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    (alternately titled, "Shut your effing trap already")

    Just a little rant about a mistake I made last night. Figure there's no better place to put it than here, right?

    I'm doing my rounds at the club, and get a guy to agree to a dance. The one dance turned into two, with him telling me how beautiful I am and how I'm his dream girl the whole time. I suggested taking it private, but he said, "Well, why don't we have a quick drink first and you can tell me how VIP works?" I give him the prices, then we do the small talk thing while waiting for our drinks and I ask, "So, what do you do in your free time?...besides visit strip clubs, obviously!" *giggle*

    He replies, "I don't have much free time, I work a lot. I'm a computer engineer." (My thought: JACKPOT) He continues, "I'm here for a conference for work." (My thought: Double JACKPOT)

    Then he turns the question around on me and asks what I do. I tell him I'm a student and keep trying to switch the topic of conversation back to HIM, but he keeps on asking questions about school. I figure that maybe he doesn't believe that I'm actually in school so I figure that I'll humor him and give him a little it of info about my graduate degree. Well, he gets really interested and before I know it I'm just talking and talking about school and my graduate program.

    See, when I get excited about something that I'm talking about I turn into a little chatterbox. I was going on and on until I realized that he was looking at me strangely, which made me realize that I was totally bogarting the conversation. So I put on a (what I think is) a cute little face and say, "Oh, I'm sorry, I'm talking too much aren't I?!" To which he replies, "It's not that, it's just that you're really smart." (my thought: DANGER DANGER)

    I say, "Well, thank you! It's just that I really love what I do...both at school and here at the club! So why don't you let me do the other thing I really love and dance for you some more?" (my thought: What a brilliant response! I'm awesome!)

    He replies, "No...now that I see how smart you are I just don't think I can see you naked again." So I thanked him and [not so] gracefully made my exit.

    GAH. I'm so mad at myself! I KNOW not to sit and talk forever. I KNOW that should only wait for maybe a song or so before bringing up VIP again to see if he's serious. I KNOW not to bogart a conversation. I KNOW that all conversation should really be about HIM anyway. And I broke all of my own rules. And probably screwed up an almost sure-fire VIP (or at least a whole slew of dances) because I couldn't shut my stupid mouth.

    Has anyone else had this problem of diarrhea of the mouth when talking to custies?

    Sorry, SW, I let you down this time....

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    I am constantly doing this! Every night, I give myself a pep talk, promising that I will remember that the custies are there to pay me, not give me intillectual stimulation. On the other hand, there are those guys every now and then who LOVE talking to smart, beautiful women, and will pay big bucks for it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ntbubbles View Post
    He replies, "No...now that I see how smart you are I just don't think I can see you naked again."
    The guy is a goofball moron. Honestly, what's with THAT comment? I have an engagement ring I carry around in my jacket on the off chance I meet a dancer with a PhD.

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    Just make up what you do in real life, so it's fake, controlable excitement.

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    guys are so strange. some guys want the stupid bubbly girl while i have an ex who exlames "i want a woman with a PHD! I want one smarter than I am." lol

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    pffft. that's the guy's problem if he doesn't like smart women. there are many men out there (as customers) who are just dying for intelligent conversation.

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    well yeah, you know it's rarely productive to talk too much or let them know you're intelligent.

    BUT, in this case it sounds like he just wanted an excuse to weasel out of doing VIP and spending more money. What's with the "why don't we have a drink and talk some more first" bullshit line? Cheap ass.

    But sadly, most guys in the SC love a ditz. Makes them feel all safe and superior. A hot girl with intelligence is just too scary for their little egos.

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    DON'T TALK ABOUT SCHOOL!! You will get stuck talking about it, always. My money and hustle has improved tremendously since I stopped yapping about how smart I am. They will almost always use that as an excuse not to pay you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chicagoeditor View Post
    The guy is a goofball moron. Honestly, what's with THAT comment? I have an engagement ring I carry around in my jacket on the off chance I meet a dancer with a PhD.
    Will you take a JD/MBA?
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    Men are so stupid, "I just realized you have a brain so I can't see you as a sexual object."

    Brainy chicks need love, too.


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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan View Post
    Men are so stupid, "I just realized you have a brain so I can't see you as a sexual object."

    Brainy chicks need love, too.
    Brainy chicks report more frequent and multiple orgasms. If anything, guys should be falling all over themselves when I put on my smart hat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rozz View Post
    Brainy chicks report more frequent and multiple orgasms. If anything, guys should be falling all over themselves when I put on my smart hat.
    LINK!!!

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    Women with graduate degrees are more likely to reach orgasm than their less educated counterparts, a new Australian study suggests.

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    "The association between orgasm and demographic characteristics suggest a social-effect, with better-educated, non-immigrant women more likely to have orgasms," the researchers wrote in their report.

    Researchers said factors such as becoming sexually active before the age of 16, the number of past sexual partners and looking at porn had little association with a woman's ability to have an orgasm.

    However, the study said women were more likely to reach orgasm if they used sex toys, or had sex more than twice a week in the month before they were surveyed.

    "Use of sex toys and orgasm in women may indicate a link between orgasm and sexual interest or adventurousness."
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    ...I'm going back to school.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    BUT, in this case it sounds like he just wanted an excuse to weasel out of doing VIP and spending more money. What's with the "why don't we have a drink and talk some more first" bullshit line?
    Agreed...he didn't really want to go VIP to begin with but was allowing you to maybe sell him on it. In other words, tell him there might actually be some "sex in the champagne room..."

    It's not so much what you said, as what you didn't.

    I mean, I don't think going to college or grad school itself means someone is all "that smart," anyways. It depends more upon what school and what discipline it is. If it's a hard math/science degree at a decent school - sure. But if it's some lame liberal arts/humanities degree with no wrong answers - pffbt, woopity.

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    I agree he probably wanted an "out" for the VIP room... probably. But yea, I've gone on about school a wee bit before... but I usually just end up annoyed at myself for divulging too much personal info.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    I actually found that when I danced most men were quite turned on by my intelligence, so in return most of my regs were smarties with money Me likey,lol. I think the whole college coeds gone wild image gets them going.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    well yeah, you know it's rarely productive to talk too much or let them know you're intelligent.

    BUT, in this case it sounds like he just wanted an excuse to weasel out of doing VIP and spending more money. What's with the "why don't we have a drink and talk some more first" bullshit line? Cheap ass.

    But sadly, most guys in the SC love a ditz. Makes them feel all safe and superior. A hot girl with intelligence is just too scary for their little egos.
    That's exactly what I was gonna say.....honestly, I don't think he wanted to go to the VIP area or else he would've agreed to go right after the two dances. It is really rare when a guy who actually wants to go to VIP asks for some "time to chill" before they go. To me, that sounded like a big excuse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    BUT, in this case it sounds like he just wanted an excuse to weasel out of doing VIP and spending more money. What's with the "why don't we have a drink and talk some more first" bullshit line? Cheap ass.
    Hmmm, I actually hadn't thought of that. Perhaps my "sure-fire" VIP wasn't as sure-fire as I thought. That makes me feel a little better.


    Quote Originally Posted by Chicagoeditor View Post
    The guy is a goofball moron. Honestly, what's with THAT comment? I have an engagement ring I carry around in my jacket on the off chance I meet a dancer with a PhD.
    Heehee, I'll let you know when I finally finish mine!

    Quote Originally Posted by francescadubois View Post
    DON'T TALK ABOUT SCHOOL!! You will get stuck talking about it, always. My money and hustle has improved tremendously since I stopped yapping about how smart I am. They will almost always use that as an excuse not to pay you.
    That's good advice, but (for me) easier said than done...sometimes there seems to be no filter between my mouth and my brain. Although I might take the suggestion above and just make up some sort of life story...although, what? And what do you say if they ask for more details? Just make stuff up? I don't know if I could keep things straight.

    This job is much harder than people give us credit for!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ntbubbles View Post




    This job is much harder than people give us credit for!


    Absolutely! this is a lot harder than it looks. It always pisses me off when guys ask me the stupid question: "So why do you work here...is it because of the easy cash?"

    and I'm like....dude....do you think it is easy to deal with stupid un happy married/divorced guys all the time???????

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    BUT, in this case it sounds like he just wanted an excuse to weasel out of doing VIP and spending more money. What's with the "why don't we have a drink and talk some more first" bullshit line? Cheap ass.

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    That is what I was thinking. He was looking for an excuse to get away from you, probably b/c he was already broke/about to come in his pants. Or else he wanted to hear that you were going to f* him in the VIP. You might have turned him around during that one song, but then again, maybe not. Don't worry about it. If he really was a business traveler, you will never see him again anyway.


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