I've seen women with horrible bodies getting $1300 from one table, and I've seen Pamela Anderson clones leaving with $60. So the difference is obviously confidence. How do you build confidence in your body?
I've seen women with horrible bodies getting $1300 from one table, and I've seen Pamela Anderson clones leaving with $60. So the difference is obviously confidence. How do you build confidence in your body?
"You have demonic genius" -Naomi Wolf
"I very much resent it when people - maybe with good intentions or from a progressive point of view - keep telling me, 'It's their culture' ... It's like saying the culture of Massachusetts is burning witches." -Azar Nafisi
The best way to start is to STOP INSULTING YOURSELF!
How many women do you know, yourself probably included...stand inf ront of a mirror and go "oh my thigs are huge/arms are flabby/stomach has a pouch" etc? How many women take part in "women bashing sessions"? (You know, where one girl says, oh my skin is bad, someone else jumps in with my legs are thick, etc).
think about it. You would never say to your best friend "You have a fat ass", so why do we value ourselves so little that we insult ourselves?
Also, walk around the house naked. i know I know, we spend enough time without clothes...but that's in a very different setting. Dpoing totally normal things, like laundry, whil enaked make sit feel mor enormal, so yous top evaluating yourself so much.

I have the biggest issue with body confidence, what's been working for me is reading self-help books. And on my bedroom and bathroom mirror I place notecards with inspirational and uplifting phrases, like 'You are a beautiful sex goddess' and 'I am fabolous and fantastic'. Every morning when I wake up, I look into the mirror and read the messages on the notecard out loud to myself until I feel it penetrate into my soul and I get this empowering rush of excitement where I feel like I can do anything. That really helps me.
Last edited by sweetjuices; 11-14-2006 at 09:23 PM.
are there any good self-help books to read that you can recommend?





Stop thinking about your body as a visual thing, but a physical thing. It's your machine, it's what keeps you running. Your big thighs keep you moving during the day, your big arms help you stay strong, etc. Your body is that, your body, so try and appreciate it first manually and then visually.

As far as books to recommend, I really like the book 'Building Confidence for Dummies', it's a very basic bookswith lots of helpful tips and advice you can apply. And the book 'How to Be a Sex Goddess' by Sarah Tomczak, I found kinda helpful.
It doesn't matter what a women looks like. Attitude is everything. If a woman feels sexy about herself, it shows and we guys seem to be able to pick up on that.
Scoring big in the stripclub goes far beyond body confidence, but I do agree that it's important in trying to persuade customers to buy from you and not Other girls.
There's no room for loose ends in this environment. Your look, overall confidence, the way you present yourself, how you interact with others, timing, and shift length to name a few can all factor into how good or bad you do on any given day.
It is frustrating, however, to see a "not so cute" girl get paid, but heh what I really want to know is why. Because if I need to step it up, I'll start doing what she's doing no need to reinvent the wheel.
I think working out and staying in fabulous shape is the best thing you can do for body confidence. If you know you have nothing to hide it makes it so much easier to prance around. Go ahead, shine a spotlight on my ass, you won't see any cottage cheese there!
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I agree - stop insulting yourself and picking yourself apart! It's normal to be a little more critical of ourselves than we are of others. But I think alot of us take it way too far. Try looking in the mirror and seeing your WHOLE package, because that's what everyone else sees. Don't zero in on the little bit of cellulite on your thighs, or the little flab on your arms, or the zit, or whatever. Just stand back a little and see your whole self without paying attention to any negatives. Most of us look a whole lot better when we just look at the whole package. A nice figure, a nice face, young skin, etc.
Smile at yourself in the mirror sometimes. It sounds cheesy, but sometimes I catch myself smiling in the mirror and think "pretty girl". It sure does help me remember I'm still attractive and not the ugly bitch I could think, if I always focused on my little cellulite or jiggly ass. And when I feel a little insecure, I step back a little from the mirror and just imagine I were looking at this girl and never saw her before. It helps bring me back to reality, that I've still got a nice body, nice hair, nice face. That I'm still a good-looking chic.
Also, a trip to wal-mart can work WONDERS for your own body image. LOL![]()
I sooo need help with this. I work out, and take care of my skin, hair, nails etc... But I am always just extremely self critical. People have told me that they always thought of me as very confident and strong and everything. I don't understand how I come off like this to everyone but myself.Just a good actress?
LOL
Really though, I need help.
Tyff
^ but you're beautiful.
"You have demonic genius" -Naomi Wolf
"I very much resent it when people - maybe with good intentions or from a progressive point of view - keep telling me, 'It's their culture' ... It's like saying the culture of Massachusetts is burning witches." -Azar Nafisi
Awww thank you so much!![]()
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