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    i think i've decided to give up private parties.

    for the last few weeks, i've really been resenting having to go and do them. my show performance has gotten really slack because i can't be bothered with it anymore. i'm getting really, really, REALLY fed up with my agency never answering my phone calls and just generally being unorganised. i'm sick of working 4 nights at the club and 2 nights of private shows and only seeing my boyfriend for 3 minutes a day. i'm sick of letting guys rub oil and lotion all over me, and i'm sick of letting guys lick whipped cream off my boobs. i'm sick of having photos taken of me on camera phones. i'm really over having to do a show at 3pm on one side of the city, and another at 12.30am on the other side of the city. i'm sick of getting guilt tripped when i can't do a show just because my agency has no girls. i'm sick of being relied on.

    like i said above, i've really been resenting it lately. every time i get a show now, rather than thinking "yay" i think "ugggh can't be bothered!". and i think i've realised that i just don't want to do private shows anymore.

    so today, i'm gonna give notice. i'm already almost completely booked out for december, so i'm gonna tell them i'll finish up what i've got booked for this month, and as of next year, that's it. no more.

    gotta go to a show now but will continue when i get back as to why this is a tough decision....

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    aww. I'm glad you're doing whats best for you. Good luck with it, and just remember you're doing the right thing for you when they try to keep you on.

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    I say good for you. You obviously are, as you said, sick of it! I hate doing private shows too, ick-i-poo. Take back your freedom girl

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    Good luck Darcy, it sounds like you are making the right decision for yourself. So if you stop doing private shows, what will you do?




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    i'll just do 4 nights a week at the club.

    and last nights events certainly made making this decision a whole lot easier :|

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    Sound's like you're burnt out. You could stop doing PP or you could find a diff agency that will work with you and let you work when you want. Having more control over where you go or what you do can relieve alot of burn out. Good luck in whatever you do.
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    huh... yeah, sounds like burn out. But then it also sounds like your boundaries are becoming tiresome for you. I do parties and I don't let anyone lick me or rub oil on any private parts (includes my boobies.) They still have a kick ass time, and those few in my time doing parties that don't are the ones that wouldn't be satisfied unless I was fucking them, which, frankly, isn't my job.

    Try bringing your parties down to PG level and see where that gets you and for GOSH SAKES, NO PICTURES. No cell phones out at all, are you kidding?

    If they want pictures, they have to pay for it. Bring a polaroid camera if you don't care and charge them $10-20 per.

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    i'd never work for any of the other agencies here. they're not very good. not very good at all.

    fancygirl, that's just the way things are at my agency. one of the shows they offer is a strawberries & cream show, and that requires me to have whipped cream licked off me. it doesn't really bother me, i'm just over it. PP's are very different here, we don't do games or stick around for an hour or two, it's usually an 18 minute striptease that involves lotions, oils, whipped cream, etc.

    i just simply don't wanna do parties anymore. it's just too much hassle. i'm at a kick ass club now where it's just soooooo much easier and hassle free, and the money is better. i'd much prefer to just do Wed-Sat at the club, rather than Mon-Thurs at the club and PP Fri-Sat like i'm currently doing.

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    ...first mermaidnz... now you Darcy... NO!!!

    Ah well. Just like Jessica, I will totally understand why you need to quit the PP. If the club is more lucrative, then go with that .... I would. Unfortunately, I would have to put up with alot more in the local strip clubs on the Gold Coast or even in Brisbane (strange guys man-handling me -argh!) than I do at PP.

    At PP I may do more (xxx) however they can't touch me and if and when they do it is under controlled circumstances. I feel much better off.


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    yeah, it's kinda the opposite for me because i get touched LESS at the club. it's not like my parties are an all-out grope fest, but controlled touching is the norm... only in the sense of them rubbing lotion/oil into our boobies.

    that's not even the main reason behind my decision though. i'm really just fed up with dealing with my agency. it's been REALLY annoying me lately that they never answer my phone calls and never call me back. i'm sick of the lack of organisation. it's just so much easier at the club. at least when i'm working there, i know exactly what nights i'll be there, what time, and i dont have to organise my way around the whole city on a spur of the moment thing. and at the club, if i come down ill or just need a night off, then there's no dramas. there's no, "oh... okay... yep, *frustrated sigh* now everything's all fucked up, okay, god now i'm going to have to organise something" guilt tripping crap like i get from the agency.

    after the shit that happened on friday night, i was REALLY pissed off. i was considering just quitting without even giving notice... but i'm a better person than that.

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    if you want to PM your rant feel free

    As I said, I will understand. I'm also sick of the lack of organisation on some agents parts here in S.E.QLD.... I also am not a fan of the last minute work that is so prevalent in the business. Why can't guys pre-book damnit?!

    Well, sometimes it isn't the guys fault... they may have had someone booked who cancelled last minute or just didn't turn up so they are booking last minute... the car travel/driving does get to me too esp. when the agents expect you to be at bookings in real quick time which might mean breaking speed limits.

    I really can't afford another speeding ticket. I only have three points left before my license is suspended so now I'm really concerned about that... if I don't have a license... I can't do parties back home! I'm the driver.

    Ah well... just part and parcel of PPs

    I also thought they would treat you better with you being one of their prime/top girls ??


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    not just one of their top girls, one of their ONLY girls. i'm the only reliable brunette on staff, and because the only other two top girls are "the barbie babes" lesbian show and always booked out with that, i generally take in 95% of the straight single shows that come in.

    it's not that they treat me bad. it's just that they're unorganised and lazy. they always have been... it's just that now i work for a club too, that is so incredibly professional and organised, it's starting to really annoy me that the agency are how they are. having my phone calls ignored really pisses me off. it pisses me off that the mobile phone is regularly left in the office when nobody is there so i can't contact my bosses. it pisses me off that they tell me they're going to organise something and they don't and then i get told off for it. it pisses me off when they tell me i'm booked for a show at 10.15 so they can fit it into my schedule, and when i arrive the guys tell me they booked me for 10.45 and i have to sit around waiting for half an hour.

    and yeah, the driving around is a pain. finding places, having to park in stupid places, etc. it's a hassle.

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    So why don't you start your own agency?

    Even if you no longer want to do the bluer shows, maybe other dancers would prefer working for a well organised Darcy Foxx than a shambolic agency.

    I would imagine that a dozen or so agency fees each week would amount to a useful additional income.

    Phil.

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    i cannot think of anything worse than running an agency. yes, i am a reliable, classy entertainer. many girls are not. trying to manage a bunch of girls who cancel last minute, dont turn up to shows, turn up drunk/high, or fuck the clients... screw that. i have considered the idea, but even though it sounds good in theory, i myself am not organised enough to run something like that, and i don't need the stress of dealing with idiot strippers who don't do the job properly.

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    Those last minute shows are SUCH a pain, V. I spent $400 this weekend alone in cab fare because I didn't have a car (and fucking Michael FINALLY agreed to get a car loan when he realized I had to say 'no' to $600 worth of shows and pay $400 in cab fares... gee, $1000 a week that can go to a car?! I'm pretty sure we'd have ONE HELL OF A CAR if it wasn't spent on stupid shit like cabs!)......

    Anyway, I am starting to feel like you Darcy... I know where you're coming from...

    except I think mine has to do with my new birth control. :/ Blah.


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    I also agree that running an agency is as great an idea as people make it out to be.... f --k that! If anything, I would prefer to work as myself (freelance) and be an individual dancer that does duo shows with one or two reliable girls on staff (as such) that I would refer waitressing gigs to and thus they would promote me as a showgirl etc.

    I would love to get to a point where I could work independant of agents. Just myself with my duo partner (hey LM!) taking on bookings directly... with one or two other girls I know well enough to cover the waitressing gigs or part of the deal (since I don't do waitressing).


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    ahhhh Darcy welcome to the woprld of spending the night in an air conditioned club, where the guys are often more well behaved, and bigger spenders!

    i dont miss show work one bit! all that driviong and stress...and i make more in the clubson a bad night then i did doing shows on a good night! w00p!

    congrats for giving it up- focus on shoots and clubs

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    (except i don't like how touching is standard and compulsory as such in all the gold coast clubs... I would do as Darcy is doing if all the clubs on the Gold Coast were the same as most of australia -- no touching of the dancer -- in a heartbeat however as it stands... I am overall touched less in my shows and thus much happier than I ever was in the three plus years of dancing on the coast ----- just my experience)

    So in the end, I agree with Jess (mermaidnz) that if you are making more in the clubs with less hassle... congrats!


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl View Post
    I also agree that running an agency is as great an idea as people make it out to be.... f --k that! If anything, I would prefer to work as myself (freelance) and be an individual dancer that does duo shows with one or two reliable girls on staff (as such) that I would refer waitressing gigs to and thus they would promote me as a showgirl etc.

    I would love to get to a point where I could work independant of agents. Just myself with my duo partner (hey LM!) taking on bookings directly... with one or two other girls I know well enough to cover the waitressing gigs or part of the deal (since I don't do waitressing).
    Hello! I got a few bookings on my own recently so this isn't a terrible idea... We should make our own "V and M" website.

    I have a calendar with my mobile (morriganslayde.planzo.com) so people can book me directly and us directly... and it makes things easier. It's how I got my first self-booked show.


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    That is what I meant... working freelance without being an agency... just yourself, your duo partner and one or two other girls who can take on some bookings (esp. waitressing bookings since I have a strong preference to not do them if possible). That isn't an agency... that is a girl working freelance/independant.

    It's when you get other people starting to have to pay you fees for the bookings that is when you know you have become an agency/agent. I honestly would prefer NOT to do that in the end.


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    hooray. i think tonight is my last ever private party!

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl View Post
    That is what I meant... working freelance without being an agency... just yourself, your duo partner and one or two other girls who can take on some bookings (esp. waitressing bookings since I have a strong preference to not do them if possible). That isn't an agency... that is a girl working freelance/independant.

    It's when you get other people starting to have to pay you fees for the bookings that is when you know you have become an agency/agent. I honestly would prefer NOT to do that in the end.
    Isn't that how Catherine's started?

    I say that because after spending two nights with P------ and the other girl I mentioned while hearing them talk to Bubbles... yeah...

    Wow.


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    ^^^ I would purposefully stay small. If one of my two waitresses left me then I would look for someone to replace her not take on more girls. Keep it small IMO as then it is less trouble and political like alot of the agencies seems to be *sigh*

    Thanks to not having a Misses Claus outfit I missed out on a party tonight (24th). Note to self for the new year: Get red lingere and make my own version of a Xmas sort of outfit so that I will have something that can be used not just for Xmas themed shows... any shows where red lingere is warranted.


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    it does sound like you are burnt out, I have been there before, i usually take some time off from my night job in that case. (not sure if you can afford to do that) but you could keep working at the club, try looking for another agency and just take a break for a couple of weeks, if you go back and stil hate it then quit. Whenever i do private parties with more then 5 people im really strict, the most i do is is a lap dance, no other contact, and i will do toy shows and stuff, usually i just dance and do stupid little shit that you do at bachelor parties, tie the groom up and embarass him. we have really strict laws in ky , basically any type of contact other then low contact lap dance is considered prostitution so there isn't much we can do. ANYWAYS, i got totally off topic, sorry about that. just trying to say that maybe you can change the ways you do private parties a little, just to make it new.
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