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    Okay I need some advice to pass on to my friends..

    One of my friends(we will call her Kylie) just started seeing this guy a couple of weeks ago(we will call him Mike).. well her and her best friend friend(who we will call Tasha) as well as him and another couple ended up having an umm well orgy.

    Anyway Kylie told Tasha to go ahead and fuck Mike.. she thought it would be kinky... While Tasha n Mike were going at it she was fooling around with the other couple.

    Well Kylie said when she actually saw Tasha and Mike going at it it just became too much for her.

    Shes now having a hard time looking at Mike, cant even hold his hand and she is having a hard time talking to Kylie.

    I've been talking to both Kylie and Tasha all afternoon, Tasha feels like a bitch because she thinks shes ruined things for Kylie and Mike and Kylie is just so upset and confused she doesnt know what to think.

    Honestly I think they were all too young to get involved in this whole situation and they're not really mature enough to handle it(they're only 19).

    The thing is Kylie really likes Mike and she doesnt want to break up with him but shes so confused.

    Any advice I can pass onto them?

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    Why is she upset? It's not like he cheated, she gave her blessing.

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    Thats what I said. She said though once she saw it happening though it wasnt what she expected to feel and she hated it. He keeps telling her that it was 'just sex'. But I guess for her its more.

    I told her not to get into the orgy to begin with unless she was %100000 sure she coule handle it.

    She didnt want to say no though because she thought she would be a bitch.

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    Alot of people tend to get overwhelmed in these situations and that is why is not for everyone . Honestly she either has to get over it or get away from it . You know hard it is to be in a relationship with someone when there is something lurking over it . Honestly she either has to tell herself to get over it OR she has to move on , either way she has to stop torching herself . It was a mistake and they happen , move on . Learn from it , she is not the orgy type . I am not either AT ALL . However even if she does break things off with this guy she should learn to get over it and still be friends with the girl , unless the girl starts dating her ex .......good luck
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    she'll probably not be able to forgive and forget, it'll always be in the back of her mind. I know I'm like that. I don't think she will really enjoy being w/ him now. I personally don't share. Luckily the guy I'm seeing did, so I got my 3some. Were the roles reversed, I wouldn't be cool w/ it. Does that make sense???

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    Sadly, this is too common a story... .

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    Here's me in the not surprised section of the room. Threesomes and moresomes seem so cool to people, and it tends to not be that way once its over and done with for a lot of folks. "It isnt what I expected." and "I didnt think I would get jealous but I did." are the common catch phrases.


    Advice? She made her bed now she has to lie in it. It isnt his fault, it isnt the friends fault... really, there is no "fault" she needs to focus on that and hope that their little "this will be SO cool!" romp didnt kill the relationship for good.
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    ^Agreed.

    Maybe they all need to sit down and have a conversation... the three of them. They need to see if and how and when they can get through this.
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    I don't know what people expect when they do an orgy. Did she think it would be fun to watch her man fuck someone else? I think very few people would be able to really deal well with something like that. Maybe she should get with a guy who just wants her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    I don't know what people expect when they do an orgy. Did she think it would be fun to watch her man fuck someone else? I think very few people would be able to really deal well with something like that. Maybe she should get with a guy who just wants her.
    I, for one, love it.

    Oh--and good luck finding a guy who "just wants her." Don't get me wrong--he may be a good man who doesn't wish to stray without his woman's blessing. But I really don't know a single guy who would pass up such an opportunity if their girlfriend said, "Hey, there she is--go for it!" It's not like he's a scumbag because he took her up on the offer. He's human!

    I've been jealous in all my past relationships before my husband. Now I consider jealous a destructive, unhealthy emotion. It was taught to me, definitely not natural for me.
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    Cally,
    I'd say that she should talk this one through first with mike. she has to tell him how she feels and he ought to be reassuring her that she is his #1 and that sex is purely physical in this scenario. if he doesn't, maybe it's not right for her. as for the best friend she needs to let some time heal. but that will be easier to heal than the relationship IMO. but bottling this up, not talking about it to the people involved, will only lead to trouble i think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    I, for one, love it.

    Oh--and good luck finding a guy who "just wants her." Don't get me wrong--he may be a good man who doesn't wish to stray without his woman's blessing. But I really don't know a single guy who would pass up such an opportunity if their girlfriend said, "Hey, there she is--go for it!" It's not like he's a scumbag because he took her up on the offer. He's human!

    I've been jealous in all my past relationships before my husband. Now I consider jealous a destructive, unhealthy emotion. It was taught to me, definitely not natural for me.
    Well, like I said, there are some people who are into that sort of thing, but I think it would be a problem for most.

    My husband would not be into screwing someone else. I know that may seem unbelievable, but he is a one-woman man and I am convinced of that. I'm not jealous at all because I don't need to be. It wouldn't even occur to me to worry about him cheating or doing anything with another woman. But then, I don't consider not wanting your man fucking other women to be "jealousy" per se, I consider it human nature. I wouldn't screw anyone else either, because I made a vow not to AND because I really only want my husband. I had time to fuck guys when I was single, and I gave that up when I made a committment to him.

    It sounds to me like this woman wasn't really into it, "She didnt want to say no though because she thought she would be a bitch." That tells me she got pressured into something and was afraid to say no. Not cool, IMO. It's one thing if both people are into it and choose it, but quite another if the woman only agrees because she thinks it's what the guy wants. I think everyone deserves better treatment than that.

    To each their own, what works for one couple may not work for another. If you can make it work, that's wonderful for you, but I still don't think it's what most people want.
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    ^^Granted, I realize I am the exception.

    I don't feel like she was pressured by anyone, per se, though. I think she was caught up in the moment, thought, "Shit, why not?" and then couldn't handle it once it was happening. But I think it was her decision and no one was to blame. I think realizing this is the only thing that will help her with the negative feelings she's having toward both now.

    It sounds like she resents her boyfriend for actually going through with it. All I was saying is that I think most guys would take the opportunity if they were given it. She shouldn't feel like he's some kind of creep. She told him to do it and he did it. If she can't handle it, that's fine, but don't blame anyone else.

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