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    So I went to a club and auditioned and I got the job and I worked for one and a half nights. I actually just walked out of the club two hours after I started working on my second night (which was tonight) and had done only one stage dance.
    There were a couple of things that I was not expecting. All of the girls kept going up to the guys and sitting on their laps and grinding on them (even though its against the rules). (I also dont want to sit on some nasty guys lap for an extended and have to beg to give him a lapdance if I'm not going to get money from them) They also rub their boobs in the guys faces like...all the time. A lot of the time the girls didn't even get anything out of their behavior.(no tips, no going in the booth for the lapdance) I mean, of course some girls did this and it did end up in a lapdance. It seems like that is the only way to get one though. I tried asking guys if they wanted a dance after talking to them for a little bit and acting like I cared about their lives, and they were like, "no maybe later" or "I dont have that money on me right now" or "thats too much (its only$25)"and I'm an attractive girl, so I really dont get it. I guess I thought that guys came to strip clubs to get lap dances. Another thing that I didn't know about and I dont think it was mentioned on your site was the "tip walk." The bar seperates the guys from the stage, so you have to go around and ask guys for a tip for your dance. And then they feel you up before giving you a goddamn dollar.
    I just dont feel comfortable grinding with old men that remind me of my uncles. Its against the rules in our club-there is only one bouncer who actually enforces those rules and the only guy that works there that doesnt try to feel me up as I walk by. This bouncer was telling me about how come girls will take the grinding fines and just go home with a customer because shed get paid a hell of a lot more than the 50 dollar fine that the club "charges" for that stuff. So pretty much a lot of the girls are prostitutes. A lot of them rub guys off in the dark corners of the club.
    And even though its supposed to be a topless only club, a lot of the girls will pretty much take their underwear off and give the guys a free show of their pussies. I've been very observant, and whether the girls are wearing stringy little thongs or boyshorts, and either show their pussies or dont, the guys always just give a dollar.
    Is this the norm, or was this first club I went to to dance just a bad club?
    I have no problems dancing topless and giving "appropriate" lapdances. I left the club crying tonight because I thought I had to grind with and literally shove my tits into guys faces, and rub guys off in the corner. I love dancing and I don't mind a little bit of touching (say putting some money in my thong or top). Is there supposed to be more than that? Maybe I'm just misunderstanding what a stripper is supposed to do, but I definitely didn't expect what happened.

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    Default Re: first night horror story! help! should i keep dancing, but somewhere else?

    Poor thing, rough night It sounds like you are in a club that you don't belong in. If I were you, and still wanted to dance after all that, I would find a club that is more your speed. I don't know your area, but I am sure they are out there.

    I remember my first night dancing, the club I chose was a smaller club which made me feel more comfortable, but had things going on that I wasn't comfortable with at all! I backed out of there fast and found one I could work in.

    Even in our town every club is a bit different, granted most of them out here allow some contact, and DURING lap dances the girls sit on laps and I have been known to let a guy stick his head between my breasts (if he's behaving). But there are clubs here that are more reserved...so look around until you find the spot that's right for you.
    Good Luck!
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    Ny heart goes out to you, girl--and I'm also really glad you didn't start in the club I just left, lol...

    Which was basically a whorehouse, for anywhere between 55-75% of the dancers on any given night, and certainly a larger proportion of the customers. I will never forget the time I was concerned about whether the next dancer would make it to the stage (something I never have toworry about in my new club, thank god) so afeter touring the club, the dressing room, etc., I ducked into the little private dance room to see if I could discretely spot them--we always skipped dancers in VIP, which was cool for them.

    There she was, along with the next girl in rotation, down on their knees, heads bobbing--so I was like 'OK, skip those two'--we always skipped dancers in VIP, which was cool for them. It was actually funny--I mean what else am I going to do, get pissed and lose my job?

    So I laughed it off, went back to the booth, and forgot all about it, 'til the next day.

    Don't even get me started about Lola, the 53 year old Asian hooker (who as it turned out had all the cab drivers bringing her guys).

    But seriously, I frequently saw women who'd been dancing in many clubs for many years, in tears because they couldn't take this environment any more--how to continuously stop guys, all night, with all that going on 2-3 feet away. And I had to get them to dance the next song. It was rough sometimes.

    Try to get into a cleaner club, and you'll make more money because you'll be less stressed. In some areas this is next to impossible, but usually with a little effort, you can find something a little more to your nature.

    I hope this helped, I'm a little spacey after work now.
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    Default Re: first night horror story! help! should i keep dancing, but somewhere else?

    Don't give up - not every club is like this. You are going to probably have to grind on nasty-uncle type guys at some point during a lap dance - but don't do it for FREE!! Don't settle for a whorehouse if its the first place you tried. Keep looking.

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    yes, listen to pooka. she is wise.
    shop around.

    Love it!

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    Default Re: first night horror story! help! should i keep dancing, but somewhere else?

    awww! doesnt sound like yer comfortable at all..i wouldbt be either!

    i think u shud try to find another club. (obviously) haha. its not yer fault u picked the wrong club that u didnt feel comfortable in. dont give up! many clubs are very different, and jus cuz u dont like one club,. doesnt mean u shud be discouraged on dancing.(my club is ok, but kind of annoying, and it discourages me, i think "ugh, shud i even be a stripper"? but i think i jus have to find a club i really like and feel comfortbale with)

    so goodluck! u prolly wont make that much money in that club, since most guys want alot of "touching/grinding" and u say alot of the girls there are prositutes.

    goodluck finding another one!!! keep your head up!
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    Quote Originally Posted by peacegirl104
    So I went to a club and auditioned and I got the job and I worked for one and a half nights. I actually just walked out of the club two hours after I started working on my second night (which was tonight) and had done only one stage dance.

    There were a couple of things that I was not expecting. All of the girls kept going up to the guys and sitting on their laps and grinding on them (even though its against the rules)...And even though its supposed to be a topless only club, a lot of the girls will pretty much take their underwear off and give the guys a free show of their pussies...Maybe I'm just misunderstanding what a stripper is supposed to do, but I definitely didn't expect what happened.
    Unfortunately, sex sells and for every customer who comes into the club for a laugh and to see some attractive topless girls, there'll be another who's after more of a view or "being rubbed off in a dark corner".

    If there's a need to be filled some dancers will fill the need. You're only comfortable being topless; other girls are happy to do the rubbing. (As you say, they walk away with more money).

    Management will often turn a blind eye because it puts bums on seats and increases their profits - charging grinding fines is just a way of making more income out of activities they are in effect condoning.

    All you can do is decide where your personal limits lay and stick to them. There's no point in going outside of them and being personally uncomfortable - life's too short.

    But in setting your limits, you'll restrict the number of lap dances you do. A significant number of the guys do want to be rubbed off in dark corners, and won't buy lap dances from girls that don't go outside the limits. That's why they're making excuses. Nothing to do with your appearance, and everything to do with your personal definition of what's accceptable and what's not.

    Doon't get too despondent about it - even those customer's who'll stick to your personal lmiits and don't want a dance are turning you down as an entertainer, not as a person. It could be that you're not to the guy's personal taste. Some guy's like blondes, some like brunettes. Some guys like small breasts, some guys like large ones. You're not going to appeal to every customer, but you should appeal to a good part of those who come in. Don't take rejection personally.

    (And those that want more than topless: well you don't want those as a customer anyway - so they're no loss to you).

    The underlying problem won't go away however - there will always be a class of customer who walks into a strip club with sex rather than entertainment in mind. You'll have to learn to deal with it by leaving that sort of customer to the girls who're happy with more contact. You'll also have to learn to deal with the knowledge that other girls are doing what makes you personally uncomfortable.

    It's not all bad - there are some guy's who don't want heavy grinding or to see under your knickers. All you've got to do is find them. It might be that you've got to go to another more strictly controlled club; it might be that you can develop regulars at the club you're at who will stay within your limits.

    Get set in your mind what your limits are and stick to them. Shop around for regulars who'll respect your boundaries, or shop around for a club that will. If you can work and feel comfortable doing it, keep on dancing. If you still feel uncomfortable a little bit further down the road then stop dancing.

    It's your life, and you've got to take the decisions that leave you feeling at ease with yourself.

    Phil.

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    In some regions this is normal, in others it is rare. It all depends on where you are as to what is expected as far as contact goes.

    Nothing like getting slapped in the face with the reality of the strip club customer's desires. And like will breed like. Word gets around that extras are offered in your club and/or region, so the "nice guys" will stay away, and you're left with only the extras and full service seeking customers.

    I recommend that every new dancer NOT got to the club that is reputed to be the best money. Usually the clubs that can consistantly earn a dancer $500+ a shift on a regualr basis, the dancers likely will have to at least offer some pretty hard one way contact, if not two way contact. (there are always exceptions to this, of course)

    Go to the club that the other dancers bitch about being "too strict". You won't make $1000.00 a shift, but you won't leave in tears because of the abuse from the customers.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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