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    While my husband and I were seperated, I was with Shawn and he was messin with this one chick Donna. he didnt REALLY wanna be with her, he wanted me back, but out of loniliness, was messin with this hoe. anyways...
    when me and him got back together,or when we were talkin about getting back together, he cut her off. shes bitter. so a few weeks later she called him talkin about shes prego. but she hasnt proved it yet. we think shes makin it up...to get him back,sympathy,money,whatever.
    She was trashin me to a lot of people in this town, talkin about Im on crack and I rented out my car for crack and wrecked it and shit. (obviously the chic knows nothin about me because ive never touched a drug in my life) So that made me hate her. Not jealous because she HAD my husband. I HATE the hoe for trashin someone she dont know.
    SOOOO ANYWAY...she doesnt have a number for me to get ahold of her, Ive been asking my husband next time she calls to let me talk to her. u know,woman to woman. never happened. well this morning at 4am she called. I said u dont need to be calling my man at 4am,people tryinto sleep. she said she dont give a fuck who tryin to sleep and she'll COME OVER at 4am if she wants to. she then hung up. 2 minutes later she sent a text meant for Deon, but i got it.she said tell ur bitch ill be there in 45 minutes. She knows if i see her ima beat her ass. I dont play around when people try to use my husband or talk about my family or me. THEN she wanted to insult me as a mother!! My husband said im making a big deal over nothing...but this chic started it all! All morning it was text after text after text between me and her. finally i said we're grown women,quit. Didnt stop. ugh He wont tell her to quit calling. I can see if she REALLY IS prego, then yeah, she can have a little to do with him, until we get DNA tests. But if shes not prego and calling at 4am...the bitch needs to go on. I promise if i see her ima knock her head off.
    anyways...i dunno what my question is or what the point is for this thread. I just wanna talk to someone about it. its makin me crazy that this chic wont get out of our lives and let him move on with me. HIS WIFE. (ps...theres no infidelity going on on his part,i trust him 100%. shes just tryin to manipulate him with all this pregnant stuff,and she needs money,bla bla bla ) if this thread doesnt seem to go anywhere, it can be deleted.

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    Dude, calm down for a second and think about this. You are TOTALLY encouraging this situation by responding to it. Threaten to go to the police about her harrassing you (or, actually do it). But, if you threaten to hit her back... you're just giving her ammo. STOP responding. She'll get distracted with other drama eventually.
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    Its up to your husband to tell her not to call yall house at 4a.m. Are they still friends? If not, then he needs to lay the rules down with her, otherwise she'll think your just hating on her. The best attention you can give her is no attention.Show her that she is no threat. Now if your hubby tells her that he has no interests, and she acts up in your face, then woop her ass.

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    I agree with Bella...by you getting involved with it, you're making it escalate. You know this woman is a problem...but you are not resolving the problem...you are throwing logs on the fire. Next time she calls you at 4am, tell her that if she doesn't stop, you will have no choice but to go to the police.

    Here's another suggestion...if your hubby truly left this woman in the dust as he claims he did...then he won't have a problem changing his cell phone number and his home phone number. Get those changed and there will be no more phone calls. If she does start calling again, file a stalking/harassment complaint. But, threatening to hit her or actually doing so isn't going to get you very far. You are, after all, technically on probation and the judge that was so kind to you this morning won't be so kind when you show up in court for slinging it out over a MAN.

    Take a chill pill, cool off...and tell your man to handle it.

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    I know im on probabation(kinda) and i wont do anything dumb. its just so frustrating.
    until we know if shes really prego or not, shes in his life. as long as shes in his life,shes in mine. if shes in mine,shes hating on me for having the man she wants.know what i mean? i just found out (he called her back while i was in court) that she called him at 4am because shes "sick" and needed him to go across town and get her Theraflu and said "im sick, u dont want ur baby to get sick,do u?" WTF he wont even wake up at 4am to get me meds if i was on my deathbed,and this chic is calling for some Theraflu??? She never liked me (i used to dance with her till she quit) and she knows what shes doing. shes trying to start shit. im not gonna do anything that will mess up my court stuff and take me from my girls...but i wanna beat the mess out of her so bad.

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    Ummm...if you are preggers, you do not take Theraflu.

    I would demand to see a pregnancy test...from a doctor.

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    My husband said she came over and showed him an ept. being a man, he didnt think to say "let me see u take one" or just wasnt thinkin that she could have used another prego friends.
    also she was so set on having an abortion, and wanted him to give her the money,rather than go with her and pay HALF of it like i told him to do. so when she realized he wouldnt hand over cash, she suddenly decided "she didnt wanna have an abortion"
    then she called him and told him shes having a little boy..something she KNOWS he wants so bad,since i gave him girls, not boys.
    i keep telling him take her to the health dept. and get proof from a doc. I do not know why he wont do it. lazy i guess. but he needs to act fast before i lose it.
    Hes at work now, ill bring that up,Venus,when he calls. I just got a text from her that said "they wouldnt let me see the doctor" dunno what that was about. but id think if a prego woman was sick enough to see a doc, they are not gonna refuse, if shes already there.

    sound like shes lieing to you guys? I wanna text her back soooo bad but dont wanna start up again. but ugh i wanna call her out. aaaaahhhh! (hiding the phone from view)

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    I texted that trick and said I wanna see ultrasounds (acting as Deon).she said "when she find them she'll show them to him" then back as myself I was telling her "I dont like u, i never will,but we might as well chill cuz whether u like it or not, im ur babys step mom" she stopped texting after that.
    Earlier she sent a text sayin she went to the doctor but they sent her home because they called the wrong insurance company???? I dont see a docs office sending a sick prego girl home without being seen,at least vitals. i guess we'll see ultrasounds. if she cant "find them" then the next thing we are waiting for is her to say "o i misscarried" the chic is crazy as hell. she dont sleep,shes depressive,crazy,everything.def. dont need a kid if she was "ready to kill herself" because i wanted proof of pregnancy. WTF
    Oh well I was the bigger woman by tellin her ill respect her as (maybe) carrying a part of my husband, if she respects me as his wife.
    Now i gotta explain to my husband how I was acting like him in text...only sayin the things he doesnt have the balls to say, or the girl smarts to ask. maybe it will all be a confusing mess and it wont be brought up. lol im not worried bout it. i did the right thing and she hasnt texted yet. so im over it.

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    why don't you stay out of it? do you crave drama? what are you getting out of it? you wouldn't be doing it if you weren't getting something out of it.

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    Curbstomping some woman, pregnant or not, is a good way to end up in jail and away from your kids. Tell yer man to switch numbers on his cell. It isnt that hard.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Xiomara View Post
    I texted that trick and said I wanna see ultrasounds (acting as Deon).she said "when she find them she'll show them to him" then back as myself I was telling her "I dont like u, i never will,but we might as well chill cuz whether u like it or not, im ur babys step mom" she stopped texting after that.
    Earlier she sent a text sayin she went to the doctor but they sent her home because they called the wrong insurance company???? I dont see a docs office sending a sick prego girl home without being seen,at least vitals. i guess we'll see ultrasounds. if she cant "find them" then the next thing we are waiting for is her to say "o i misscarried" the chic is crazy as hell. she dont sleep,shes depressive,crazy,everything.def. dont need a kid if she was "ready to kill herself" because i wanted proof of pregnancy. WTF
    Oh well I was the bigger woman by tellin her ill respect her as (maybe) carrying a part of my husband, if she respects me as his wife.
    Now i gotta explain to my husband how I was acting like him in text...only sayin the things he doesnt have the balls to say, or the girl smarts to ask. maybe it will all be a confusing mess and it wont be brought up. lol im not worried bout it. i did the right thing and she hasnt texted yet. so im over it.


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    Well your man should handle his problems she is not your problem and quit responding to her . You need to talk to your man and see where his loyalty is , sorry to say but I think your man made a mistake that will repeat itself in the furture . If he cant fix it move on and find a real man . I am not knocking you, life can be confusing at times but you gotta be able to spot the red flags honey .

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    its not him its her. we cant change the number right now for a few reasons. we cant cut her off until we know shes prego or not...if shes prego its not right to just cut her off while shes got his baby. if shes not prego, then thats when shes got no reason to call him. I have not said anything to her since last night, when I said we need to grow up about this situation and let it go. she texted me back this morning and said " if u didnt wreck ur family and become a stripper (she used to strip!) u wouldnt have had to deal with me but since u a sorry ass mom and stripper, im having his baby to show u how its done" IM SUPPOSED TO IGNORE THAT SHIT?? she dont want deon..shes trying to piss me off. gotta get a baby,cant explain. but I let the shit go and she keep going and going. ive not texted her back yet, but im getting pissed.

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    ^But if you step back and look at it objectively... isn't this really just comical? It hasn't been long enough for her to quit. Give her a couple of weeks of unanswered messages and unreturned phone calls.
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    Oh man, not more of this.

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    No offense meant but you're a parent. I would think you'd be acting a bit more mature than you are.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Xiomara View Post
    IM SUPPOSED TO IGNORE THAT SHIT?? s



    Yes, yes you are. You're with him, you're a mother. Time to get over petty stuff and BE a mother. No more Jr High "He said she said" crap. You have more important things, and people, to focus on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Xiomara View Post
    My husband said she came over and showed him an ept. being a man, he didnt think to say "let me see u take one" or just wasnt thinkin that she could have used another prego friends.
    also she was so set on having an abortion, and wanted him to give her the money,rather than go with her and pay HALF of it like i told him to do. so when she realized he wouldnt hand over cash, she suddenly decided "she didnt wanna have an abortion"
    then she called him and told him shes having a little boy..something she KNOWS he wants so bad,since i gave him girls, not boys.
    i keep telling him take her to the health dept. and get proof from a doc. I do not know why he wont do it. lazy i guess. but he needs to act fast before i lose it.
    Hes at work now, ill bring that up,Venus,when he calls. I just got a text from her that said "they wouldnt let me see the doctor" dunno what that was about. but id think if a prego woman was sick enough to see a doc, they are not gonna refuse, if shes already there.

    sound like shes lieing to you guys? I wanna text her back soooo bad but dont wanna start up again. but ugh i wanna call her out. aaaaahhhh! (hiding the phone from view)
    bwahahahaahahahahahahahaaa...this chick is full of shit. Unless she's 5-6 months preggers, there is no way in hell that she can know what she's having. Sorry, but the bullshit meter is going off. And, um, yeah...they don't refuse doctor visits to pregger women. She's so not preggers. She's fucking playing a game. If your husband allows this woman to continue with this...you have a big choice to make ahead of you...

    But, I agree with Sirona...what kind of role model are you being to your girls? If this chick is as crazy as you say she is, then get the numbers changed. Any reason not to is just an excuse. Stop the drama, mama!!

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    She alos said earlier shes moving to SC next month and doesnt want deon in the kids life. Its no kid.
    anyways....i told her again that its childish for us to hate each other bein that im gonna be "stepmom" so i apologized for being a bitter bitch about her having my husbands kid(maybe) and she apoligized. i told her if she needs to talk we can. apparently,shes suicidal and needs a friend. i told her get help for babys sake. basically all the same stuff u guys were tellin me months ago.
    anyways....things are worked out and i guess she'll be calling me to talk. hasnt called yet.

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    Omg I know I shouldn't even say this BUT here I go , honey the problem is your man ......for real . He is letting this Chicky get in between things and around them , kid or no kid he HAS kids with you that should make you his first priority , damn you should put your foot down . He gets rid of this chick or you are getting rid of him !! I could just go on and on about this , I have been there with guys like this and I NOT trying to talk trash your man AT ALL I promise but some guys are too nice and they need US to remind that it is time to be real , real mean . She is not pregnant and if by some miracle she is she does not need him yet . Damn I am so glad to be single every damn day of my life

    BTW I am really sorry for you to have to go through this shit , big hugs xoxo
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    Why do you feel you have to respond to every stupid remark she makes. If she is so important to him, why isnt he with her? I think she is trying to get under your skin. You have to many things to worry about, Stress is not good with breast milk. Do you want to decrease your milk supply. With all this arguring between you and her. I dont see much od him talking. You know he can kick her out of his lif eif he wanted to! If she is pregnant and she want to leave so be it! He can establish everything with a DNA test later.
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    WHY are you being her friend now?? Have you not had enough yet? I've been trying to stick up for you for the past couple weeks, but I have a feeling you're loving all this drama.

    Wise up mama!

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    He tried to talk to her as little as possible...doesnt call her,she calls here. I have not been responding to every remark. I guess I have,since Ive been waiting for months to talk to her, just never had contact numbers. (it was always beef, just never any contact) anyways.... i finally got my chance to talk to her and I went off and did act dumb,gettin carried away and responding to every dumb remark with another dumb remark,like immature school kids. Thats why I settled it today and told her we need to chiil. The reason I even got involved was because my husband is not the type to hurt somebody feelings. He didnt wanna tell her that he dont believe shes prego. Everyday he asks me" how far along do u gotta be to know the sex...bla bla bla" and i finally just told her what we really think. then it got carried away. ANYWAYS....its settled now.we both apologized. IF shes prego, its no sense in us fighting forever since we'll be in eachothers lives forever. I doubt she is, but we'll see.

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    Noo im NOT being her friend. Just making up. I told her if she needs to talk to someone, its cool...we can talk civily. IF she is prego,we gotta make up or its gonna be hell as far as visits with the kid and such when we move overseas or whatever. Im not being her friend, im still bitter toward her. Im just sucking it up and letting it go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Xiomara View Post
    i told her if she needs to talk we can. apparently,shes suicidal and needs a friend. i told her get help for babys sake. basically all the same stuff u guys were tellin me months ago.
    anyways....things are worked out and i guess she'll be calling me to talk. hasnt called yet.
    Bad... BAD xiomara! WTF are you doing?! NO, don't be her friend? You want this crazy girl around your kids? She'll have a way in if you befriend her! STOP this!
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