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    Lightbulb I think its time....

    I think its about time for me to hang up my dancing shoes. Ive thought about this many times and on bad nights Ive threatned to quit a few times but really deep down I love my job(most of the time!!). But Im ready to move on to the next stepping stone in my life. I miss spending every night with my husband and putting my kids to bed.

    So Ive thought long and hard as to how I am going to quit. Because everytime I think about it theres this little voice in me that say not to that I cant afford to quit that its to soon. But I know its just the voice of the addiction that comes with dancing. The addiction to the money to the stage and everything else good and bad that comes with this job. Despite how we complain we love it and most importantly we need it in a way. Im trying to quiet this voice but its hard.

    Ive thought that maybe I should kindof slowly cut down a night here and there for the next month just to kindof wean myself off the cash flow. Thats my question to all of the retired dancers out there. How do you do it and make a clean break without feeling like your missing something. Wow I dont even know if that makes any sense.

    Well thanks for any advice that you may have!!

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    Default Re: I think its time....

    The best thing to do is to try to develop some other business interest, start your own business or get a job doing something you really like, in addition to the dancing.

    Working in the clubs is addictive, for DJs as well--the money, putting on a show, and depending on the club also the vibrant feeling you get from the other people there who are into the show.

    But it's all too easy to get burned out, or to neglect other aspects of living. And having anything like a 'normal' or typical American life is really tough to pull off.

    Even taking one extra night off a week will probably be a big help in finding out what you need to know--about where you should go with this.
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    Default Re: I think its time....

    I feel your pain. I'd love to have a normal fully-clothed life, and if I could find anything else that paid near as much and gave me the same freedom I'd jump at it.
    The way its been lately I'm definatley burnt out. If I could make near the money and have half the fun I have when I go out of town. I'd do it forever!!! But traveling all the time is tiring....it would be nice to have a semblance of a normal life when I can go out to dinner with my husband or out with friends on the weekends instead of constantly being on the road, or working til all hours.

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    Default Re: I think its time....

    I would do the opposite. Dance more or the same as you are now and save money. Then cold turkey and either start a business (house cleaning is good money and good on the freedom) or look for a job you love. If it doesn't fit financially, you can always dance one night a week.



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    Default Re: I think its time....

    I've learned by dancing for so long and wanting to quit on many occasions, that change in life is gradual.

    As they say, when one door closes, another one opens. Or, have something to replace what you are doing now moneywise, before quitting. Then, as your new business starts picking up, you can little by little cut back on the dancing without any loss of income. Being home at night, but without the money you make working ain't cool either.

    I get tired because for me to make steady money dancing I have to work bookings 1500 miles from home many times for several months straight. But when I quit for good this time, I will have solid enough money to where I can never have to dance again.

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    Default Re: I think its time....

    Being as I love stripping, and even want to buy my own club, I haven't any real advice that might be helpful. I did have a thought, though. I did a search on Amazon.com and came up with some great books that assist people making a career change.

    http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw...&Go.y=16&Go=Go


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    I use to feel the same way before I quit, cold turkey one day. It wasn't fun anymore and I was turning into my character at work instead of the real me and I didn't like that.

    I haven't danced since February. I have had such strong urges to go back that I would get crabby. I'd miss everything from the stage to the clothes. I even scheduled a couple auditions to go back in the months up to now, but I never followed through. I thought it was because I felt guilty doing it when my hubby didn't like it.

    In reality it was ME that didn't want to do it. My husband finally told me to do what I needed to do, since it seemed like I missed dancing so much. It was two weeks ago, I was all set to go back to my old club.

    I passed and put my remaining dancerwear on eBay that day.

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