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    Reading in one of the other sections about women and orgasms has motivated me to post my embarrassing question

    OK so this is a little difficult but I figure this is the place to ask. I’ m one of the early 50s happily married PLosers who escapes to the clubs during frequent business travel. Hotel rooms (98 so far this year) get real boring. I am a nice person and generous and am open to most contact as well as it keeps things private below the belt. If I wanted something more I would take my business elsewhere. Besides I am very happy with the sex life at home

    However age, alcohol, medicines and the stress of the day do take their toll and about ½ of the time I am getting dances I do not get an erection, even though I am otherwise enjoying the sensations.. I become very self conscious of it and wonder what the dancer is thinking, or if they even care. More often then not I will make some joke about age sucking. .

    Does a dancer notice or care? Do they see it as a “vote” on them or their dancing skills? Do I say anything or show my appreciation with tips? What are the verbal or non verbal cues. I want to have fun and think that the dancer is at least comfortable.

    Thanks for your input



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    I would love a custy for life if he didnt get an erection while I dance. It makes me squick out to see or feel happy penis while I'm dancing. Honestly? As long as you talk in a happy tone and have positive things to say, I wont think that you dislike me or my dancing if your lil man keeps to himself.
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    I have a reg I *love* because he gets many, many dances and never gets hard. Diabetes. It icks me out when a guy sports a woody through slidy shorts. I much prefer those who show their appreciation through tipping and compliments.

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    Most of the older (45+) customers are a lot like you, and therefore my favorite targets! I realize that you're not 18 anymore and actually enjoy the fact that it takes you a while to get warmed up.

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    jessica Im sure you meant your use of the word "target" in the kindest and most customer appreciative way LOL

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    I'm actually afraid of erections. If it takes that little to get you hard, it probably only takes a little friction to make you squirt. eeeeeewwww.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel View Post
    I'm actually afraid of erections. If it takes that little to get you hard, it probably only takes a little friction to make you squirt. eeeeeewwww.
    Actually the OP was stressing about not getting hard and was wondering if you would think less of him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Actually the OP was stressing about not getting hard and was wondering if you would think less of him.

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    That's what I was trying to say in my post. So let me be clear then. I would like you better if you didn't have an erection because....erections scare me etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel View Post
    That's what I was trying to say in my post. So let me be clear then. I would like you better if you didn't have an erection because....erections scare me etc.
    I missread. My bad. I thought your use of of the word "you" meant the OP. I guess what I should have read was "I would like customers better if they didnt have erections..." Point taken. Truthfully though, the idea of flacid penises in a club does seen unrealistic to me but I guess I can see why dancers might find the concept attractive.

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    I think it's MORE of a compliment if a man continues to get dances with no erection than to get one with dances... because it means he appreciates your dancing/you/personality more than the sex aspect.


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    Im on a couple of different blood pressure medications but little FBR does tend to perk up once in a while bloody hell damn his soul. But after reading these posts I will go to my doctor tomorrow and demand that he double my dosage. Its just not right that my unwanted physical reaction should demonstate such a lack of appreciation.

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    FBR,
    There's the ideal, and then there is what a lady just puts up with and accepts. Hard-on or not was no matter to me, but when they flaunt it, or try to grab your ass to position you over it so its sliding in between your legs. Well, you get used to that as well.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    or try to grab your ass to position you over it so its sliding in between your legs.


    Egads trying so hard not to vomit now.... blff!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by PaigeDWinter View Post
    Egads trying so hard not to vomit now.... blff!!
    Vomit, why? Have you really danced much Paige?

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    I prefer LDs without boners. A simple statement that he is enjoying his time with me will suffice. I dont care anymore if they do or not and if someone doesnt I dont judge I then just keep dancing. Like Katrines story ... dont like that either.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    Vomit, why? Have you really danced much Paige?

    Cause the only boner I want to feel is my mans. And yes, I've been dancing for 6 years now.
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    I do tend to think a hardon is the simplest and most obvious show of appreciation for my dancing. It ain't the library and it's a sexually stimulating service so I expect most guys to get hard when I slither and wriggle on them. However I understand some guys, for whatever reason, may not get the hardon, and that's fine. I figure if the guy still buys more than one dance, tips, thanks, smiles, seems to be enjoying himself, I'm doing a good job. No problems. I think that most girls who've danced for some time feel similarly - at least it's what I hear most when the subject comes up in the dressing room.

    To be perfectly honest though, I rather like the feel of a hardon. Even better if it's a big ol' python But maybe I'm just a ho-slut

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    The funniest story I've heard about that is from an ex who used to bitch about guys with little dicks poking up and hurting her, lol...
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    If a gal does her job right, something is going to budge down there, particualarly if there is friction involved. Sorry ladies, but its an innate response to thousands of years of human conditioning. We can't help it even if we tried.


    Of course, if something doesn't budge for previously stated reasons, (and even I whom am younger than 35 have had those kind of nights), that doesn't mean I'm not turned on.
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    I wouldnt say that I "enjoy" them getting a boner when I dance but it is kinda odd to me when they dont. Like it is something I have come to expect and if it doesnt happen I feel like maybe I am not "up to par" on that particular dance. If it is an older gentleman I understand how there can be varying factors, but with young guys there really is no excuse and I feel like its something I am doing or not doing. hehe. All in all as long as that green is in my hand at the end thats all I really care about, sounds horrible but its my job. My fav is when a guy is getting a dance in a group of friends and they are clowning him about the boner issue...then he tells them loudly that he doesnt get boners from dances no matter what. HA, ya right. Then he of course does, when the dance is done his friends will ask me...I just laugh.

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    Thanks to all. I will go forth getting renewed joy from the dances and be sure to show my appreciation with a large throbbing tip…… of money (pun intended).

    Reading the posts made me realize my feelings are probably a carry over form the younger days when lack of response by 8TJ jr on a date would certainly have shook me and may have indicated to my date a lack of satisfaction.

    Nothing like the feeling of a pretty women dancing close or on you at the end of a long and lonely day. Us road warriors thank you for the dedication and service to the cause.

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    Quote Originally Posted by echomadison View Post
    If it is an older gentleman I understand how there can be varying factors, but with young guys there really is no excuse and I feel like its something I am doing or not doing.
    There are actually plenty of excuses for younger men not to get hard:

    - alcohol use
    - tobacco use
    - illicit drug use
    - side effect from medication
    - illness
    - physical discomfort in other parts of their body
    - fatigue (often my excuse)
    - stress from work. family, or relationship situations
    - diabetes
    - high blood pressure
    - depression
    - guilty feelings (in a strip club, imagine that)
    - trauma from a previous sexual experience
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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    There are actually plenty of excuses for younger men not to get hard:

    - alcohol use
    - tobacco use
    - illicit drug use
    - side effect from medication
    - illness
    - physical discomfort in other parts of their body
    - fatigue (often my excuse)
    - stress from work. family, or relationship situations
    - diabetes
    - high blood pressure
    - depression
    - guilty feelings (in a strip club, imagine that)
    - trauma from a previous sexual experience

    All of which translate into:

    - I not doing a good enough job

    haha...Guess its just me

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    There are actually plenty of excuses for younger men not to get hard:

    - alcohol use
    - tobacco use
    - illicit drug use
    - side effect from medication
    - illness
    - physical discomfort in other parts of their body
    - fatigue (often my excuse)
    - stress from work. family, or relationship situations
    - diabetes
    - high blood pressure
    - depression
    - guilty feelings (in a strip club, imagine that)
    - trauma from a previous sexual experience
    And my personal favorite excuse... not wanting to get kicked out of the club.
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    Be that as it may, and with all due respect to JZ (who deserves a great deal of it, indeed!), the fact that dancers are so often expected to be thrilled to death that their 1,378th customer of the year just got an erection, is one that makes it pretty tough to stick out this business for a lot of women.

    Assuming 10 customers a night, 40 customers a week, and thus about 2,000 customers a year, the fate of each individual penis' vascular condition during the course of each individual lapdance is unlikely to be of much concern to a professional dancer.

    If the customer starts bucking his bulge up at her, grabbing her hips to press her down on it, etc., etc., a reaction of irritation could be viewed as the appropriate response.
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