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    so i have only been dancing for a month now and i am learning how to talk to the guys, sell dances - a bit of trial and error and a lot of help from SW.
    anyway tomorrow night being saturday is the busiest night at my club and i am psyching myself up and reading lots of tips from hustle hut so that i can hopefully have my most profitable night to date.

    i am NOT going to talk to guys for longer than a couple of songs unless they are buying dances. this has been my main problem since starting. i have lacked the confidence to just pop the question.

    I will work the room to my full potential instead of avoiding approaching more people through fear of rejection.

    I will try to sell table dances every time I am on table - i often get too carried away with pole dancing and don't approach guys at the tip rail.

    I will tell myself that I am worth their money and that they do want to buy a dance off me instead of feeling lucky and somewhat surprised every time I sell one.

    Wish me luck ladies, I will let u all know how it goes.

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    Default Re: psyching myself up for great night

    Good luck. Awhile back when I was having some self-esteem phobia about my professional job, I began just saying out loud the night before or in the morning when I woke up, "Today I am going to be a wildly successful acupuncturist." Even if I didn't believe it, I just said it out loud and set the declaration for the day.

    It worked every time! I would come home smiling because my clients would report major health shifts.

    When I went to do the amateur night on Wednesday, I was again terrified cause I had never danced before. I said "Tonight I'm going to be a wildly successful stripper." I won the contest.

    So smile and set a clear, positive declaration. Set your intention out into the world

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    Default Re: psyching myself up for great night

    Don't forget to tell yourself how sexy you are!!!

    And on a special night, sometimes it's nice to do somthing sweet and fun for yourself... something little that makes you feel good. Buy a pair of eyelashes or the new costume you wanted or treat yourself to a bubble bath before work. Whatever it is that makes you feel special!

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    Default Re: psyching myself up for great night

    thanks for the words of encouragement. i will definately think of myself as sexy and hopefully it will rub off on potential customers!

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    the pep talk works! "im a hot sexy woman, and i will take all of their money! They LOVE ME! they WANT me. i can do this and i will ask for dances by the end of the 2nd song!" mantra. repeat.

    Love it!

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    This is a great pep talk. You hit just about every major point! I'm going to repeat this to myself before my next shift!

    Thanks for posting.

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    I'm all about the pep talk and encouraging myself, and i continue phyching myself up through the night. Sometimes i find myself needing to refocus and remind myself why i am there. Almost everytime i leave the dressing room when i'm doing that last glance in the mirror i tell myself how smokin hot i am and how they are all waiting for me to take all their money and love every second of it! My hustle is deffinatly improving. (I've only been dancing 3 weeks)

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    Good luck tonight!! You WILL do GREAT! You ARE an AMAZING stripper, and you should offer EVERYONE in the club a chance to experience how WONDERFUL YOU ARE!!!!!

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    ^^^ The above goes for every lady working tonight...

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    well i had an awesome night and made the most $$$$$ i have ever made so far dancing so i guess the positive attitude and the encouragement from SW helped!
    i set goals for mysself and stuck to them.
    i did not sit with customers for too long, i kept it short sweet and ABC!
    when i asked them for dances if they said no or maybe later i was really friendly and said have a great night and they ended up approaching me later on when they were ready.
    i also changed my approach for the boring "hi my name is jessica whatss yours, so blah blah blah (10-30 mins later) so would u like a dances?" instead of this i walked up to them all excited and said things like "whats going on guys?" and "can i steal u away and take u to the VIP area with me?" and "so lets go up and have some fun" etc.
    even when it didnt work acting in this positive way kept me feeling happy and positive about myself. i think coz whenn i stand around for like 20 mins with someone waiting to pop the question it kills my self esteem but there was none of that last night.

    i went up to two young guys (like about 18-19yo) and asked them to come dance with me and they said "no we are waiting for a blonde" and i laughed and said "ok two mins ill just go to the dressing room and put my blonde wig on" and they laughed then i told them to have a good night.
    later when i was on podium they approached me for a private dance afterwards and i ended up selling a dance to both of them!

    it got to 5am and my body ached and i really felt tired. the club was still fairly busy and i felt bad leaving coz i knew at that time guys spend more freely coz they know its nearing closing time and i thought i could prob have made another $100 or so but fatigue set in so I left.
    but i had still done very well so it turned out to be my best night ever.

    SW is gold! all that fantastic advice on here has really given me a huge advantage being a new dancer, thanks ladies for all your excellent tips and advice it truly does make a huge difference when I'm at work!!xoxoxo

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    I just had a great night too. It started out kinda slow and I was suffering from low self-esteem because on a couple of sets no one sat at my stage. But, that happened to several girls so I didn't let it keep me down. Then I did a really great stage dance where the guy's friends just threw fistfuls of cash at me. That sort of thing really makes my night. And then after that I stayed in the dance room for the next 10 or so songs. It rocked. Nights like this make me remember why I love dancing.
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    awesome to hear well done Andygirl!!!!! hopefully many more to come.

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    great! yea, sw = $$$$$
    im glad your psych up worked!

    Love it!

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