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    Default My first fight. My first stalker. All in one night. (very long)

    Well as I mentioned in a previous thread I got a willy pulled out at me.... Hah... If that was only the end.

    I worked my first (and last) Sunday and man.... I'm just going to stick to my Tuesdays and Fridays.

    I had my first fight with a customer! I am very passive... To the point where if someone is touching me I cant even tell them to stop I just move away... But of course after the guy wippin out his wang I've gotten a little more... Well.. agressive.

    Some guys insisted on blowing all over my entire body calling it the best blow job I had.... Paleeasse.... So I get away from that creep and I'm dancing for another guy and the guy interupts my dance! Ugh... So whatever moneys money... I dance for blow job asshole to get off my back.... Not only was he being so crude (calling me a bitch etc...) other custys were ready to jump but he had the nerve to try and denie paying me and then asked for change. For the first time in my life I threw a fit at a customer and I even said something about him not even tipping me for treating me like a whore!

    Well after that happened I was quite over whelmed in emotion. I went straight to the dressing room and flipped telling what happened and for NO girls to dance for him.

    I was so overwhelmed I almost missed my stage set. I said something to housedaddy later when he asked me what was up. Again... like always I got the "come and get us we'll kick him out"

    ....Well it doesnt end there.

    So some other customer sees my hard time and buys me Shirley Temples (I'm under 21) and pays me 20's to sit with him. He was so nice to me all interested in what I like to do (college crap) and my son etc.... Even when I danced for him he just wanted me to dance infront of him. Not on him.

    Well after I go and dance for him again he starts all of a sudden rubbing my nipples etc. I ask him kindly to stop and that I wouldnt want him to get kicked out etc... He does it SOMEMORE!!! Finally the dance is over (I dont offer another) and I tell him I need to go fix my contacts (I dont wear contacts..) so I come out of the dressing room and I really had no intention of going right over to him... I had a drink there but we closed it by ending the dance and me going to the dressing room.

    I go and talk with these 2 wicked cute guys... We get talking and we know mutual people... I'm havin fun.... ALL OF A SUDDEN the nipple rubbin creep comes over and just sits there WAITING for me. I tell him I'm just cathcing up with some highschool friends (lie that they went along with...) and that I was leaving soon (my shift WAS over)

    Creepy asshole waits outside the dressing room and by then my dumb ass has gone over 48 hours without my prozac and I'm about to throw up from anxiety. I feel betrayed and discusted.

    I get myself together and with cellphone and keys in hand the bouncer escorts me to my car allowing me to go out through the next buildings parking lot and I tell him I swear to god no one leaves this building till I have driven out of sight. The bouncer agrees.

    Later I call the club to speak with a friend who saw the guy get all flustered when I excaped out the back (he was trying to follow me out the front)

    Man....

    It was a rough night. I mean I made good money and all but all and all it was just a hard night. Enough where I almost handed over the key to my locker.

    Theres this girl there... she calls me the "normal girl" and I always just thought it was because I wasnt sexy or something... just average but now I realise I'm the normal girl because my emotion runs strong... I am me inside and outside the club and I care way to much.... Nothing can be brushed off my sholder because I wear my heart on my sleeve.

    I guess I'm the normal girl because I take offence to a man treating me like a whore and a man risking my safety.... My friends say I will never be fit to be a stripper but I think I'm just not fit to be an actress... Stripping isnt just about dancing its not just about a nice body or sexy moves.... Its about something else... Something else I dont have.


    What a blog.

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    Default Re: My first fight. My first stalker. All in one night. (very long)

    Wow, rough night. *hugs* It's gotta get better, right?
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

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    Quote Originally Posted by sxybrat07
    Wow, rough night. *hugs* It's gotta get better, right?
    Yeeeeeeeaaaaaa.... riiiiiight.

    Don't be talking about personal shit on the first meeting! Movies politics music ... anything but personal shit until you know the guy a little better.

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    Default Re: My first fight. My first stalker. All in one night. (very long)

    You should never put up with anyone touching you inappropriately... you need to speak up for yourself... Always be aware of someone's hands going toward places it shouldn't be.. be agressive when it comes to assholes like that..

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    Glad you are ok. At least now hopefully you know not to say certain things to ANY customer.

    Things Id like to share:
    *Dont accept a drink if you did not see it ordered in front of you. Many girls have been drugged over carelessness. No need for another.
    *Dont share personal information. If you do one day use your personal judgment at your highest discretion.
    *You dont have to dance with anyone you dont want to. Furthermore, if youve told someone to stop doing something you can end your dance and collect funds right then and there. Hopefully you have good bouncers.

    Everyone makes mistakes in the beginning. God knows many SW's have too. Learn from them, be wise and move on.
    you live like an ivy vine
    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
    -Kenpachi



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    Aww, I'm sorry, muffin. No one should have to go through that and it's crap that the club didn't toss him out for being a creep. If he comes in again, I'll give him a PA with my stiletto. Sound good?

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    I'll join you rozz, this thread makes me want to whoop some ass!

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    If people try to push your buttons - do things you do not want they are trying to see how strong or weak you are.

    Once they find out and if they think you are weak or passive they will try to take as much advantage as possible.

    It's like how they say dogs smell fear - some men sniff out passive girls to abuse.

    Don't ever let them do anything you don't want, and don't give in verbally either, they will think they found a goldmine. Not even money is worth it. Walk away from creepy people and DON'T worry about what they think of you. You don't have to impress them or soothe their ego. Be a bitch at least for a little while.

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    ^^^Right. That makes me so angry but it's more important if YOU get angry and act angry with these pieces of shit!

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    Default Re: My first fight. My first stalker. All in one night. (very long)

    I completly understand where your coming from. Ive always had stalkers since Ive been dancing. I can tell them nothing and they find me somehow. Its scary and dangerous. Ive had to change clubs before because of it. If he comes back and this continues you should consider going somewhere else for a while or a restraining order. But becareful in the future and trust your instinct. If there is something not right about the guy then move on quickly. As you get better at reading men you will be able to spot them a mile away.

    Always be on your guard at the club. These men cannot be trusted. Good luck I hope things get better for you.

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    it really sounds like you need to be proactive, not reactive. From this and most of your previous posts, it sounds like you've adopted the habit of taking a ton of shit from everyone, being really passive, and letting all the suppressed anger/frustration/depression come exploding out at inopportune times (i.e. spilling it in the dressing room). But this way of being only hurts you while letting the creeps take advantage, immobilize you and run all over you. Never, ever show weakness or passivity to a customer. Most will take that as a signal to abuse you (and for as little $$ as possible).

    Toughen up, and don't let assholes get away with...well...being assholes. Why do you not stand up for yourself? Are you afraid of hurting their feelings? Don't be. They're not thinking about your feelings when they're grabbing your breasts or waiting by the front door to follow you home. So stop giving a damn about them and stop taking so much crap.

    When the perv started touching your nipples, you should have ended the dance. MAYBE give one warning, IF you're feeling particularly charitible, but certainly no more than that. They know the rules and choose to try and break them (which includes violating you)? You end the dance early and walk away with their $$--they lose. (Make sure you get the $$ up front).

    I'm sorry if this sounds offensive, but from a lot of your posts, you sound like an easy mark. If the sleazy custys can sense this too, it explains why you might be getting a lot more shit than others. I empathize with the whole wearing your heart on your sleeve thing, that definitely used to be me as well. But you can change that, and when you do, you'll find yourself getting a lot less attention from people who are looking for an easy mark to get away with as much as possible with. And life in the club will be a lot easier.

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    You sound like me when I first started dancing.I would even use the contacts problem and not return to a guy like you wrote.After awhile you will be able to sense who stay clear of by their looks and first words with the guy.Good luck ,eventually you will get better at dealing with the stribclub -rotten pervert guys.

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