section scars, breast implant scars, knee surgers scars, and I even worked with a girl that had hip surgery when she was younger and had a scar from not far above her knee to all the say above her hip. Some clubs may be more picky, but I think the majority won't really care. Customers may ask about it, but one of the best earners at one of the clubs I worked at had a c-section scar, and cutomers didn't seem to care about that.
    Take the road less traveled- just make sure you have a map.

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    Gastroschisis is a type of abdominal wall defect in which the intestines and sometimes other organs develop outside the fetal abdomen through an opening in the abdominal wall. It is often detected through AFP screening or a detailed fetal ultrasound.

    Genetic counseling and further genetic testing, such as amniocentesis, may be offered during the pregnancy as some abdominal wall defects are associated with genetic disorders. If there is no additional genetic problems or birth defects, surgery soon after birth can often repair the opening.

    I had an ileostomy. An ileostomy is a stoma that has been constructed by bringing the end of the small intestine (the ileum) out onto the surface of the skin. Intestinal waste passes out of the ileostomy and is collected in an external bag stuck to the skin. Ileostomies are usually sited above the groin on the right hand side of the abdomen.

    Because of this I was in the hospital for almost a year. They didn't remove the bag until I was almost two years old.

    I don't know why I am making such an issue of it now though. I think I'm just afraid.

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    I have a tummy tuck scar that can be partially covered by makeup but it is stil visible. No body asks about it and nobody cares. I have great boobs and ass and those are the attention getters and conversation starters. You'll be fine.
    "A stupid man's report of what a clever man says is never accurate because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand." - Bertrand Russell

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    Thank you Miss_Luscious, MadisonM, and lunchbox.
    All of you are right.

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    Glad to help girlie!
    "A stupid man's report of what a clever man says is never accurate because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand." - Bertrand Russell

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    If the scar is very noticable, just get a wrap. Lot's of girls wear them over bikinis on stage. Some take them off, but some wear the longer ones & just swirl them around & use them as part of their act. I saw one girl who had a really flabby lower tummy because she had just given birth do this & no one noticed. Also remember, stage lighting is made to make us look perfect & cover any blemishes. I have a C-section scar about 3-4 inches wide & don't wear a wrap on stage, if I'm working full nude I sometimes cover it with a temporary tattoo (if I'm feeling self-concious that night). Even with the scar I have always been one of the top earners at every club I've worked at.

    Good Luck!
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    Jasmine,
    Thank you for the advice. I never even thought of that. I guess as long as the main parts are nude, who cares what everything else looks like.

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    Ok, sometimes I feel like Frankenstein's Baby because I have so many scars from both injuries, illnesses, and surgeries. Learn how to properly use dermablend if any part of the scar is discolored (hypo/hyperpigmentation). I've gotten laser treatments and steroid injections into my c-section scar and that has helped tremendously. I have also had dermabrasion (the hardcore kind, not micro) to sand down the scarred areas of skin and promote new healthy skin growth. Also, I frequently do the Mist Spray-On Tan which is like wearing a coat of body makeup. Being tanned definately helps to camoflouge flaws.

    Sweet, as for the indentions, have you seen a dermatologist or plastic surgeon? They could *so* easily inject a filler to smooth the area out. I have had that done too I think that would be considered reconstructive so insurance will probably cover it.




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    Hmmm...that is something to think about.
    Thank you.

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    Wraps, belly chains, temporary tats, are all great to distract the eye, if not cover up our *blemishes*. I dont know what your belly looks like, but chances are, with the lighting in club and all of your other great focus points, your scarring will barely be noticed. Go for it girl!! Everyone is self-conscious about at least one thing on their body, and guys never notice anyway. Most guys come in to see tits and ass, they really aren't looking for ways to pick us apart, they are looking for all of our good points! Hope everything goes well, and you get a chance to finally try this thing out!
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    i worked with a woman who had a severly scarred stomach from a botched surgery which she was very self-concious about. we also worked at a nude club and she would wear corsets, mini dresses, or a fur stole on stage to hide it. as long as your top and bottom come off no one will care about whats around your waist.

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    You could also wear one of those corsets that don't have the bra in it, it's late and I forgot the technical term for it, I think it's called a waist cincher or something. Lot's of girls in my club wear them, they remove their underwear and their bra but still have that on and sometimes have garters attached with stockings. I doubt anyone will see it, the club lights are very forgiving. You could also wear a pretty, metal type of belt that would look like a belly chain that could cover it too. There's so many options. Don't let the scar stop you from dancing!

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    when it comes to the scars; you can definitely strip. You hav a very interesting story to tell. It might make a good hustle.
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    Thank you.

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    I am very excited about my new career choice. Right now I am working on losing some weight and toning up.

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    Scars? Stretch marks? No one cares. Men are always happy to see a naked woman!! Besides, the lighting in the club usually helps to hide those little things, anyways.

    Happy dancing!!

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    God I hope so. Cause I never thought mine could be hidden
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