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    I try and try to keep the conversation focused on the customer, but the guys always want to know about me. How old I am, where I live, how long I've been dancing, my real name, if I do anything else for a living, if I'm in school, what school I go to, if I have a boyfriend, etc. I have tried both tactics at handling this and so far they seem to have similar results. I don't tell them my real name, but I have answered some of those questions as vaguely as possible but they always want to know more. Some times I have gone in depth (not giving them information that they could use to find me or anything, but giving them a good idea of the type of person I am) and other times I have kept it flirty and ditzy, etc. Like I said, I have had similar luck with each, but it seems when I am more real, they always want dances and seem like they could become a regular (some have) but it takes much much longer to get the dances. The other way is much faster, but doesn't seem to work as much so it's like, when it DOES work it's more profitable, but since it doesn't work as often, I end up getting about the same amount of $ after talking to more guys. I was just wondering how most of you handled these situations. Do you ever tell them about your real life? Day job, school, family, etc? I hate the boyfriend questions because I don't want to lie and pretend he doesn't exist, but at the same time it helps the fantasty if they don't know or think I'm single. Sometimes I have fudged it a little and said that yes I'm seeing someone but it's not serious or I'm sort of involved or whatever I can say to make it seem like it's not really a big deal, because if I say I can't tell you that they always assume that I do have a boyfriend or husband and it's just as good as saying yes I do. I'm just not sure the best way to answer these questions...

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    I kinda do both, with a little bit of humor. Like:

    How long have you been doing this?
    Oh, ten years. How long have you been looking at naked girls?

    But the best thing is to learn something about them and then relate it to yourself. Like, oh you like model airplanes? Wow you must have so much patience to work with such small parts. I tried that once and it took me forever, but it was kind of fun, like I got into a zone, ya know?

    There's a balance too. If it's a young guy with thirty bucks in his pocket be flirty and superficial and get the dance. But if it's an older guy with eight hundred in his pocket be a little more real so you can keep him longer.



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    I use humour as well... and I feign ignorance... but it works for me. I kinda play on Brisbane's xenophibic ways.

    "Oh, I live on the south side of Brisbane... where? Somewhere in the south. I don't know what suburb.. I'm American, remember?! Teehee."

    How old are you? "Somewhere between five and forty-five!"

    Do you have a boyfriend, "Depends, what day is today?"


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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan View Post
    I use humour as well... and I feign ignorance... but it works for me. I kinda play on Brisbane's xenophibic ways.

    "Oh, I live on the south side of Brisbane... where? Somewhere in the south. I don't know what suburb.. I'm American, remember?! Teehee."

    How old are you? "Somewhere between five and forty-five!"

    Do you have a boyfriend, "Depends, what day is today?"
    awe, i like those!

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    i can't stand all the questions that they ask esp the how long have u been doing this, do u do anything else etc etc.
    i never lie about the boyfriend question for 2 reasons:
    (1) i would feel bad saying i dont have a boyfriend coz i love him heaps so i just wouldn't feel right pretending he didn't exist
    (2) if i was to say i didn't have a boyfriend it gives the customer the chance to start trying to ask me out and then i would have to start the whole i don't date customers thing so i just find it better to be honest about this.

    i found that when i told them i was studying law it seems to either put them off or the conversation would turn too intellectual so now i judge it and if they seem like they will be ok i will tell them im a student, if not and they ask what else i do i just say i sleep in late every day, get my nails done, go to the gym etc.

    i hate the how long have u been doing this question coz ive only been doing it a couple of months and i worry that if i admit this they will assume that the dance won't be very good coz i am still quite new.

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    i hate the how long have u been doing this question coz ive only been doing it a couple of months and i worry that if i admit this they will assume that the dance won't be very good coz i am still quite new.
    I dont know..I told guys I was brand new for a good 6 months after I started dancing. They loved it.


    But as for the personal questions, just answer, then turn it around so the conversation is back on themselves, and keep the focus on closing the sale. I have definatly found that the more personal you become, the harder it is to sell the dance.
    SO when they ask you how old you are, tell them that you are are horny 21 year old(or howveer old you are) and you really need to take out some of that pent up sexual energy on someone, could you please give them a dance right now?

    As for the whoel boyfriend thing, my answer depends on the guy. If I get a hapily married man who is just there for some dances and a good time, I tell the truth. If its a older gentleman, I tell the truth. Most of those tyoes of guys dont care if your single or not, they will spend money on you anyway, base don your perosnality and company, they dont try to ask you out. they respect that yoru at work.

    the guys who ask if you have a boyfriend because their next question is can I tak eyou out, will you meet me later, ect. usually dont spend a ton of money anyway. Mabye a few lap dances, but, they might not want to buy the dances if you say you have a boyfriend becuase you just ruined their shot at potentially asking you out. SO if they ask, I say, no boyfriend, and when they ask me out, I just say your very sweet for asking, but I can't date people i meet at work.

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    I change my answers depending on what type of guy I'm speaking to and how much money they've shown. A young guy I will always say I have a boyfriend because they all wanna ask me out. And older guy I'll say no because it seems to make them happier and spend more without all the "so theres no chance I could get your number?"... kinda stuff.

    You just have to test your waters - but yeah, customers are very curious. We are like mini celebrities or something to them...everyones gotta get their interview. Bleh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post

    You just have to test your waters - but yeah, customers are very curious. We are like mini celebrities or something to them...everyones gotta get their interview. Bleh.
    pooka i love this makes me feel special

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    Just like Pooka, I change little details depending on the guys I am talking to. I keep everything generally the same, so I don't trip myself up. Guys want to talk about some of the weirdest shit, so I humor them for a while. Half the time I feel like a therapist, maybe it's because I attract the weirdos and the old guys. It's like I have a sign on my back that tells creeps to come talk to me about the fact that their wife is a bitch, etc.

    Oh, and I have a fake real name. No matter who they are, they aren't getting my real name. Last thing I need is a weird guy to come up to me in the mall saying my real name while I'm with family or friends. Ick.

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    "what's your real name?"

    depending on the day, i'll either tell them that my stage name IS my real name (it's actually my middle name. and it's a common Russian female name, so it fits me, and it's not like i'm trying to tell them "really, my name IS Diamond Starlight!")

    Or I make up some silly answer about me being an international spy and therefore my name is top secret.

    "do you have a boyfriend?"

    i usually tell them yes..."but we're swingers, so i get to have lots of sex!" (not true, but usually works).

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    My best advice is make up (just one) totally fake Idenity. And remember that. I have a fake "real name" fake "real place I live in" fake "real city I came from" fake "nationality" etc. I say the same lie everytime so I don't forget it, and it rolls off my tounge. Pick a place that you know your way around but isn't by your house and say you live there. Same as the city you're from and you're real name. I do this because I had a friend who told a regular JUST her first real name, that she was from Milwaukee and her birthday... I mean, like overtime she told him these things, and he was able to find out her last name and her address... so I'm very protective of my identity. OBVIOUSLY same goes for what kind of car you drive. Just lie, it's way less annoying than saying " I dont give out that kind of information" and then having some fuck bother you about it all night long lol....

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    When they ask me if I have a boyfriend (which I don't btw) I'll tell them in a joking manner "Oh, I have tons of boyfriends, just not one that I'm real serious with" that way, they think lots of guys are chasing after me, but I'm still waiting for the "right one" to come along, because they'll always ask me "why don't you have a serious one" and I'll say "because I'm waiting for the right one to sweep me off my feet". As far as jobs go, I have a fake real job. I'm really a dental hygienist but I'll tell them and I'll whisper and say "now, don't tell anyone, because nobody else knows, I'm a nurse, a naughty nurse" They love it, they love thinking that I'm only telling them that I'm a nurse and they love the fantasy of me being a nurse that's naughty.

    I do though, try to be brief and bring the conversation back on them, I'll say "I want to know about you, tell me what you like, blah, blah" (yeah, like I really f-ing care!!!)

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    As mentioned above, I change my answers depending on the guy. I have a fake "real" name. So when I go up to a guy and he starts asking me all sorts of questions, this is usually one of the first ones. I almost always say "I barely know you, and you already want me to trust you with my real name? I didn't even get to dance for you yet!" And they almost always get a dance. Something along the lines of, "Let me get to know you a little better first" wink-wink, let me dance for you. I tell them my real age. I tell them I am from a small town about a half hour from the town I am actually from.
    And the boyfriend question: It depends on the guy. Mostly older, married guys I'll just tell them yes. Mostly younger guys I tell them no. But when I tell a guy no, I always say that we broke up recently, that we have been on and off for the past year, and right now, we're off. That way if a guy comes in that you told you didn't have a boyfriend starts talking to you, and your BF somehow is mentioned, you can easily say "Yeah, we got back together 'cause I can't live without the sex!" Instead of "Whoops, I told you I DIDN'T have a boyfriend? Sorry "
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    more mystery the better...
    If they ask how old I am- ill say GUESS.

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    I have a fake real name, location for work purposes that I only share with my best customers. It would always crack me up when we'd sit there talking and they'd say, "oh ________ ..." and then I'd look at them wide eyed and put my finger to my lips and say shhhh no one can know remember. Men just LOVE to think they are the only ones who know my deep dark secret.







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    Do you guys distinguish between questions that seemed geared to OTC stuff -- real name, where you live, etc. -- and questions that go to your interests, like what kinds of exercise you do, other jobs or hobbies, favorite vacations, etc?

    As a customer I have zero interest in OTC relationships, but quite enjoy the conversations I have in the club with dancers who frequently are quite interesting women. For me at least, that is a lot of the attraction.

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    I pretty much feel like the customer is just making genuine conversation. But when it seems like he's more interested in my personal life (what specific courses I'm taking, exactly what street I live on) than just good light hearted conversation then I tend to stop all contact with them.







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    I talk about how great I am... I say how wonderful and well dressed they are. I keep the conversation focused on them.



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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    I pretty much feel like the customer is just making genuine conversation. But when it seems like he's more interested in my personal life (what specific courses I'm taking, exactly what street I live on) than just good light hearted conversation then I tend to stop all contact with them.
    So are you saying that you will tell them the not-so-specifics about your personal life, ie around what town you live in, that you go to school, etc?
    Was DestyDoll, just changed to keep up with my new dance name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Piper_Eve View Post
    So are you saying that you will tell them the not-so-specifics about your personal life, ie around what town you live in, that you go to school, etc?
    Yes. I live in a pretty large city, and my university is huge as well. It would be pretty hard for them to find me







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    Yeah. I hate that shit too. But now I try to have fun with it. Like let them play 50 questions and when they think they know all your shit tell them"well- I am a stripper and most strippers lie." Then they get this duh look on their face realizing we just had a bs conversation. I don't think they have any business prying into my personal life!!! If all clubs were just come in sit down shut the f*ck up and pick a girl for a lapdance it would be the way it should be. But somehow it got screwed up into this talking bs. They should be PAYING to talk to us. Noplace else would a hot chick give these scrubs the time of day.
    Anyway if the guy is a real douche then I just sweetly say I charge a dollar a question.

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    Don't say too much unless he hands you over $500 then you are an actress.



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    Usually when I tell someone I don't have a bf they ask why in a manner like "what's wrong with you?". My aunt followed up my no with, "you do like boys, don't you?" Of course with her, my guess would be that if I was joking & said no, she'd try to set me up with some chick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mare View Post
    Yeah. I hate that shit too. But now I try to have fun with it. Like let them play 50 questions and when they think they know all your shit tell them"well- I am a stripper and most strippers lie." Then they get this duh look on their face realizing we just had a bs conversation. I don't think they have any business prying into my personal life!!! If all clubs were just come in sit down shut the f*ck up and pick a girl for a lapdance it would be the way it should be. But somehow it got screwed up into this talking bs. They should be PAYING to talk to us. Noplace else would a hot chick give these scrubs the time of day.
    Anyway if the guy is a real douche then I just sweetly say I charge a dollar a question.
    what a good idea! a dollar a question! i should try that. how many guys actually do that? lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    " I dont give out that kind of information" and then having some fuck bother you about it all night long lol....
    LOL!LOL! good advice!

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