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    After I finish a dance I usually just say, "Would you like to continue?" or "Would you like me to keep going?" Or, if they are Spanish speaking I say, "Mas?"

    What exactly do you say? I know it's a simple and possibly silly question, but I know that I could be more aggressive with this. Today after the second song with a guy I said, "Would you like to make it three?" And he said, "I was gonna make it five!" So, that worked, but I kind of felt that asking him made him think I only wanted to do three. I don't know. Obviously, that one worked out well.

    I find asking straight out to be awkward, but what other option do we have? And sorry if this has been discussed before, I thought it would be good to get some fresh ideas flowing.

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    My line... "Do you wanna keep going?" works ok for me as long as its just as the next song is starting and BEFORE the guy shifts to reach for his wallet. Once he shifts, you've lost him, at least in my experience.

    If the guy is really hot and bothered... said while making eye contact... "I think we need to keep going." That's when the guy feels like i'm really reading his mind and just saying what both of us were thinking. This one works like a charm.

    As for selling more than two in a row... you got me there. I'd like suggestions on that myself.
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    I found this on stripperweb a few weeks ago

    it was something like

    "I want to do another one, don't you?"

    basically anything where you can word it and subliminally push them towards the sale.

    for this one: of COURSE they want another dance. dur. and i've made it clear i'm totally wanting to GIVE more.

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    Get into a hot position, look a little mischievous at him and say, "we can do another?" As I'm slightly nodding yes. It works. ALOT. Doing a hot lapdance also works. LOL

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    "that was the warm up , do you want the exersize?", cheesy lol, but it works for more

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    Usually what I say is (in my hot and steamy voice) "I dont wanna stop, I wanna keep going" insert Valley High giggle

    Or "I want to do another, dont' you" and I also nod my head yes as Bridgette suggested.







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    i usualy only ask for the second and maybe 3rd... after that i tell them (in a sexy or cute way) that they tell -me- when they've had enough. that way i don't have to keep asking and asking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    i usualy only ask for the second and maybe 3rd... after that i tell them (in a sexy or cute way) that they tell -me- when they've had enough. that way i don't have to keep asking and asking.
    ^ Yep after a few that's a good thing to do....

    To get past the 'one dance' I say something like "You're so fun to dance for, let's do that again!" "Oooh, that ws nice! I want to do more!" "You'de like more of that?" (nodding head and smile, smile, smile...)

    I think it requires both making him feel like you enjoyed yourself and you enjoy making him feel good. Simultaniously (sp?). I say these things every time I give a dance, and I can honestly say that 90% of the time I get three or more dances out of it.

    Another thing that I like to do, but I'm sure it doesn't work for everyone, is to have some sort of rapport going on while I dance for him....to get him involved somehow...either with eye contact, or I'll grab his hands and incorporate them into my moves, or I flirt verbally asking him questions that have yes answers.

    Doing these things also keeps the dances from being the same old boring "defend yourself against the grope machine" dance and I wind up enjoying myself more, as does he!




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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    After I finish a dance
    In addition to all the good stuff about eye contact, asking while touching or very close, assumptively phrased questions, etc., one thing that dancers have done that has worked with me is not really to "finish a dance". Instead, they continue about 10 seconds into the next dance without stopping and then just slow down a bit to ask. For some reason it seems to blur the line between songs, making it seem more like one event -- a connection with that dancer. If the connection is there I am usually looking for an excuse to say yes anyway, and it seems to make it that much more natural.

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    ^ yeah. i'm always in the middle of a really good position/move when the song ends. funny how that happens isn't it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by casaubon1 View Post
    In addition to all the good stuff about eye contact, asking while touching or very close, assumptively phrased questions, etc., one thing that dancers have done that has worked with me is not really to "finish a dance". Instead, they continue about 10 seconds into the next dance without stopping and then just slow down a bit to ask. For some reason it seems to blur the line between songs, making it seem more like one event -- a connection with that dancer. If the connection is there I am usually looking for an excuse to say yes anyway, and it seems to make it that much more natural.
    Oh yeah, I already do that. And I make sure I am strategically placed across his lap right when the song ends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by casaubon1 View Post
    In addition to all the good stuff about eye contact, asking while touching or very close, assumptively phrased questions, etc., one thing that dancers have done that has worked with me is not really to "finish a dance". Instead, they continue about 10 seconds into the next dance without stopping and then just slow down a bit to ask. For some reason it seems to blur the line between songs, making it seem more like one event -- a connection with that dancer. If the connection is there I am usually looking for an excuse to say yes anyway, and it seems to make it that much more natural.
    Yep, I do that. Just a little into the next song. My way of phrasing it is more like telling instead of asking, but still in a questioning tone

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    i usualy only ask for the second and maybe 3rd... after that i tell them (in a sexy or cute way) that they tell -me- when they've had enough. that way i don't have to keep asking and asking.
    Gotta be careful with that one though so there's no problem with payments and you don't end up getting screwed. I was with a guy last night that I knew had a lot of cash on him, so I used that line and kept dancing...after 9 songs I was thinking, "If we don't stop soon, my legs just might give out on me." LOL!

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    ^^Agreed - I make a point of asking for every single one. I have never gotten stiffed and I don't plan on it.

    But I do stop verbally asking after a few songs, and just look him in the eye, look quickly over toward the DJ who's playing a new song, then back in his eye again, nod and smile mischievously. They usually nod back. It still signals a new dance (and his agreement to buy it), but lets him stay in that 'place' better. Often they'll just tell me after several songs to go until they say stop. Then I don't ask anymore, but once we hit 10 I'll remind them occasionally how many they've gotten.

    I have NO trouble selling the dances, and more of them - I don't want any issues over how much is owed. Doing this keeps me from having problems. I have only had that type of problem 3 times in my 11 years, and I wound up getting paid those times (only once got shorted $10). Every other time the guy happily pays me the amount I say, and I do NOT inflate the dance count.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    Then I don't ask anymore, but once we hit 10 I'll remind them occasionally how many they've gotten.
    How much are your dances? Ours are $25, I am hesistant to rack up more than 4 songs if I haven't seen their wad.

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    sunnie -- me too. Sometimes I feel like they really will just keep chugging along. So it's something like... "Oh wow, we get to keep going? Awesome, I'm so excited! Could I just get money for those first five songs first?" (all the while moving around, jiggling, all those good things) I've never had a guy decide to stop the dances because of that question.

    Oh and another trick. If he's hesitant but would like to stop (like "I think I had better stop, my heart can't take it" or something equally not-firm) then I'll pout and be like "But one more makes five, and five's my lucky number, Bob! I don't want to have an unlucky night, you can help, can't you?" I mean, what loser wants to jinx a pretty girl?

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    what about in pre-payment clubs? we have to get the money up front so there is always going to be that point where he has to get his wallet out.

    im not good at asking for more dances but im going to use some of your ideas but ill have to modify them as it sounds like u girls dance at clubs where they pay after the dance.

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    Dances at my club are $10. I routinely do 10-20 in a row of those.


    $25/song in vip with a 3song minimum. After 3 vips they can buy one at a time. So I'll ask each song, up to $200 worth before collecting. If it's someone I know I don't worry about it, but if it's a new guy I've generally gotten enough info to feel comfy doing up to $200 before I get my money. I make sure they're aware where the count is too, before I rack up too many. Like, once we hit 4 I say so, then at 6, etc. So there's no confusion.

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    depending on how bold you want to be about it:


    "can we keep going?" or "can we do another"
    breathe into ear: "let's keep going...."
    "we don't have to stop do we?"
    A bit before asking for another song, sign and say how much you're enjoying yourself and aren't they? and then say, I don't want to stop, do you?

    with all of these, I find a bit of moaning is highly effective.

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    Always ask for another dance after 1. And always ask for a tip. You would be surprised how much cheddar these guys who look like slobs really have...

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    From the male side of the fence, much though I appreciate you want to keep the dances coming, don't be so ambiguous that the guy has legitimate reason to misunderstand you.

    As long as we understand "shall we do another one" is costing us for another dance, everything's fine. If you moan it in a low voice that we don't really hear (or understand your meaning) that way lies confusion and a dispute about how many dances were requested.

    OK, there will always be guys trying it on, but genuine misunderstandings are also possible.

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    Whatever you do ladies, don't let this happen to you. An oldy, but goody from '05.

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    ^LOL - Is that for real?
    If so, I think the strippers deserved to get stiffed in that situation. Any girls that don't know to be wary of a few 18 year olds who seem to be a little green around the edges are obviously just plain dumb.
    If they weren't comfortable collecting after 10 songs or so, you'd think they'd do it after 20! But 40? That's just asking for trouble. I usually collect after I do dances, but if I'm doing a VIP, you'd better believe I'm collecting up front unless it's a serious regular.

    In between each dance, I ask (unless he tells me specifically how many he wants up front or tells me to keep going until he says to stop):

    "Would you like another?"
    "Want me to keep going?"
    "More?"
    "Can we do another one?"

    Of course body language and gestures mean everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    Whatever you do ladies, don't let this happen to you. An oldy, but goody from '05.

    http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0902052lap1.html
    Damn!!! I definately would NOT dance 41 songs in a row for some 18-year-old and just expect them to have that kind of cash on them. WOW! I wonder if they ever did get compensated fully?

    That's awesome the law was behind them on this one, I erally wouldn't have expected that!
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

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    I say, "Would you like me to keep going? " and then if they say yes, I say "okay baby you tell me when to stop" so that I don't have to keep asking after every song. Once I get to about five songs, I ask something like "Can you handle anymore" to make sure that they know you know, a bunch of dances have gone by and they owe me money. Now, the thing about this is, the club will not make the guy pay you for more than one dance that you did on "Credit" (without getting paid up front) so if somebody does stiff you, you are fucked. That being said, for all the extra money I make doing "rolls" of dances, as I call them, I will take the chance that maybe some dumbass will stiff me. If it happens, oh well, I lost 15 minutes of my time and on to the next one

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