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    Yea, I kinda feel like your first paragraph too. I dont mind being touched as long is it not trying to make my nipples into radio knobs or trying to poke fingers in my pussy. If they are too rough while touching I dont like that. Soft nice touches not in my ass or pussy sure. But this is a no-contact city still.
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    Nope, can't handle it. I tried a contact club once, and had a little freak out. I'm not against it in principle...just have some sort of mental barrier.

    I don't mind contact clubs where only I'm doing the touching.

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    yes contact bothers me big time thats why i picked a no touching club.
    but thats me in general life too, i dont even like it when im at a nightclub and someone touches me without asking i just find it rude..
    i dont judge what other dancers do i just know that im only comfortable with no touching.

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    The level of contact expected at my club is rising (but I'm not down with that,) and it's really pissing me off. I'm thinking of going back to a one way contact club in my city that I worked at before. I definetly hate when people try to touch my boobs.

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    I got used to it in Texas. It was so refreshing to find out you can make decent money with one-way contact in other places. Too much grabby burnt me out, as tough as I like to think I was .....

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    When I worked two days in Sydney and realized I could double my income with much less effort... oh yeah, I started hating contact.


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    Put me down in the category of some contact being easier to sell than no or very little contact. However, what bothers me about this issue is that the boundaries keep slipping and no matter how far they slip, they're sure to go further. (Barring, of course, a complete return to puritanicalism brought on by the moral police, which is not a desirable alternative.) I mean, is there no point where we can say, look, that's it, that's as far as it goes, no mas. This is the final version and if you're not satisfied with that, sorry, this isn't the service for you. I know, I know, I'm dreamin'.

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    I only tried dancing in a couple of clubs breifly but one of them was a low contact bikini bar. I felt like I didn't know what to do. I'd prefer some contact like is allowed in your club Janessa. I totally agree with how you feel.

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    I danced in a two-way contact (customer could touch everywhere except inner thigh, near anus, groin or pubic regions) environment for near on or just over three years consistently. Back then it didn't bother me ... it was only when I started working in clubs and cities where there was only one way contact (dancer to customer) allowed that I started to become sensative to contact.

    I prefer very minimum 2 way contact and only in a way where I am in control of the situation. I must prefer "guided touching" by a customer (where I have my hands on the customer's hands) if the customer must touch me otherwise I prefer to do all the contact (dancer to customer).

    I know one thing I absolutely cannot work in places where air dances (no contact between dancer and customer either way) is the only thing available. It's horrible for me as I am such a sensual dancer in my lap dances. It's my forte that I know how to touch a guy


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    It used to bother me, but now I feel like I have on a protective shell. I don't allow them to grope my breasts or anywhere near the crotch. Other than that it doesn't bother me unless it's a really skeevy guy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by evan_essence View Post
    Put me down in the category of some contact being easier to sell than no or very little contact. However, what bothers me about this issue is that the boundaries keep slipping and no matter how far they slip, they're sure to go further. (Barring, of course, a complete return to puritanicalism brought on by the moral police, which is not a desirable alternative.) I mean, is there no point where we can say, look, that's it, that's as far as it goes, no mas. This is the final version and if you're not satisfied with that, sorry, this isn't the service for you. I know, I know, I'm dreamin'.

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    I do agree. It's not that I mind contact, but as much as I sell a very genuine intimate GFE, I'm like "there has to be something here that I'm holding back for me." And really, round hereabouts we are at the bottom, and I mean the very bottom of the barrel. Where we run around trying to sell dances that involve so much contact and hearing complaints about the price for $20. And, as I've said before, this bullshit is essentially the price we pay for the privilege of not having penetrative sex. However, considering how much we do right now, I don't see where we can go without acts of prostitution; and really the biggest problem then is dumbass girls who would rather call themselves dancers and perform as prostitutes for less convenience and probably less money rather than clearing out. Sorry about the lack of girl power - but really. The contact we do already is SO hardcore; I'm not being a princess about this.
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    Sorry. I diverged. I started my own thread.
    I don't mind contact. Scarlett very kindly showed me the basics of a no contact dance, but I did feel a little silly. I managed to skank it up a little, but I still felt a little dumb. Plus - as odd as this sounds - I don't really love being looked at. I would rather be touched.
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    Ya, I can see why girls would feel dumb doing no contact dances...it's a different thing altogether than lapdancing.

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    If all you've experienced is lapdancing, then of course you'll feel silly trying to do an airdance because you don't know how. If you've been exposed to both, and made money at both, you generally tend to prefer less contact. I fall into that latter category. I would prefer NO contact, in part because that's how it was when I started out and I do know how to dance like that (and no I don't mind being stared at - it's part of being a stripper).

    However I don't mind SOME contact and provide it happily in exchange for money. I prefer 1way or extremely limited 2way. I dislike being rubbed, grabbed and groped all over - for me it's sensory overload. I avoid places where 2way is the only way to make money.

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    I cannot stand being touched! I dont like it in my personal life, either.

    Some guys are nice about it, maybe a hand on your thigh or butt, but other guys try and rub your skin off your back or make grabs for your boobs. They stress me out.
    So I dont touch them (my leg on their leg is as close as I get-no grinding *GAG!*) and I don't encourage them touching me. I will move hands off my butt, my breast and gawds help the asswipe that even tries to touch the playground.
    I still do alright, though. I am certain I do not make what more willing dancers make and thats okay. I was never good at wreastling.
    I have had customers ask if I would be willing to allow more contact. I have had them ask if more money would make me give a better dance.
    *shrug*
    Nah.

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    Oh I am a touch me not. I cant stand it it. It makes my skin crawl maybe its because Im married but to have another mans hands on me is just pushing it. As far as Im concerned Im the dancer and I entertain you so NO touching.

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    Now, coming from my very limited experience, I most certainly prefer no contact. At least on the customers part anyway. I don't mind leaning on a guy or running my hands over his arms, but I do not grind on them. The guys that try to touch (they are NOT allowed to at my club) gross me out. I hate it when a guy tries to even rub my arms. Light one-way contact is all I am comforatable with right now.
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    In the shit-ass region of the US where I work, it is considered STANDARD to grope and kiss the dancers' boobs. It is SO high contact around here it makes me want to barf. Ick. A lap dance to me is a three minute fight trying to keep their dirty little paws off of you while telling them "no, I don't allow that." It gets exhausting (and disgusting) after a while.

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