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    Well for those of you who remember, I retired from stripping this past spring, finished my degree, and started teaching this fall. Great, right? wrong...

    I hate my job for many reasons. I teach at a high school for at risk youth - basically I get all of the kids who have dropped out or have been kicked out of traditional high school, and I have to try to teach them to read and write (literally... many cannot). THat is a challenge in itself, but its even more of an uphill battle when the staff are a bunch of idiots who treat me like an outsider because I am one of three white teachers (its about eighty five percent black school).

    So, anyways, I am looking for another job desperately. I hate this job. I hate this area (I moved to Lakeland... the armpit of the state.. out of stupidity), but you know what I really hate? Making - in a stressful, irritating, forty hour week, where I have to do what someone else tells me to- what I would make in one night of six hours of dancing, working for MYSELF, and being able to tell people to fuck off.

    sigh.

    I want to go back to dancing, but I know that I don't ever want it to be my sole income. I want something concrete, and then I want to dance as a supplement. I'm not sure what is stopping me, though. I guess I just need a cheering squad Has anyone else experienced this once moving from stripping to a civiliian job? I just don't know if I am the type of person that can "work for" someone else. I get sooooooooooo frustrated with the ignorance and backward thinking of most people.

    I need to be the boss. heh...

    Anyways, I'm shooting for a tech writing job (everyone cross your fingers for me) where I would get to do most of the work on my own. I just am not cut out for a career in education. I know this job has really tainted my opinion (considering I regularly have students get in my face and tell me to "shut the fuck up you stupid bitch" with NO repercussions...)

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    Wow, that is complete bullshit that you have to put up with that type of crap from students.

    I'll think on it. I assume you want to work in Tampa. You mentioned technical writing. How technical ? Training manuals, Documentation, what kind?
    Are you interested in technical training?

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    Hey honey,
    I feel your dilemna. You've done great at least trying to make a difference. Ultimately, poor education, and no values of respect are just going to drive this country into the gutter.

    For many years, I danced and worked a day job. For example, I worked at the university as a technical trainer and web developer. Perhaps you can teach higher education, as an adjunct for example. What about continuing education courses for adults? At least they WANT to be there.

    Another thing to go into is real estate and mortgages. But I hear that housing market in Tampa is going to the shitter, so it might not be the best option right now.

    What do you like to do? Do you have any skills or hobbies that might be marketable?

    How about becoming a personal trainer?

    Just some ideas......

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sitri View Post
    Wow, that is complete bullshit that you have to put up with that type of crap from students.
    Buddy,

    "Complete Bullshit" doesn't even begin to describe the horrible treatment this woman gets on a daily basis.

    Tampadancer, you have my support. But you know that.

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    Wow, honey. Sorry to hear about what's going on at your job. I think you should go back to dancing and find another job PRONTO. I would hate for your experience to taint your opinion of an entire group of people.
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    That totatlly sucks. Having a job you hate, especially one that doesn't pay well, can you make 110% miserable. I say quit and dance and then figure out what to do if at all possible. Can you find a club where you are now to work at to save up some $?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sitri View Post
    I assume you want to work in Tampa. You mentioned technical writing. How technical ? Training manuals, Documentation, what kind?
    Are you interested in technical training?
    Well, my degree is in English with a concentration on technical writing - so I am more than capable, but I have no experience. I am shooting for a writing job to just get my foot in the door to prove myself. Technical training... I admittedly have very limited knowledge with that...

    Katrine: yeah, the real estate bubble has bursted, so that's probably not a great option anymore. I am actually a certified trainer (I worked at Bally's for a while when I was in college) and have been considering that again... that would be a viable option that would allow me to dance, and I would get to work for myself. The only dilemma is that it takes a while working, as an independent contractor, to develop a client base that will make you money. Rent fees at the gyms in my area average $400-$500/month. But still.. I could dance....

    Mast: thanks for listening to me vent about this so many times...

    frances: I think one of the things that bothers me the most about this job is that I don't have a racist bone in my body. Anyone that knows me can vouch for this. However, after only two weeks at this job, three people had already gone to the principal and told her that I was exhibiting "preferential treatment" for the white students (which is pretty amazing, since there are only a handful in my class, and I didn't even know their names at the time because I was so busy working with other students who needed me). If I were racist, would I have taken a job at a school that was eighty five percent black? come on....

    bunny: I can dance in Tampa, it's only a thirty minute drive. I'm dying to get out of this shithole area anyways.

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    It's a damned shame the closest place to dance is Tampa, that's a rough town to work in.

    Working in clubs and having a business on the side is a good idea, but hard to pull off. At least its been that way for me.

    I also know that going back and getting a regular bullshit lousy job after working in clubs can be tough, I did it for a while in Michigan, what an ordeal.

    I did teach at a community college and work in a club, that went just fine, but moving to Michigan put an end to that.

    I have always liked doing drawings on the side, it's just that if you start working too many hours in the club (like i have been recently), you lose out on keeping the momentum in your other business concern. If you can pull it off, it's great though...

    One thing's for sure, you need to get the hell out of that horrible school--that is no place for a woman of your charm and integrity.
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    Whoa shit hun. I would just quit and go right back to dancing. In fact I did that recently. LOL!!

    I also think if I were you I'd go for the personal trainer gig, and if you still want to go for tech writing, then work on that in the meantime.

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    Wow, yeah, this is what scares me about going into the "real" work force. But going back to dance part time will probably take the edge off. When I worked full-time at a high stress/low pay non-profit while still dancing I was able to appreciate both jobs for what they were without becoming terribly attached and emotionally invested in either.
    I think it would be a good idea for you to dance one night a week or every other weekend. That way you could explore other career options and not feel too much pressure over your finances. Or you could teach part-time and you might not hate it as much. Teaching will overwork the hell out of you without giving you any appreciation. And teenagers are notoriously selfish and obnoxious. (My mother is a teacher, bless her heart) Anyway, good luck to you, and props for going into education in the first place. You will figure out something and the stripping world will welcome you back with open arms.

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    Please tell me that you are not at New Horizons.

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    frances: I think one of the things that bothers me the most about this job is that I don't have a racist bone in my body. Anyone that knows me can vouch for this. However, after only two weeks at this job, three people had already gone to the principal and told her that I was exhibiting "preferential treatment" for the white students (which is pretty amazing, since there are only a handful in my class, and I didn't even know their names at the time because I was so busy working with other students who needed me). If I were racist, would I have taken a job at a school that was eighty five percent black? come on...
    I know babe, but I always got the feeling that white teachers in those types of schools eventually became very hardened toward black people b/c of these bad-ass kids. I could be wrong, but that's what scares me about these inner city schools (which I never went to, thank God.). I just don't want that for you. I hope yuou get another job soon.
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    Tampadancer,
    I am going to school right now to be an English teacher and am thinking of teaching in Souther-ish Florida. Did you have a problem finding a job as a teacher with your background as a dancer? And would you get in trouble for being a dancer while teaching?
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    I have an interview tomorrow in clearwater for a tech writing job with a medical software firm. everyone cross your fingers....

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    Sure, I could get in trouble if I were busted dancing. If I liked my job, I wouldn't risk it in the first place. Nothing showed up on my background check because I never had to get any licenses anywhere to dance. I wouldn't really worry about that aspect, if I were you. But please, reconsider teaching down here...

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    thanks tampa. I'll keep what you said in mind.
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    Good luck on the interview!!!

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    Belle, good luck on getting that technical writing job. Sorry to hear that the teaching job didn't quite work out for you. My friend taught grade school for eight years before he was forced out. He's an office manager now.

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    I think maybe some people take to teaching and some don't. I have a friend who teaches kids with problems in Sarasota and she seems to really like her job and has done it for years. And I mean these kids are messed up. One of them plays with his poop. But she also is married so she doesn't have to solely rely on the income.

    Good luck with the job interview!

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    I wish I had advice on jobness.... tis deadtastic over here too, in the non-stripper work force. I can say, however, that I feel for ya. I was a student at a school like that. Ours was a mix of Kicked Out Of School kids and Not Quite Ready For The Nuthouse kids.

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    Good luck on the interview.

    And yes to dancing part time.

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    Good luck...I have a friend that teaches in Polk County (Lakeland High) and I asked him about Lifeskills...oy, I can see why you're not liking life right now.

    Can't you get a different job at another high school back in Tampa? I know there is a new high school being built in New Tampa.

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