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    Hi i am recently a new dancer almost a year now, I just wanted to thank everyone for their advice and most of all just this site in general. I love it! The reason i am writing this is because i just eneter a chat room from the strripper web ATSp, just to talk to someone and just because my user id says stripper they don't want me there and also said mean things. I am tired of people prejudging just because i entertain men and make most people 's paychecks in a day. They said their not bi no guys stuff like that! It's not just this site but normal people in everyday life. I am sure you all have experienced it and some form or another. We are people too! IT's a job I think we should flood their site to show them we are people too don't judge and there would be too many of us to get rid of lol Sorry just had to get that off my chest , feel free to comment and take over their site! don't worry i defended us and made them think and get pissed off hee hee hee

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    Some guy that had been bugging me constantly, begging for me to go out with him (I'd never met him he had just seen my facebook/myspace and lives in the area). He repeatedly asked me to come over after work and drink with him at his house (Yes drive into the city at 2 in the morning alone to a complete strangers house where he is alone to drink and "get to know each other". I repeatedly told him NO and told him to stop asking but he wouldn't. So finally I blocked him on messenger and myspace. He made a new account and messaged me telling me "You think I give a f*ck what a stupid whore like you thinks? You think I could ever respect you? You are a dirty f*cking slut and I don't give a shit about you bitch and never did, go waste your life away in a strip club you f*cking cunt." I'm quoting him exactly. Its funny how their opinion changes when they realize you really DONT want them. People are just ignorant, it's ignorant! (Haha - if you didn't watch tonight's episode of south park, I was making fun of Micheal Jackson with the "ignorant" thing)

    Don't worry about it. People discriminate against all kinds of professions. Ours is just a touchier subject.

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    So, you're complaining that people on the internet are mean to you? Honey, not for nothing, but you don't need to be a stripper for that. Hell, right here, we're mean to non-strippers ALL THE TIME.
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    It's not necessary to tell everyone you meet that you are a stripper. It really isn't anyone's business.
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    Pooka--Apparently he DOES care, or he would not have gone to the trouble of making a new ID just to tell you how he does not care! Do you still know is screen name? I could put it in my "Stupid IM Hall of Shame" on my website! I have quite a collection of them. (Imagine that!)

    As to FairyDust, you really do need to be selective about who you tell your business to. People get all kinds of weird when they learn about your job. If you are the kind of thick-skinned individual who could give a flying fuck what other people think, then that's OK. Otherwise, protect yourself a little. People on many of the other forums I belong to (Like SparkPeople, LongHairCommunity, Shes In Touch, etc.) have no clue what I do because its not relevant to the discussions. Also, quite a few people en my real life don't know, b/c it does not concern them and b/c I don't want other peoples stupidity to affect my son.


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    Haha, I didn't care that he was rude to me on the internet - didn't hurt my feelings - was just funny that when he thought I might want him being a stripper was an ultimate fantasy girl....but when I didn't I was all those names! Loserness.

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    O well, I sat fuck'em all. (not in a literal sense, of course )
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    ^^^say
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    People discriminate against lawyers/doctors/construction workers/strippers...you name it. You just gotta know how to handle it, weve all been discriminated at one point in our lives, but we survived right? Do your thing and let the haters hate...move forward and leave those f*ckers behind. Oh and smile

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    Its just part of the job. Just like when a bf breaks up with a stripper all of a sudden were 'nothing but whores'. Yea I agree with the others dont go spewing that youre a stripper to random people. People wont understand no matter how nicely and proudly you tell them. They are ignorant people who chose to keep their myths about our jobs true in their heads no matter what we say.

    So oh well ...move on and keep your head high because no one else is going to help you with that part.
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    Most of the time I am a 'bartender' or 'waitress'

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    I'm even more vague...I'm "self employed" or "I have a small business" if they want more info, i say, "oh its an entertainment company."

    well, it is!
    I'm getting my Dial-A-Stripper service up and running again. If you are in NYC or NJ and are interested in private party dancing, email [email protected] with your SW handle, contact info, photo (if you have one) & best time to call and I'll get back to you asap.

    If you're having a party and need strippers, email me with the details and any questions you have. Thanks!

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    So here's a thought brought to me by a custy a while back.... "If you aren't ashamed of what you do, then why do you have a hard time telling people that you do, aka, your family...?"

    My answer:

    "I'm not ashamed of what I do, I AM however ashamed of how small minded they may be. And if ashamed is incorrect then lets put it at disappointment. So while you may think I fear disappointing them...in fact, I am afraid of being disappointed BY them! So to avoid that alltogether, I simply don't give them a chance to do so!"

    That was quite simply the end of that conversation.

    Discrimination I think is simply fear. And fear IS ignorance. You can't force people to overcome either one.... but you CAN encourage it....

    Did any of that make sense? I feel like I should be a 4' tall asian man with a long mustache and a fortune cookie!




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    To the OP: I can relate. Yeah you shouldn't tell everyone that you're a stripper(even if you're happy/proud of it), due to related society stigmas and safety risks. I will not tell most people in my daily life that I dance, however I HAVE written about being a dancer on various Internet forums because the Internet is a place where I can choose to be annonymous and hide behind my computer so to speak.

    I can relate to the discrimination!! About half a year ago, I went onto some job forums, and wrote about career issues and how that tied in with stripping. I wrote on their job complaint forum about how I'd started stripping to "do what I had to do" to survive and pay my bills until I found a job in my career field(I have a Bachelors), and how I was getting sick of dancing and wished that I found a "real" job already. For me, it's easier to write about my problems on websites to unbiased, annonymous people who don't know me, than to embarrass myself by telling problems to people who know me. They all bombarded me with insults!! I think they were more concerned with being catty and finding someone easy to ostracize(why else were they on a job complaint forum?? b/c their lives and jobs obviously suck, so they need to take their problems out on someone else). They said stuff like "You're not a dancer, and you're not exotic, you're just a stupid STRIPPER" like they were TRYING to agitate me. They also told me that I had a "now flabby ass"...but they haven't even seen what I look like. All of their comments were so ignorant, and exhibited stupid stereotypes that they thought all strippers were drug-addicted old hags who were burned out on life from drugs and couldn't qualify for any other job...it's not true! I wrote with legitimate concern, and they used it as an opportunity to flame me.

    As a result, I've stopped using those forums entirely. I take it that if people are going to spend more time flaming a "stripper" for stripping, and not reading my posts for the content and job-related questions, then the posters are immature and don't give worthwhile advice. I think a lot of people who bully others on the Internet are the same people who are insecure victims in real life; they feel stronger by bullying people on the Internet because they can hide behind their computer and put on a facade. I've found that Stripperweb is one of the rare few forums that actually has open-minded, considerate posters. Screw all the other forums, anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982
    About half a year ago, I went onto some job forums, and wrote about career issues and how that tied in with stripping. I wrote on their job complaint forum about how I'd started stripping to "do what I had to do" to survive and pay my bills until I found a job in my career field(I have a Bachelors), and how I was getting sick of dancing and wished that I found a "real" job already. For me, it's easier to write about my problems on websites to unbiased, annonymous people who don't know me, than to embarrass myself by telling problems to people who know me. They all bombarded me with insults!! I think they were more concerned with being catty and finding someone easy to ostracize(why else were they on a job complaint forum?? b/c their lives and jobs obviously suck, so they need to take their problems out on someone else). They said stuff like "You're not a dancer, and you're not exotic, you're just a stupid STRIPPER" like they were TRYING to agitate me. They also told me that I had a "now flabby ass"...but they haven't even seen what I look like. All of their comments were so ignorant, and exhibited stupid stereotypes that they thought all strippers were drug-addicted old hags who were burned out on life from drugs and couldn't qualify for any other job...it's not true! I wrote with legitimate concern, and they used it as an opportunity to flame me..
    OMG! What a bunch of fucking cuntrags! At least YOU had a job, unlike the rest of those posters still looking. Hey, we do what we got to do to get by in this world. I'm tired of everyone's shit too, my friend stupidly told a prospective employer (that I hooked her up with) that he last job was dancing. I almost had a damn heart attack when she said that! Guess what? She didnt get the job, but the interviewer kept calling and asking her out on dates. AND he was married.
    I'm getting my Dial-A-Stripper service up and running again. If you are in NYC or NJ and are interested in private party dancing, email [email protected] with your SW handle, contact info, photo (if you have one) & best time to call and I'll get back to you asap.

    If you're having a party and need strippers, email me with the details and any questions you have. Thanks!

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    Life is ironic- in my next profession, I can't talk about my job either because it deals with some unpleasant parts of life (mortuary science, HazMat clean-up.) Tales from that field make strip bar shenanigans sound like a fun time.

    Surprisingly, I haven't had too many bad reactions when I DO tell someone what I really do for a living. I guess they're just glad I'm not on welfare instead.

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    People in our society are uncomfortable with sex, plain and simple. We just have to stand our ground to people who are old fashioned and conservative, and only seek friendships with people similar to us.

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    ^ ^ I agree with you, Tina!

    In the 2yrs since I started dancing, I've become more picky about who I choose to talk to. I've been cutting the assholes out of my life...friends who weren't real friends, people who bad-talked my choice to dance(hey, THEY sure weren't paying the bills for me!!), etc. Luckily, my close friends either dance, have known/dated dancers in the past, or are perfectly cool with it. Also, my close friends were HAPPY for me when I started dancing, because they knew I had been in a really terrible financial spot and figured that moneywise, dancing was the big break that I'd been looking for.

    And yeah, a lot of people on other website forums are creeps and cuntrags. One guy on the "vent" job forum would complain about how comparable his min wage job at the potato chip factory was to slavery. I guess he wishes he could be a dancer??(actually, he said that he wished he had that opportunity) And before I started dancing, I still got shitted on by people(both on forums and real life)...only instead of people berating me for "immorally" dancing, they were telling me that I had a "deadbeat job" or a "highschooler's job," and falsely accused me of not trying hard enough to look for a better job. Sometimes you just can't win.

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