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    Default Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    When I'm not interested in getting a dance from a girl, I always just say, "No Thanks", and most girls leave it go at that.
    Recently, I had 2 different girls at the same club get in my face on separate occasions and make a big scene.
    Both of them pretty much said the same thing, like why don't you like me, why aren't you interested in me, etc.? The only explanation I could give them is they weren't my type. Then they badgered me for what my type was, and if there wasn't something else they could do. They went on and on, and very loudly, that I finally just left and went elsewhere. It is hard to explain, but what attracts me to one girl might not work for me with a different girl trying it out.
    Anyways, it just seemed so bizaare, and so random to happen with one girl, and then to have the same thing happen again. I've probably turned down at least a thousand dancers with a simple 'No thanks', and they all seemed to let it roll off their back without a second thought.

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    I think girls have either been way too spoiled, or are just way to frustrated. This same situation happend yesterday at my club. A very attractive girl went up to a group of guys, who were in our "Dom Room", I guess they weren't interested so she felt it alright to tell them to "go fuck themselves" . Even after management tried damage control the guys ended up leaving, taking all their money with them. I don't know, I can't understand why girls can't see the big picture...he may not want you this trip, but if you're nice, he has a good time, comes back next week, with friends..voila, money for you! Sorry you have been a victim of this.

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    Throwing a fit like that in front of a customer is just such an ugly thing to do. You should make a complaint to management.

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    Probably newbies. Or not banking. The biz is not for people like that.

    Like a dancer getting in your face is going to make you change your mind! Lol.

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    Default Re: Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    they shouldn't have gotten "in your face about it", but it could be because of frustration. maybe it's the city you're in.

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    Grr I hate nasty girls :-(

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    Default Re: Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    The sad thing is that it happens with some frequency. They probably are mostly new, and just don't have a clue how to behave in a sales/personal service business. But what it does, even to an experienced customer, is shatter the "candy store" aspect of an SC -- that feeling that you are in a happy environment where lots of pretty women want to join you and help you have fun. You suddenly feel like you are out on the street again, and boy, does it take away the urge to spend.

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    Default Re: Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    That methamphetamine itch can't be scratched unless you give them money. That's just not normal behaviour in any setting let alone a strip club. I would have complained to Mgmt then left as a night is just ruined there.

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    Default Re: Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    I mentioned this to one of my faves that used to dance there with them. She said they were bigtime hustlers that weren't used to getting turned down.
    They both have recently moved on to a new club,(brand new, not just new to them).
    I have been lucky enough to miss them so far, but one of my friends said the one girl got in his face there already.
    I'm on good terms with the owner there from previous business dealngs, so if they hit me with that BS again, I will be sure to complain.

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    Every girl I have ever refused a dance with has been really cool about it except for one. When I was new to the club scene there was a gorgeous woman at my local club who seemed to have a bit of an attitude. I had over heard her getting in more than one customers face about not wanting a dance with her. I guarantee you that I am the most polite and easy going customer you'll ever meet but she approached me one night and asked if I wanted a dance. When I said no thanks she started in with the "What's wrong? You're not gay are you? Don't you like girls?" As politely as I could I said "I love girls....I just don't like bitches like you. NOW WOULD YOU PLEASE GO AWAY." She hasn't bothered me since.

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    Default Re: Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    If strip clubs had an "ignore" button that would be the perfect solution. But they dont so each party has to let the other know using normal social tools that he/she isnt interested. Dont feel bad about it. A dancer can be an ice queen if you dont meet her definition of a good customer. Thats her prerogative. OTOH if a dancer doesnt meet your requirements you are under no obligation to acknowledge her existence.

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    Default Re: Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    The aggressive ones can be obnoxious
    I date strippers, especially if they love to model for me.



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    My wingman had a dancer sit down and asked him to buy her a drink. We had not seen her before and she did not even introduce herself. He declined and she jumped up and shouted for the whole club to hear " hey somebody find this guy a job" several times and walked off. We had been there for a while tipping at the stage and buying dances, we are not freeloaders.

    We finished our drinks and left.

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    Default Re: Girls getting in your face after getting turned down.

    Ive had that happen to me a few times,some dancers dont understand that us customers PAY for these dances,so why should we 'settle' for someone who isnt completely our type? if I dont think the girl is a perfect 10,she wont get my $$.And why should she ?especially when another girl at the club will give me the same lap dance AND be my type?

    Also,throwing a temper tantrum because a guy says no is probably the worst thing a dancer can do.You pretty much kill ANY chance you had with the guy buying a dance from you.The best thing to do is smile and walk away.

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    That is so lame! I'm sorry these girls gave you a hard time. A professional dancer understands that no matter how hot she is, she won't be every single guy's fantasy. These girls are probably new, and were obviously frustrated because they were't making money. You shoul've talked with the manager.

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    Yes, I agree that it was very immature to throw a tantrum and make scene, that's very childish! However, I can understand her frustration, if you're working on a night and 95% of the guys in the room are NOT getting dances from anyone! That gets to be rather annoying after a while because without us making money, they wouldn't have a stripclub to come to. Or if a customer invites you to sit with him, then when after a few minutes you ask for the dance they say "no", that's very rude on the customers part! If that's the situation, I think the dancer has a right to become frustrated & upset, not make a scene though.

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    Well, the advice that I would give you, as someone from Wisconsin, where I see you are from (I live in Las Vegas now) is that wisconsin clubs are really really unprofessional and just generally all around weird. The girls really have no hustle, no idea what they're doing... I'm not saying that it's not fun to go to strip clubs there, and god knows I love Wisconsin, but ..... If you're used to going to clubs elsewhere, I don't know, things in Wisconsin clubs just seem to go down in a weird way.

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    That's the most annoying thing that can happen in a club.
    Sometimes I get the feeling some dancers want to be humiliated. I can easily say, "Look, I find you incredibly unattractive. I couldn't imagine in a million years paying you to sit on my lap. You are hideous. Please go away." These dumbass girls would probably still continue to ask how come I don't want a dance.

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    It is happening more and more at the downtown club here in Seattle. Lots of girls, few spending customers, and new inexperienced management, results in heavy hustle.
    I have watched the spending businessmen replaced with nonspending street punks.
    Frankly we need a new club downtown to give some competition.

    Some of the girls are pushing hard like this, and its working, for now.

    One girl really seems to like getting in my face, I always ask her to leave, and that I will never ever get a dance from her. Management doesn't care. She has even come after me while waiting in a both for my fav to return from a stage.

    Stripper stalker or some shit, dunno.

    Someone open a real club in downtown Seattle please?

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    Quote Originally Posted by rlams2000 View Post
    My wingman had a dancer sit down and asked him to buy her a drink. We had not seen her before and she did not even introduce herself. He declined and she jumped up and shouted for the whole club to hear " hey somebody find this guy a job" several times and walked off. We had been there for a while tipping at the stage and buying dances, we are not freeloaders.

    We finished our drinks and left.
    I just don't get the last part, why on earth let something like that chase you out of the club? Of course, in your area maybe you just decided to hit another club.

    Its happened to me. I always try to stay nice and polite while not giving into that crap. Maybe I'm just a trouble maker but its usually fun to rub the offender's nose in it too. You do that by making sure she sees you take another dancer back to the LD area!

    Was approached by a dancer, new to this club, who asked me if I wanted some company. I politely declined. Before I got the chance to tell her why, she got stupid. I had been waiting on a particular dancer. That dancer was busy seperating some other PL from his money while I patiently waited at the bar for the same favor. Well its more complicated than that but I digress. For a second or two I was dumbfouned as this dancer berated me.

    Figuring the best thing to do was to just walk off I started to get up with the intention of heading to the stage. Before I even got off the bar stool the bartender grabbed my hand and stopped me. The bartender is usually a sweet gal but she looked pissed and just told the dancer "leave, now". At first the dancer looked like she was going to argue with her but then she sort of stomped off.

    So the dancer I was waiting on finally gets done with the other guy, she comes over to say "hi" before heading to the dressing room to freshen up. She's intercepted by the bartender.. hmm.. wonder what they were talking about. The fav who is usually very sweet, or at least good at acting that way, gets a crossed look on her face.

    The fav says "lets talk" and pulls me toward the vip area. We usually talk at the bar or a table first for a while before heading to LD land. We take the long way to vip so we walk right by the offending dancer who is sitting at a table with another dancer sulking. At this club you've got to pay to get into the vip/LD area which I did. I'm still kinda ill at ease with the speeded up pace of this visit. We get in there and the fav realizes she doesn't have a drink. I offer to go get her one but she insisted on getting it herself. She gets her drink, stops to talk to the dj and then came back. We found a booth and I figured she was going to start straight in with the laps but no she sat down and did our usual visiting.

    Eventually the fav is called to the stage so we get up and head back to floor. She does her stage set and then its back to the vip, of course walking right by the earlier dancer. The fav knows she's going to make around X amount from me whenever I visit. The amount of time we spend together varies on how busy the club is and how much money she needs to make by hustling other PLs. We spent quite a bit of time in the vip until I finally needed to leave. The fav walks me to the door, as we pass by the earlier dancer "oh, I can't believe we did that many dances.... ".

    In this case the dancer was new to the club and she didn't realize she was stepping into marked territory but the general idea can work in other situations too. So instead of leaving in these situations just make sure the offending dancer gets to see you have a good time spending your money on someone else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bennie Blanco View Post
    That's the most annoying thing that can happen in a club.
    Sometimes I get the feeling some dancers want to be humiliated. I can easily say, "Look, I find you incredibly unattractive. I couldn't imagine in a million years paying you to sit on my lap. You are hideous. Please go away." These dumbass girls would probably still continue to ask how come I don't want a dance.
    I agree,we are really damned if we do,and damned if we dont.If we make up some excuse to be 'nice' then the girl would just keep coming back asking for a dance,which is annoying if you think the girl is hideous.HOWEVER if you are TOO honest and say "look I think your unattractive",that will probably piss her off and make her lash out.THere is really no good options when turning down a dance to a girl that you find ugly.

    Honestly I dont even know why strippers ask the customers anyways,the guys at strip clubs are there to get dances.Guys know that if they want a dance all they have to do is ask,so if a guy thinks your hot he will most likely come to you anyhow.There is really no need to ask anyone.

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    This has happened to me a couple of times, and I can never be honest with the girl. I like pretty faces, but I'm not going to tell the girl that's why I'm not getting a dance from them. There's nothing I think I could say to get them out of my face except for yes to a dance, so I just say, Just because, look around awkwardly until they stomp off, order a drink, so that the other girls don't take me turning down the one as a sign that I'm not gonna buy any dances. And it's usually the frustrated girls who don't realize if everyone in the club is saying no to you, maybe the problem isn't everyone in the club, maybe it's you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greentea View Post
    HOWEVER if you are TOO honest and say "look I think your unattractive",that will probably piss her off and make her lash out.THere is really no good options when turning down a dance to a girl that you find ugly.
    I can't honestly say that any of the girls I've seen in any of the clubs I've visited was unattractive. A lot of them weren't my type. (I'm still not sure what my type is but I seem to know them when I see them. )

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    Quote Originally Posted by rlams2000 View Post
    My wingman had a dancer sit down and asked him to buy her a drink. We had not seen her before and she did not even introduce herself. He declined and she jumped up and shouted for the whole club to hear " hey somebody find this guy a job" several times and walked off. We had been there for a while tipping at the stage and buying dances, we are not freeloaders.

    We finished our drinks and left.
    Why do you need a wingman in a strip club?

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    What a bunch of crybabies. Most girls don't mind if he says no thanks because she is not his type but if he is just there to drink beer and watch a free show then he deserves to get bitched at.

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