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    If anyone recalls, I'm just not feeling the dating thing right now:
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=77314

    There is this nice boy in Houston, D, that I invited to my company's Xmas party next weekend. I invited him a while ago. I saw him in Htown for Thanksgiving the other day, and I just am not feeling him, or anyone, right now. I don't want to take a date to the party at all.

    But he lives in Houston, I live here in ATX, so he is expecting to come down for the night. Not only do we have plans to go together, I have to have him as a guest for the night.

    He is a perfectly lovely individual, nothing is wrong with him. I just really want to be alone. Any advice? Should I just keep the date and no stir things up for now?

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    Well, I'd cancel.
    Just make up an excuse and go with it.
    I mean - when you say "guest for the night" - do we mean on the sofa kind of guest? If we do not - cancel, cancel cancel. Cancel. I disapprove of having sex that you don't want.
    If he is - meh. Just cancel. You're not feeling it, it won't be that fun, and you'll be relieved when he's gone. You can just skip the middle part and be relieved that he isn't coming in the first place.
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    ^Yea, I'd just cancel. Why entertain someone you don't want to? I highly doubt he'd want to be your guest if he knew he was unwanted anyways. You'd be doing you both a favor.
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    Being the lady the that I am. I will kindly tell him, I am sorry for the last minute cancelation. I am going thru some things. I will like some along along time. Please excuse me. But hey there always next year.
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    Yeah, I already did this to him a couple of weeks ago. He was supposed to come to town just to visit, and I wasn't feeling it, so I told him to stay home, just a few hours before. That's another reason I need to decide ASAP what to do. It would be nice to have a date for the party, everyone else is........

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    If a cupcake was tossed at me... well, I'd only be upset if it missed my mouth

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    Katrine is seems like you are going thru a faze. Where you need a guy who will let you play him like a yo-yo. (Do you remember that toy).

    DO you have any male friends. That wont try anything with you, that will go to have a good time. I will just go to the party by myself. Sometimes dating can draining. I be like take a number. I'll come back when I feel like being bother!
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    If we consult the wise ones of old, we usually come up with the best answer.

    In this case, I recommend the wise words of Marcia Brady, who when faced with a marginally similar conundrum uttered those profound words, "Something suddenly came up".

    Yes, I believe those words will save you.
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by leilanicandy View Post
    Being the lady the that I am. I will kindly tell him, I am sorry for the last minute cancelation. I am going thru some things. I will like some along along time. Please excuse me. But hey there always next year.

    This is what I would do. Don't do anything that you don't want to do. You are obiviously not excited about seeing this guy. You will just end up unhappy and will def not have a good time. You will have more fun without him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    Yeah, I already did this to him a couple of weeks ago. He was supposed to come to town just to visit, and I wasn't feeling it, so I told him to stay home, just a few hours before. That's another reason I need to decide ASAP what to do. It would be nice to have a date for the party, everyone else is........
    You know, I'm going to take the high road and say go with him.

    No one's saying you're going to have sex with him, or have to. Hopefully he wont expect you to perform. It would be nice to have a date for the party, and who knows, maybe he can bread you out of it, but either way, it's harmless unless you've lead him to expect more if he comes...

    Either way, I'm sure he'll make it out ok.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    If anyone recalls, I'm just not feeling the dating thing right now:
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=77314

    ...I just am not feeling him, or anyone, right now. I don't want to take a date to the party at all.

    ...I just really want to be alone. Any advice? Should I just keep the date and no stir things up for now?
    It depends on how big the party is, and how much a 'couples' type party it will be. If you think you can have a good time going stag, I'd say follow your heart, which seems to want to dispense with the need fora date you aren't tremendously inspired about, for whatever reason.

    Don't feel bad about the whole dating issue, I've been pretty thoroughly jaded for a while, I can't stand the games and bullshit that so often go with the singles/dating scene. It's not such a bad thing to back off it for a bit, especially if you've had your share of fun, and you know you can plunge back into it anytime.

    Sometimes focusing on yourself and doing exactly what you want to do with your time (without worrying about who you are going to the next party with, lol) can be a refreshing and positive thing.

    You are a very strong-willed and vibrant woman--relish the fact, and enjoy your life. If you want to play with guys, you can do that whenever you want.
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    Why do something you don't want to do?

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    If you aren't having a good time, he's not going to have a good time either. Sounds like the makings for a boring and awkward weekend.

    Doesn't sound worth it to avoid going stag to a party.

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    Dating is an exhausting endeavor in any capacity; an exhausted date doesn't tend to make a great impression. Reschedule when you're feeling more Kat-like.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lunchbox View Post
    Why do something you don't want to do?

    My thoughts also. You should reschedule or just cancel because it doesn't sound like you will have fun.

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    Meh, my coworkers and friends say I should keep the date. Its an office Christmas party, held at a club downtown. There will be karaoke, which I do not partake in. Trust me, the world is a better place without my singing.

    There will be lots of couples and spouses, and I'm sure a few stags too. I took a date last year and we got it on in the ice machine room. This guy isn't so daring. He was all excited that I unzipped his fly at the movies the other day.

    He wouldn't pressure me for sex, and his arrival could be a good reason to give my house a cleandown too. Ugh, I still don't know what to do. It wouldn't be a bad time with him, I just don't want to be left alone if most of the people are bringing dates....

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    So... take him to the party and then before he leaves the next morning tell him your done with him? Two birds with one stone. LOL



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    Just my .02 cents worth.........if you have to ask then you already know the answer which is no. Tell the guy the truth and find one you are excited about or leave the evening open to whatever may come. I highly doubt you like being led on or used and us guys don't dig it either. Last girl that I know that pulled something like your describing got egg on her face when her "date" hooked up and left with another girl. I'm sure you have plenty to choose from or won't have a problem finding one!!

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    I would cancel. When I'm feeling like that, I can't be bothered to deal with some dude for any reason.

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    I'd cancel, too. If I'm not feeling a guy, it will be awkaward and NOT FUN.

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    Maybe I'm just puritanical, but I wouldn't expect to get a piece just because I'm invited to stay over at someone's house (and that someone is of the opposite sex).

    Unless you're getting that vibe from him (that he's expecting to get sex while staying overnight), I'd say keep the date.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The_Oceans View Post
    Maybe I'm just puritanical, but I wouldn't expect to get a piece just because I'm invited to stay over at some one's house (and that someone is of the opposite sex).
    That is reasonable if you haven't had sex before. However, if you've had sex with someone, then the expectation of a repeat is there, even bumping into each other casually, if things didn't end a mess, has a potential to become sex in a guys mind. Prearranged sleep over? Puhhh-lease.

    Unless you're getting that vibe from him (that he's expecting to get sex while staying overnight), I'd say keep the date.
    Don't need a vibe, he's driving 2.5 hrs to go to her company Xmas party and spend the night with someone he's already had sex with. Personally, the whole drive, all I'm thinking about is what your ass tastes like and what your fingers feel like inside of mine. Did I mention I'm free on the 16th?

    Then number of guys who wouldn't be expecting sex in this situation is tiny. Combine that with the most modest guy Kat would date, and it becomes somewhat of an absurd notion. The nice guy side of the spectrum would lie about an expectation of sex, in hopes of getting laid in the future. The other side of the spectrum involves guilting you into it, or getting pissed off about it.

    Is it the sex you don't want, or is it just dealing with someone else? If it's dealing with someone else, watch the beginning of American Dreamz, it summed my life up pretty quickly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lunchbox
    Is it the sex you don't want, or is it just dealing with someone else? If it's dealing with someone else, watch the beginning of American Dreamz, it summed my life up pretty quickly.
    Its not about the sex. If he wants sex, and I'm up for it, then it will happen. If he wants it and I don't want to, then we just go to bed together. Perhaps I'll be up for some morningwood. Its got nothing to do with sex. I'm a big fucking slut, I've fucked guys I had just met 5 minutes before whose name I didn't ever get.Of course he'll want it, every guy wants sex with a gal like me. I'm not all that, its just the nature of man.

    Its about dealing with someone else. I'm still on the wall with this. He has lots of friends here in Austin too, I wouldn't be stuck with him every waking moment. We'd meet his crew after my party I'm sure. Then he would return to Htown Sunday to be with his daughter.

    The reason I do kind of want to make some effort is because I've done nothing with myself lately. I havn't fixed up my cool new house or done anything to look pretty. I'm getting my hair chopped off/colored this weekend (not for him) and I have a new dress. He's already seen me look like crap though. He held my hair while I threw up after our first date. I'm not worried about him, I just don't want to pursue dating him after this . He will remain a friend no matter what.


    BTW: I am not trying to disregard anyone's advice. All of your feedback is valuable.

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    I say, just tell him what is up with you... let him know what is going on with you, kinda like you did in this thread.... then...maybe depending on his reaction you'll have a better idea what to do... then.. it's up to you, go , don't go, give him a raincheck, never talk to him again, whatever....

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    The thing is, sweetheart, just reading between the lines, you really don't want to be alone. I don't know if it's business/professional, or an image thing, but you want a guy with you at the party. That's perfectly OK and reason enough to have him along. Just recognize that you need him for social and emotional support reasons, even if the guy is way below sexual and emotional par for you ("If he wants it and I don't, we just go to bed together.") If the guy is that far below boiling point for you, then it's all about image/appearance/feeling complete in your social circle. It's just a reason to get dressed up.

    I don't need to be the one to tell you that you deserve so much more. I mean you deserve it even though you aren't really comfortable even dating guys now.

    Look, I've been smack in the middle of this "who do you invite to the Christmas Party" dilemma and the last time out, I made such an insane choice that I feel like an idiot even giving you advice on it now. Not that every single guy at the party was not spectacularly impressed. Had a few mild stalking problems, even. It was just stupidity on my part not to realize that some guys need permanent adult supervision or continuous Taser monitoring. But God, I should have known better on so many levels.

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    It was just stupidity on my part not to realize that some guys need permanent adult supervision or continuous Taser monitoring. But God, I should have known better on so many levels.
    Hahaha, I think I see where you went. But I bet you had a great time. That would be fucking rad, to bring a hot stripper to the Xmas party. Everyone I work with is very cool, my boss told my entire team I err, don't discriminate based on gender, and I got a "hiiigh fiiiive" standing ovation. Hell, some of us go to the Rose sometimes. BUT for this event I'd rather err on the side of caution. He's a mortgage broker, very successful and personable. He met my dad and the Houston Ukraininan mafia last week. They made him drink something that's stronger than gorilka, but not quite samogon (more spirt). He took it like a champ, and daddy approves.

    But I digress. TOO, you just KNOW ME man! I want to have a date for the party, but not so much for the entire night. He's a decent stunt cock to bring in. I wonder if I can get him to spend the night at his friends' house. Would that be too mean? lol....

    Oh, P.S. Another addendum ad nauseum. If Piercedickboy was going stag for sure, I would too. But he's being shady on whether he is bringing a date or not. If he didn't have a date, it would be easy, we would just hang out....

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    If a cupcake was tossed at me... well, I'd only be upset if it missed my mouth

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