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    I worked at an old club of mine a couple of nights ago, and while few customers wanted dances, many wanted to buy me drinks.

    Would you guys consider it rude if a dancer said, "Thank you for your offer, but I would prefer it you just tipped me instead." I mean, tipping the dancer for the value of the drink.

    I don't finish the drinks anyway. I'm trying to stop drinking at work and I'd rather just have the money for my time/effort anyways.

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    Default Re: Turning Down Drinks for Tips Instead???

    Quote Originally Posted by AkashaM
    Would you guys consider it rude if a dancer said, "Thank you for your offer, but I would prefer it you just tipped me instead." I mean, tipping the dancer for the value of the drink.
    Nope, not at all.

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    I honestly would rather tip them. At our club the waitresses go around asking if you want to "Buy this pretty lady a drink". Most of them take a few sips (its a juice bar) and walk off. I never skip the chance to be nice to the dancers tho.

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    i'll only accept a drink if i might make money off of the guy from sitting with him. if he's made it clear that he "just wants to drink" i ALWAYS tell them i'd rather have the tip AFTER saying how thankful i am for the offer. of course, i say it a nice/friendly/fun way. 95% of the time, it works and i get 5 bucks or so. doesn't sound like much, but it adds up. we're not there to sit and drink. it's not a regular nightclub. i think it's far more rude to let them buy you a drink you don't want. you wind up leaving it there or slamming it and walking away.

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    ^^ Penny's got it right.

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    I dunno - I'm never rude about it, but I kind of got over the idea that a guy buying me a drink is buying an excessive block of my time or tying me to him. I feel perfectly okay walking away and leaving the drink or taking it with me. Again, I don't do it rudely or to be rude, but.... well, my theory goes as such: we are not on a date. All guys in strip clubs KNOW we are not on a date. I am there to sell the dance. If they don't want the dance, they don't have to get one. If they are buying me a drink they are doing it to be nice, and I can accept that courtesy with courtesy but without looking at it as a financial transaction between the customer and me. If the customer wanted to buy my time or company we have a series of mechanisms in place for him to do so. The drink - as he knows - is not one of them.

    That being said, however, I do not generally find that guys are as willing to just hand me the cash. If they were, my working night would be 10x easier.
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    I would usually just tell them, "oh thank you for the offer but I just had a drink. I dont think my body can handle another. But, since I'm already nice and tipsy how about a dance" That has worked. I've also asked them to tip me instead of buying the drink as well. Not to often, but it has worked in my favor too.







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    I like your style Cinnamon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
    I would usually just tell them, "oh thank you for the offer but I just had a drink. I dont think my body can handle another. But, since I'm already nice and tipsy how about a dance" That has worked. I've also asked them to tip me instead of buying the drink as well. Not to often, but it has worked in my favor too.
    What if they say then "Well, then can I give you a 5 pound slab of olive loaf?"

    Whats your snappy answer NOW, Miss Smartypant??

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prester_John
    What if they say then "Well, then can I give you a 5 pound slab of olive loaf?"

    Whats your snappy answer NOW, Miss Smartypant??
    Hmm lol..I'd say, "sure but do have any pastrami and cheese to go along with it? After all this dancing I've been doing, I'm starving"







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    I let them buy me the damn drink. Its part of their seduction fantasy. Yes, its all a lie, but its their fantasy. I've tried the "tip me instead" approach and it kills the mood. Let them get you the drink, chat them up 1-2 dances, then go in for the kill. If he isn't going to bite after 2 songs, he is wasting your time. Excuse yourself and leave the drink there, unfinished...

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    At my current club we arent allowed to turn down drinks. If he asks when theres nobody to hear and I dont want one..I'll tell him I'd rather dance first and work up a thirst....that works quite a bit.
    Otherwise...I take the drink. Many times its a stepping stone to dancing for some guys...they want to chat and have a drink with you before jumping into spending. If after one drink I get the feeling that he isnt going to get a dance...I'm up and away. Unless of course i just WANT another...lol!
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    No problem for me. Besides I can't imagine how you could drink several drinks every night and not develop a problem or put on weight. Your dancing and entertaining for money not beverages. If you want a drink take it, if not ask and I would'nt think twice to give you the $$ equivilent. However don't runaway right after taking the $$ over the drink. I would imagine that the waitresses would not like this though. Less tips for them.

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    ^^Ehh, we aren't there for the waitresses. Likewise, the waitresses don't care if we'd rather have the money instead of the drink - they just want to sell the drink. It's a moot point.

    It depends on the club / area. In some places, the drink is just a necessary part of the hustle. Get a virgin drink to avoid having too much booze. Work it out with the waitress and he will not know the difference - it's the act of drinking/socializing with them they care most about, not you getting drunk. But, act a little silly if they're the kind who want you to get drunk. It's still just part of their fantasy, same way they want you to suck their dicks at that instant, but you're not gonna do that either, right?

    In other places, especially wannadance clubs, drinking and hanging out with the custies isn't necessary or even very common. So go ahead and tell them thanks for the offer but you'd rather have the cash or a dance instead. My club is very much a wannadance club, and I always smart off something like "eh, I don't need any booze to have fun here", giggle, shove boobs up under his nose "so I can dance for you now?"

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    No problem with me, although I'm sure a lot of clubowners wouldn't be so cool about it.

    Personally, I'd prefer to contribute that money towards the cost of a dance considering customers here pay $10-100 for a dancer "drink" in addition to the bar price of the actual drink.
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    B, isn't it true in Phoenix and some other cities that dancers cannot legally drink on shift? That makes it so much easier.

    FYI, in Houston, the custys definately wanted to get the girl drunk, no facade there. Since extras are common, its just that much easier to get them out of a drunk dancer. If I declined a drink, custy would get suspicious. So I would either just take a sip, or get virgin.

    And rcw, many strippers do have alcohol problems, its very widespread and tragic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    I let them buy me the damn drink. Its part of their seduction fantasy. Yes, its all a lie, but its their fantasy. I've tried the "tip me instead" approach and it kills the mood. Let them get you the drink, chat them up 1-2 dances, then go in for the kill. If he isn't going to bite after 2 songs, he is wasting your time. Excuse yourself and leave the drink there, unfinished...
    Kat, I like your approach.

    Personally, I'd rather spend the money on a dance, too, but a couple dancers I know will ask for a drink, and I'm glad to oblige. (After all, they know I'm a total PL and will also pay for a dance!)

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    As a customer, I'd consider it rude. That statement tells me right off that she didn't give a darn about my company...just my money. Let's face it though, all most of the girls do care about is my cash but a strip club is mostly fantasy anyways. You could at least pretend to be interested in us. The only exception I'd make to that rule would be with the shot girl. If I offered to by her a shot ($5.00 bucks at my local club) and she asked if she could take the tip, it would be ok. In fact, I usually buy her a shot and tip her $5.00, unless I'm low on cash. Then i give her the choice.

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    Thanks for your input, everyone!
    I understand not every guy will like it. I'm not even sure what I would say if put in this situation, LOL.

    In the end however, I can't work for drinks when I have two guinea pigs to support! LOL.

    The club that prompted me to ask this question is a "Cheers"like spot where the guys always say, "I dont get dances but I'll buy you drinks."

    If a guy reacted, "Oh, you're only here for the money." I wouldnt want him as a customer anyways. Of course I'm here for the money, no one works for free. Its an entirely different thing to try to make a dancer feel guilty for "wanting the money."

    Furthermore, I wouldnt just take your cash and bounce once you gave it to me, I would still hang out and chat for a while as you did pay for my time. The saying "time is money" TRULY applies in a strip club.

    On the flip side, I really do enjoy the company & conversation of most customers, all I'm putting out there really is if a customer enjoys spending time with me, $5 cash says alot more than a $10 vodka tonic that I dont want in the first place.
    On that same note, no amount of money will make me stay with an asshole customer either, lol.

    If you had no plans on buying a dance (unless I convice you otherwise) but offered a drink and I turned it down and asked for a small tip instead, what would you want to hear that doesnt sound rude or tacky?

    I find it hard to discuss money and still sound graceful--I feel like I end up going into accountant mode, LOL.
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    Seeing that I like drinking, Id rather have a drink and the dances. hehehehe. oops!

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    Usually if the girl is willing to sit and have a drink with me, I'm going to give her 1 or 2 dances. I appreciate the company and I don't want to waste her time. But technically, a tip is a bonus for services rendered. If I just give her the money for the price of the drink, it's not really a tip. I just gave her some money. (Does this make any sense...I'll kind of drunk at the moment and I'm not sure

    P.S. - I have had girls come up and ask if I'd buy them a drink. After I do, they ask if I'd like a dance. When I told them "not at the moment", they'd say thanks for the drink and take off. Total time of conatct, 30 seconds. What's up with that?

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    How much I tip depends on mileage and other factors.
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    Personally I don't care. I don't drink alcohol everytime I go to the club myself. Obviously I'll be more loose with my money when I do drink though. On to the point, I always offer a drink when a girl sits next to me. None of them have ever said no. However if I finish my drink and I see she's babysitting I'll ask if she likes to drink. If they say they don't really like to drink I'll ask if she wants a soda or a non-alcaholic drink. If she says she's not thirsty I'll order my drink and tip her whatever's left over. This varies with what I order say if I'm drinking my sprites they'll make more money chilling with me, but it'll take a little longer to get me to buy the dance. If I'm drinking Coronas they get less on those tips, but more than likely I'll get the dances sooner. Then you throw in the conversation, the more they talk the less I talk, and the more I drink, hence more tips for them cuz I'll drink more. Also the better I get along with the girl will lead to me getting more dances because I won't mind taking a break between every 2 dances and conversate till the next rd. Wow, now that I read what I do I gotta say I spend a lot of money regardless of what I do at the strip club. LOL. Sorry, I like to rant sometimes. Bottom line I don't really care as long as they're up front about it.

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    I wouldn't be offended, but I would probably tip less than the cost of the drink. If you're sitting at my table already, chances are you're gonna get a dance, and unless you totally suck, you're gonna get more than one. And I always tip on top of what is owed for the dance, and it's weird when girls are surprised that I would tip them a buck or two on top of the ten or twenty I paid for the one dance. When I go to the strip clubs, my bar tab is on my credit card, and my cash is for the girls. And I usually only ask them if they want a drink, just so they aren't excluded when everyone else at the table is about to do a shot or have a drink.

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    Would it be better for us customers to ask; can I buy you a drink or do you just want the money, instead of the standard can I buy you a drink?

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