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    It was the start of my Saturday night and a bunch of guys came in to celebrate one of their friend’s recent engagement. So one of the guys brought me over to the guy who’s getting married soon to take him for a dance, and the expression on his face was one of dissatisfaction and his friend sitting next to him had a similar expression. He was really hesitant and said, “Nah, I’m looking for somebody else to get a dance from.” He also said, “I want to choose a dancer that I like.” So I said ok, smiled, and turned to get ready to move on but the guy who brought me over to the table pulled on my hand to stay while he asked his friend why not because he was offering to pay for him. Only then, the guy said “Fine only because I don’t have to pay for it.” So I took him back for the dance and he was very uncomfortable. His posture was tense and his legs were crossed, etc. I started to dance and I slowly unwrapped his unwelcoming posture during our dance. Towards the end of the dance he said that my dance was the best dance he had all night and my body moved exactly how he likes it, yadda yadda. So I said, and to think you almost missed out because you judged me solely on my appearance. I could see he felt bad after I said that and apologized for his behavior earlier after he told me his type was white girls. He tipped me double what his friend who paid for the dance gave me and asked me to join him and his friend at their table so he can tell his friend about me and what not.

    I didn’t go back to his table because I didn’t want to feel like I had to prove anything to this guy’s friend after the face expression that resembled the one of when you smell spoil milk. How would you have handled the situation? Would you have even suck it up and danced for the guy like I did? I would just like to know for future reference if there is/are better ways to deal with a situation like this.

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    Hey, you made double right? And the guy even apolgized, when often they don't think they have to. I think you handled it well.

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    Wow. I think you handled it beautifully! I can't think of a better way to do it... you showed grace and class, corrected a misperception, and made even more money! What could possibly make it better?

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    ^^ exactly. you acted professional and classy. I don't know if i would have been so nice...
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    I have to say you're a better woman than I would have been. If that had happened to me, I would have just walked off and not have wasted my time. For me, when it comes to customers that I know right from the get go that aren't interested in me, I bail outta there and look for someone else just because in MY experience I don't have the patience like you do. I think you handled yourself very well, much better than a lot of us dancers IMO, you should be very proud of yourself!!! And, hahahaha, glad that guy not only tipped you double, he also ate his own words!!! How awesome is that!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    Wow. I think you handled it beautifully! I can't think of a better way to do it... you showed grace and class, corrected a misperception, and made even more money! What could possibly make it better?
    I feel like I missed out on potential sales from that group because I didn't have the patience and motivation to follow up. I guess all the shoulda coulda wouldas are going through my mind now when they shouldn't.

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    20 dollars (or 40, or 35, or whatever) is not worth your dignity.

    Asshats will be asshats, but we are lucky enough to work where we can tell them to fuck themselves. How politely you want to say it is up to you.

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    I think you handled it quite profoundly.

    P.S. - That was short!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherry_sin
    20 dollars (or 40, or 35, or whatever) is not worth your dignity.

    Asshats will be asshats, but we are lucky enough to work where we can tell them to fuck themselves. How politely you want to say it is up to you.
    I would agree with this if she would have stood there "pleading" with them to get a dance...

    But, I think you handled it beautifully, vivadiva!! I wouldn't worry about the money missed after that...you showed them that you were better than what they thought...and you did it with class, dignity, and poise!! Bravo!

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    I would not have handled the situation with as much grace and poise as you did.

    I think you did great! Don't worry about leaving money behind. You changed one person's mind, and that is not easily accomplished. That is enough for one shift as SUPER-STRIPPER, cultural warrior!


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    And now, maybe he will love t3h ethnic chickies too!
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    I'm too sensitive to facial expressions and I probably would have scurried off. You are awesome for sticking around and doing your thing regardless and the result was perfect.

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    Yeah, I also think you did the right thing.

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    ditto. don't beat yourself up over potential sales loss. you did the best anyone could in the situation. kudos!

    Love it!

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    Thanks to everyone for all the positive feedback thus far!!! I'm over the shoulda, coulda, wouldas now You ladies made me realize that all I should be at this point is proud of how I handled that situation in a diplomatic way.

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