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    ***Disclaimer****


    I have started this post several times and each time I go to post it, I delete it instead. I am trying to make sense out of EVERYTHING in life at the moment. So if this makes NO sense when read, I apologize guys, I really do.



    I am very tired. I haven't slept much in the last several days. Some because of work, some on the account of personal crap.


    The club (dive bar) I worked at in Dover is missing a dancer. Me. I quit. The 'drama' became so bad, that it was like working in a freak show. I have never been around so many 'adults' acting like children.

    The constant well "she told me you said this." and the "OH my GOD you will never believe what 'so and so' and 'so and so' did last night!" was at a all time epidemic. It was as though if the bar was 'drama free' for too long of a time they would actually go create some. The more that you stayed out of it, the more they tried to pull you in. "She just thinks she is better then the rest of us." "She is a bitch" "I don't trust her"
    I told them to keep me out of it. It didn't work. So I just called everyone out. I guess I am a bitch. I just wanted to make my money and be left alone.


    A friend of mine found herself directly in the midst of the most recent drama. Everyone (I am not sure what I think) there believes she put herself there on purpose... That everything she did, she did to fix her need to be the center of attention.

    I beleive she has made some mistakes... but who the heck hasn't. and the latest one, was getting played by a skeevy wannabe bouncer. The worst kind of played. I hate getting into her buisness, but she thought she loved him. For whatever reason. He got what he really wanted, sold her out, and they both got fired. Management didn't even tell her. I was told I should tell her. "Tell her not to come back here." I was thinking I should send them a bill for services rendered. Instead I will just stay quit. And far away from Dover.

    I spent the better part in the ER last night with her. The club was just the 'last straw' with a long list of situational problems she was experiencing. She hurt herself, badly, with the worst type of intentions. I have known her a long time. Several years. She has never done anything like that.

    I am burnt-out. But I do want to work. I have improved so much in this work. I love it. I am good at. But I am scared. There isn't much in Delaware. One I tried recently and didn't follow through with and one I worked at once before already...

    I am thinking about Philadelphia. It isn't that far from here (45 mins), but I am a nervous city driver. (ok I admit it... a TERRIFIED city driver) I don't know Philly. I don't know where I would fit in there.

    UGH. I just really feel kind of lost in general. I don't know what I should do.

    I have gotten some excellent advice from a reputable source about how I should deal with my girl. I am not sure if I am looking for advice or encouragement about exploring some new clubs... All I really am sure of is that I just feel really sad. and angry and tired.

    My fears have been realized... this post makes very little sense. I am going to post it anyway.

    Thanks for reading.

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    Perhaps some time off or a new locale. I would recommend the time off first, if you have a sufficient amount of savings to allow for such. Confusion and exhaustion are bad reasons to leave for a new place without a safety net (I tell myself this every time Canada starts looking good). Sometimes (okay, frequently) this work and these people bother every dancer, no matter how levelheaded. So, yes, time off for thinking and perspective and figuring out the next step. And hugs for you.

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    Sorry things are going so bad right now for you....Stay in the game while you are still good at it - take a break, and learn to be a city driver. You can't be worse than me and I drive to Houston to work and do just fine. The city will love you, good luck and best wishes to your friend. I hope the girls at your old club learn to grow up, hope they don't have children.

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    I'm sorry you're going through so much all at one time. Time for a breather hun. Rather than drive into Philly, what about South Jersey clubs.

    I'm from up North NJ so I'm not familiar with the clubs down there, but maybe that's worth a look see? Totally different than driving in Philly.

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    ***hugs***

    I would definately allow yourself a couple weeks off, as long as you can deal with it financially. Sounds like to need some time to think and relax.

    Maybe then you can figure things out, possibly check out some club in Philly (there has got to be couple club that don't require hard-core city driving). I hope things get better for you hunny
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    Definite Hugs********

    The girls are right, imho, a change of scenery and a nice rest is in order, if you are in a financially stable enough position to do so. More than ever, this could be an ideal opportunity to refocus on yourself, your pleasure and your happiness. Is there anywhere nice you'd like to take a holiday? Even a little one, somewhere warm, and bright and sunny (or whatever gives you the most satisfaction!) A few days totally out of the familiar, and a longer break from the drama at work...

    Can you look into clubs in Philly in a small way? internet, or just call on the phone? And city driving? maybe invest in some kind of refresher driving lessons to build on your confidence?

    If you feel strong and healthy your ability to deal with your friend will improve hopefully too!

    ***Sorry for the self help guide advice from me*** Good Luck!!!

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    I used to be a terrified city driver too. But I promise it gets easier when you know where you're going. Learn the area, study mapquest to find where you're going, and maybe take a friend to help you the first time? Once you figure out the directions really well, it's less overwhelming. Seriously, I went from hysteria in driving downtown Ottawa to being able to drive around Montreal and Toronto (a comparison much better understood by those familiar with Montreal drivers). Just be defensive.

    And I am so sorry for all the stress and trouble you're under. When friends hurt themselves...it's so hard. Good for you for being there for her. I hope things get better for you.

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    Don't bother with south Jersey. If you're willing to drive to central Jersey's Monmouth or Middlesex County there are steady clubs there.

    I recommend CH 2, Risque Philly, Cheerleaders and Risque Bristol (Bucks county). Philly is very easy to navigate. It's laid out in a strict grid pattern and much of it is numbered. The clubs I mentioned are all on or very close to major thoroughfares.

    DON'T WORRY, babydoll. This too shall pass. You have to get to more professional clubs with professional dancers who come to work for money not entertainment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist
    Don't bother with south Jersey. If you're willing to drive to central Jersey's Monmouth or Middlesex County there are steady clubs there.

    I recommend CH 2, Risque Philly, Cheerleaders and Risque Bristol (Bucks county). Philly is very easy to navigate. It's laid out in a strict grid pattern and much of it is numbered. The clubs I mentioned are all on or very close to major thoroughfares.

    DON'T WORRY, babydoll. This too shall pass. You have to get to more professional clubs with professional dancers who come to work for money not entertainment.
    Yeah, I wasn't too sure about that so I was hoping someone would chime in with something useful.

    Driving in Philly didn't seem like it was too bad when we were there for a concert, but what about parking? Do the clubs have lots?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Classic'sMontana
    I am thinking about Philadelphia. It isn't that far from here (45 mins), but I am a nervous city driver. (ok I admit it... a TERRIFIED city driver) I don't know Philly. I don't know where I would fit in there.
    I drive about 45 minutes one-way to Philadelphia. You do get used to it after awhile and actually start to like it.

    Lots of Philly clubs are on the outside of the city, so you can get off 76 or 95 and be almost right there. Remember, they have to be easy for customer to get to as well!

    You might like Club Risque, Show N Tel, Oasis or CH2 They are right off the highways. Super easy to get to and each has its own parking lot. Center city is intimidating to drive and park in, but there aren't that many clubs anyway in taht area.

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    Thanks for your support guys. It really does help to vent.

    I am going to try to visit some Philly clubs.

    but I am going to take the rest of the week to regroup.


    Thanks for the advice.

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    I'm so sorry girl!! I hope you find a good club..I take it the club you didn't "follow through" with was GC?? I have no idea how it is now .. as I haven't worked there since summer. But one of the things I liked the most was the complete LACK of drama. and still decentish $. Philly is good though.. i would suggest risque since it RIGHT off 95 same with show n' tel. (i'd take risque of s&t anyday though) good luck!!
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    Just don't wait too long because this is the yummiest season in PA/NJ. Don't miss out on those bonuses, office parties, and holiday goodwill tippers!

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