OK this actually occured months ago, but I just thought of it and wanted to know what you guys thought. Back in the summer, my same-age cousin got married and everyone completely left me out of the wedding.
My cousin used to be one of my best friends. We hung out together all the time when we were preteens/early teens, and would invite each other to our school dances and stuff even though we went to different schools. Then we drifted apart but no real hard feelings. I'd only seen her twice in the past 9 years...once 6 yrs ago when she happened to visit me at a store I was working at, and then once in the past year, at my mother's funeral. Both times, she seemed cool with me and we conversed about our current lives. At the funeral last February, she told me that she was engaged(she brought her fiance along) and was getting married sometime later that year. Fast forward to about August...I was talking to my dad about my OTHER cousin's upcoming wedding, and asked casually, "Just curious, when's "Molly" getting married?" My dad just kinda said "eh, that was a few weeks ago" and tried to quickly change the subject. I was like "OMG why didn't anyone tell me?" but didn't care too much, because I figured that no one in my family went to the wedding, since my immediate family didn't deal much with our relatives anyway.
Then I find out that EVERYONE in my family went to the wedding EXCEPT me. She'd purposely printed out invitations with everyones' name on it except mine. WTF? If anything, I had been the one in my family that was closest to her. It's not like I'd done anything wrong to her, I hadn't even seen her in 9yrs except for 2 occasions in which we were cool. Why? I wonder if my bitchy aunt, or our shared maternal grandmother(our moms were sisters), had something to do with this. Remember when I told you guys about how my mom previously disowned me a few years ago? Well, my grandmother was the one who'd been pushing for her to do that(later right before my mom passed away, she profusely apologized and told me that she later realized it was a mistake disowning me). Do you think my grandmother told my cousin the same untrue fallacies/assumptions she'd told my mom before?
Just had to vent! Also, what would be the best way to handle the situation? I'm guessing that it is to completely ignore them and have nothing to do with them(which I'd been doing for about 9yrs anyway, not intentionally but just because we had separate lives). Oh, and also to disinvite her from my wedding someday or any other similar celebration that involves family. But should I disinvite her only, or should I extend that disinvitation to my bitchy aunt and moderately nice grandmother?(I suspect they might have been involved in telling her to disinvite me, but I'm not sure) This is so annoying. I'm not that bad of a person, yet my family always seems out to make me feel like a criminal!I go through such great lengths to please them, such as by hiding things like implants or stripping, and sometimes I feel that it is a waste of effort. My family is making me feel similar to how a middle school clique makes an outcast/pariah feel.
Any suggestions or comments?


I go through such great lengths to please them, such as by hiding things like implants or stripping, and sometimes I feel that it is a waste of effort. My family is making me feel similar to how a middle school clique makes an outcast/pariah feel.
Any suggestions or comments?
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