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    Default I Think I'm a Regular... And Now What?

    This being the forum where customers ask questions, I'll only do just that.

    1. I've been to see the same girl 3 days in a row (that she's worked). Privates each time. The 3rd day, much more just sitting around having conversation than usual. My previous practice (for my entire life) has been to NEVER see the same girl more than once or twice in a row... probably specifically to avoid being a regular. Am I one now?

    2. Is the ONLY right answer to the following set of questions, "depends on the girl"?

    -- whether she cares if I see her each time we're both in the club
    -- whether she cares if I have privates with others
    -- whether she would expect me to do "extras" (customer style), like gifts or whatever

    3. Is the only answer to any of these questions, for almost any girl, "keep the money coming and you'll be fine."

    4. What percentage of regulars also qualify as PL's?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post
    This being the forum where customers ask questions, I'll only do just that.

    1. I've been to see the same girl 3 days in a row (that she's worked). Privates each time. The 3rd day, much more just sitting around having conversation than usual. My previous practice (for my entire life) has been to NEVER see the same girl more than once or twice in a row... probably specifically to avoid being a regular. Am I one now?
    I wouldn't lose sleep over the semantics of exactly where "regularity" begins and ends. There is neither honor nor shame in the title, so I say if you can afford the money and time, and it feels good, then go do it. When it no longer feels good, stop.

    2. Is the ONLY right answer to the following set of questions, "depends on the girl"?

    -- whether she cares if I see her each time we're both in the club
    -- whether she cares if I have privates with others
    -- whether she would expect me to do "extras" (customer style), like gifts or whatever
    Assess why you partake of the services in a strip club. Now assess why you would partake of the services of any other hospitality business. In short, if you're worried about what your seller thinks of you, you've got the cart before the horse. Its their job to impress you after all, not the other way around.

    3. Is the only answer to any of these questions, for almost any girl, "keep the money coming and you'll be fine."
    See answer to Q #2. Same thing. I don't keep eating at Quiznos because I fear them giving me poor service for showing up too infrequently. I keep eating there because I like the food.

    4. What percentage of regulars also qualify as PL's?
    That one's easy...100%...and like the rest, I'm guilty as charged.
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    Meh your kind of a regular, not one the girl will rely on yet but yea your kinda there.. It takes about 2 months before your considered a true regular.

    The girl doesnt own you, your free to do whatever you want and see whatever dancer you want. I will warn you though some girls get possessive, if she starts getting bitchy you get privates with other dancers, ditch her.

    Umm I refuse to comment on the PL

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    I think you have to marry her.

    Or, at least ask. Right now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post

    2. Is the ONLY right answer to the following set of questions, "depends on the girl"?

    -- whether she cares if I see her each time we're both in the club
    -- whether she cares if I have privates with others
    -- whether she would expect me to do "extras" (customer style), like gifts or whatever
    i'm sure she will care if you see her when you're both in the club, i mean, if you like her, then wouldn't you want to? even if its just a hi... and since you have been coming back for her she will take her time up to come up to you. really this is something that shouldn't even be an issue.

    ok well, many girls totally understand that it's YOUR money, and you will spend it how you chose. if you want a dance with another girl, so be it. i personally would be a little sour for lost funding but i'd get over in about 10 seconds - i would NEVER bring it up to a customer or girl to "back off". if a girl gets mad about THAT, *spending on others* i'd say immediately stop spending on her because she's a selfish bitch

    some customers might buy you stuff, some wont. i dont think it's ever expected or mandatory. presents are great if you decide you'd like to give them- ive personally never had a customer buy me something. i would definately appreciate it though and be pleased with his gesture. if i had to chose, though, i personally would be happier with the cash.

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    can someone please explain what PL is? ive seen it on a few posts and I don't know what it means.

    sorry i can't help u on the regular thing, ive never had a regular.

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    Once a gal considers you her regular she can become very possessive - just play along and enjoy. I have had them even call me to see when I am coming into the club "its your GF calling." I try to tell her how wonderful it is to enjoy her company and tip her well. She will also be trying to sell you "your a lot better off doing your dances with just one girl." When she is not at the club she will have a friend keep you company as her "substitute."

    This can have its advantages - one new years eve all I had to do was call the club and my fav gal was there and then met me to be my date for one of the most enjoyable new years bashes I have had in years. Wow - what a super way to party it was.
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    First let me say that there are different types of regulars.

    1) There are Club Regulars. These are customers who visit a club on a regular basis. The manager, waitress, bartender, door girl, etc. may recognize you. Club regulars don't necessarily see any particular dancer but rather enjoy what the club has to offer. If a dancer were to leave, it prolly wouldn't matter much and the club regular would just find someone else.

    2) Then there are regulars of Dancers. These are guys who go to see a particular dancer and spend most or all of the money they spend within the club on a particular entertainer. If she were to leave to go to another club, a dancer's regular would likely follow her having no real ties or affinity to the club beyond the fact that she happens to work there.

    Obviously there can be some grey area between these two types as a Dancer's regular can certainly be known and recognized by other members of the club staff, but you get the general point.

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    Now just becuase someone is recognized as a "regular" doesn't mean that they are always treated the same as other regulars. In fact there are three types...

    A) The regular who is liked and appreciated and starts to get perks from either the club or the dancer.

    B) The regular who becomes a recognized face in the crowd, but really isn't treated any different than just the common guy off the street

    C) Lastly, there are those regulars who are actually treats worse than the average customer off the street. The club or the dancers get to know him because he's shown up enough times, but he gets no special treatment and in actually people just try to avoid him. The club only lets him in because he pays the cover and will buys some drinks, but he's prolly only a step away from getting tossed or banned.

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    My final point on "regulars" is that frequency can vary as well. All that it takes to be considered a regular is to show up enough times to be recognized. For some that can mean daily, others weekly and for some even less often. You could show up once a quarter but still be considered a valuable regular to a dancer.

    Anyway, hope that helps to clarify somethings. Btw - just showing up to see a dancer 3 shifts in a row IMO doesn't make you a dancer's "regular" yet, but it does put you on your way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Silverback View Post
    I think you have to marry her.

    Or, at least ask. Right now.

    How should I word it?


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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    That one's easy...100%...and like the rest, I'm guilty as charged.
    Agreed.


    Quote Originally Posted by Cally View Post
    Umm I refuse to comment on the PL

    Don't worry, I already know (and it doesn't bother me in the least) that I'm a guy who's not going to have unbelievably hot, naked 20-year-olds draping themselves over me based solely on my, uh, merits, minus the $$$ (whether in a club or elsewhere).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post
    This being the forum where customers ask questions, I'll only do just that.

    1. I've been to see the same girl 3 days in a row (that she's worked). Privates each time. The 3rd day, much more just sitting around having conversation than usual. My previous practice (for my entire life) has been to NEVER see the same girl more than once or twice in a row... probably specifically to avoid being a regular. Am I one now?
    Only YOU can prevent forest fires.
    2. Is the ONLY right answer to the following set of questions, "depends on the girl"?
    Yes. But it's read like this "Depends on the girl in direct proportion to how she reacts to YOU" Thusly "YMMV" was created. Class dismissed.
    3. Is the only answer to any of these questions, for almost any girl, "keep the money coming and you'll be fine."
    Yes. But give some to the bartender once in a while too... and tip the DJ for her.
    4. What percentage of regulars also qualify as PL's?
    99% I'm in denial.
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    ^ You're not in denial; it's a temporal condition--it just afflicts some longer than others.

    We're all PLs sometimes; it's a recreational hazard.
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    Everyman, as long as you dont make her feel like she owns you, she wont treat you that way. A good way to keep this from happening is to not be too agressive with her. Look .. maybe after a while she might hang out with you OTC, for now, I wouldnt even mention it. I also wouldnt mentions phone numbers yet either.
    This is just how it is for me. If one of my regs is infatuated (cant spell) with me, or completly in love, I kinda feel like I own him. I have LOTS of other regs who come in, buy what they want, tell me NO when I try to persuade more, and then go home. I have much more repect for these cutys and I usually enjoy sitting with them more. If it is more of a "friend" atmosphere it is fun for me too. If I feel like you JUST want to do me ... well then I am on guard the whole time and it is no fun at all.
    Other girls may be different. THis is just how it is for me. Treat her more like a friend, buy her stuff if you want, spend as much as you want, but when it comes to sitting with other girls, spending on others, all that jealus stuff, tell her to get over it. Get rude if you have to. Handle that the same way you would as if one of your OTC friends tried to tell you who you could or couldnt hang out with. That wouldnt fly. So .. if you dont let her act like shes your obsessive wife, she probably wont act like that.
    You are in control over the relationship ... you come to see her ... you spend money on her .. you choose when you see each other .... all that stuff ... just dont let her think that you see the relationship as anymore then just friends. Even if she trys to portray that she sees it as more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    I wouldn't lose sleep over the semantics of exactly where "regularity" begins and ends.
    I can't stop giggling over this!!!! haha. No more drinks for me, thankyas!

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    yes, what is PL?

    Love it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    yes, what is PL?
    This link is useful for understanding abbreviations and expressions commonly used here

    http://www.stripperweb.com/wiki/Stripper_glossary

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    Hmm, the glossary link was down for me when I tried it. PL, as stated, is pathetic loser. Specifically, a customer who is very needy, very gullible and stays that way for a long time. He doesn't understand it's a business arrangement. A customer a girl could take to the cleaners if she had a mind to.

    I don't know its precise origin in the SC context, but the term certainly is used a lot as a putdown by the men to describe other male customers who don't meet a certain tribal standard of savvy strip clubbing. Sometimes jokingly so, and sometimes condescendingly. I don't see it being used nearly as often by dancers in this forum. I think we tend to describe specific customers or groups of guys as arsehole, jerk, clueless, lovestruck, stalker, whatever, rather than using the PL label. At least, so I tend to believe based on my limited observations.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    yes, what is PL?
    That guy you where hanging with last friday!
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    Evan, it works when I click on it. Maybe things are still acting up do to the code changeover. There are some excellent definitions over there. Ive posted a few of them myself

    As defined in the wiki:

    PL - "Pathetic loser." Used to refer to customers, sometimes an endearing term.

    I tend to see it in the terms you described but many custies use it as a casual term to describe any guy who hits the club and is into it. Including themselves.

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    "PL" is used more by men talking about other SC junkies than by the dancers. I think they use the term "suckers" too.

    I think we tend to describe specific customers or groups of guys as arsehole, jerk, clueless, lovestruck, stalker, whatever, rather than using the PL label.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Specifically, a customer who is very needy, very gullible and stays that way for a long time. He doesn't understand it's a business arrangement. A customer a girl could take to the cleaners if she had a mind to.
    This is more apt a description for an RIL, given the temporal association you're making.
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