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    So heres the story ive been living with my mom and they've had a bad year(her and her boyfriend)so ive been helping them out and hes supposed to pay me back when he gets paid ........well I just found out that hes not going to pay me back because since im living here he deserves it wtf???!!!and im really pissed because thats like a thousand dollars and I work hard for every fucking dollar I earn soo im soo fucking mad and thats money I could've used and thats for this month and for me living here?!!fuck that ive been helping out buying groceries and things for the house, taking them out to eat,etc..I really dont know what to do I feel sooo pissed like going crazy and just beating the shit out of him but at the same time im lost..........

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    I'd threaten his bitch ass that I'm taking him to Judge Judy. Who told you this info anyway? Your mom? Why isn't she backing you up??







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    That;s so wrong.

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    My little sis told me because she asked my mom and she's not backing me up because my sis says if she does he wont give her money for a long time pfft like I give a fuck

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    Girl....you better threaten his ass w/ Judge Judy like I said. Even if you dont mean it scare him with thinking you really are serious about your money and that you are taking him to small claims court. I'd do it!







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    Well... that's pretty trashy! You could threaten to sue him... Or you could threaten to move out and cut off the money supply.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    Girl....you better threaten his ass w/ Judge Judy like I said. Even if you dont mean it scare him with thinking you really are serious about your money and that you are taking him to small claims court. I'd do it!
    Thats the first thing that popped in my mind but since im 18 im lost and soo pissed because I wonder where will I go?I dont know how to drive and with that money I was going to take a driving school I also have a little girl to think about ,so im thinking about being secretive with it idk....

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    Does he have a car? Slash out his tires.

    or

    be nice and let all the air out. The key point WASTE HIS TIME.

    Mama always told me "Money is time" and you could make it up that way.

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    I wouldn't get all vindictive - like it or not that's the man your mom chose to be with. So your mom depends on him for money? And he lords it over her based on good behavior? Sounds a little sick. But that's besides the point. That's her shit.

    You have a little girl to think about. If you have any money saved, I would move. If you are 18, I don't think you really need drivers ed to get a license, although it would help you learn to drive- and being in TX it's almost necessary to have a car. I know it sounds scary, but you can make it on your own. I arrived in Corpus Christi on a bus at 20 years old with very little driving experience but somehow managed to have my own car within a couple of months. I basically taught myself how to drive even though I did have a car briefly when I was 17.

    The point is you don't have to be in a hostile living environment if you don't want to be. It takes a little time and guts and motivation, but you can do it if you really work at it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by avacheetahs View Post
    I wouldn't get all vindictive - like it or not that's the man your mom chose to be with. So your mom depends on him for money? And he lords it over her based on good behavior? Sounds a little sick. But that's besides the point. That's her shit.

    You have a little girl to think about. If you have any money saved, I would move. If you are 18, I don't think you really need drivers ed to get a license, although it would help you learn to drive- and being in TX it's almost necessary to have a car. I know it sounds scary, but you can make it on your own. I arrived in Corpus Christi on a bus at 20 years old with very little driving experience but somehow managed to have my own car within a couple of months. I basically taught myself how to drive even though I did have a car briefly when I was 17.

    The point is you don't have to be in a hostile living environment if you don't want to be. It takes a little time and guts and motivation, but you can do it if you really work at it.
    I do plan getting all vindictive because hes messing with me and thinks he can do as he pleases and well I do plan on getting out ive been wanting to and I need to take drivers ed because ive tried and god I suck!

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    I went through a similar experience a few years ago with someone who gives exceptional meaning to the word "loser." We entered into a contract agreement for a certain necessity(I didn't have much choice in the matter at that time), and he was supposed to pay at least half(he'd urged me to go for a more expensive contract item, so in return he agreed to pay the remainder over what I could reasonably afford). He didn't pay a dime! And I had to dip into my college gift money from my mom, to pay this so I wouldn't have bad credit. SO angering. Oh, and after I paid it back, he promised that he was going to pay me back but like your stepdad, he didn't do shit. He even made up a lie about having CANCER to get out of paying(and to also guilt-trip into me staying friends with him. he was mad that I cut off our friendship over that matter and a few other things).

    So yeah, I felt really screwed and cheated. The money that I had to shell out from my college gift money, royally screwed me up financially and actually led to me having to drop out of college (temporarily) because I couldn't afford the tuition bill. I wanted so badly to sue, but I didn't have money for car insurance + gas + food, let alone the court fees to sue(about $100; varies by state). Eventually though, I sued his ass and got paid back...put that money into the down payment for the new car I bought last year. By the time that I sued him, three years had passed, I was making money as a dancing, and the money I obtained didn't seem nearly as big as it would have a few years ago when I needed it a lot more. But the main reason that I sued him was over the principle of it.

    So my advice to you? 1.) Have a talk with your mom and stepdad about setting up a schedule on when they will pay you back. See what they say and try to gage if you believe them or not. Do NOT mention that your sister told you that they weren't paying.
    2.) If they either don't pay, or they ask you to pay for more expensive things without making effort to pay you back even a small installment of what you've given them, then move out. Promptly. If you're a dancer, you should be making enough money to afford your own place. You spent $1000 in a month on them? That sounds more expensive than if you lived by yourself.

    Sometimes it is hard to secure an apartment right away, so during the time that you are looking for an apartment, immediately cease paying ANYTHING for them. It sounds like they are taking you for a ride. It sucks...I know, because I've been there MANY times in the past because I was simply too unassertive to say "stop" or "no." Now if you stop paying for things and they're aware that you're moving out, beware--They MIGHT kick you out as a way to spite you(my parents operated like that a few times before). So before you advise them that you're moving out or stop paying for things, arrange a back-up plan, such as a friend that could let you stay with them. Cause the LAST thing you want, is to be stuck waiting for apartments and end up homeless after spending all that money on board/bills.

    3.) Hopefully your moving out will teach your parents a lesson. If they are pissed at you and stay pissed at you for a while, then there is no need to feel bad for them...therefore, try to take the case to small claims court! You can defend yourself(no lawyer necessary), but you can only claim up to a max of $5000. Make sure you have plenty of documentation, receipts, etc though. Make sure it is a solid case with plenty of evidence!!!!!!!! The court will put a judgment after your parents, and they will be more likely to pay up because if they don't, then they could eventually lose their house or other collateral.

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    OK I just read more of the posts on this thread and have concluded that your stepfather is a controlling ass. He sounds similar to that kid I wrote about(the one who ripped me off and later got sued by me). He also sounds similar to my friend Mike Nobody's family situation.

    Mike Nobody is older than you actually(20), no kids, and lives with his mom and stepdad. They make him clean the house like he's Cinderella or something. Did I also mention that they're slobs? They've also stolen money from him before to fund their marijuana smoking habit. Now after all this, plus the fact that he's a legal adult, they also have the nerve to be controlling by telling him what to do and they forbid him to hang out with any of his friends(and we are NOT bad influences! so WTF?). Mike has been trying to move out for quite some time, but it's hard for him to get a job that makes decent money(I would suggest blue collar labor such as construction, but he's kinda skinny and dweeby). Plus, he has no credit so that makes it difficult to get a place of his own. Last summer, his parents decided to move from PA to Vegas. The last thing Mike wanted was to be away from his friends, but he ended up going along with them because he had no way to move out and because he passively lets his parents(amongst others) step on him.

    So yeah, ultimately I think you should move out! Forget even staying there and keep paying if they agree to pay you back! Be firm, set your foot on the ground, and tell them how it is! You are an adult now, plus you have a child of your own...so your mom and stepdad should NOT be treating YOU like a child. You make your own good money dancing. You are responsible. Aren't they a little embarrassed to be sponging off their DAUGHTER? Do they have any dignity? Sorry to sound so brash, but your situation sounds so similar to my past experience and Mike Nobody's, and both of those situations are things that I get very fired up about. You should have the talk with them(don't mention your sister's involvement). Tell them that you need the money, expect to be paid back soon, and that you cannot continue to do this with no real effort put forward to pay you back, so you will be moving out soon. If they object, tell them that they will either pay you back, or you will be taking them to court for it. Be firm! Don't let that stepdad belittle you or treat you like a weak little girl! But before you sit them down and tell them this, make sure you have a back-up plan...just in the event that perhaps your stepdad gets pissed off and kicks you out.

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    You should also point out that HE needed YOUR help and if he wants to bite the hand that feeds him, he'd better not plan on crawling back for help any time soon.
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    Thanks guys for all your responses.I plan to get out soon im going to start working my ass off to save up money for my place and a car and not to mention the damn driving school If they ask me for money or something ill tell them I dont have it to spend or no My mom has no right to be taking advantage of me after she didn't even raise me this is the first time I lived with her ever it'll be 4 months her boyfriend has only been with my mom for a 1 and a half and I WILL get my money back ... thanks guys for all the reponses

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    Ok Miss Queen. Let's do this right.

    I've lightly read but I perceive the following:

    #1: You helped your mom and her bf in the amount of ~~$1000.00

    #2: You live in their house rent free.

    #3: You found out from your sister that they may not be paying you back claiming rent as a reason.

    Let StripperCourt Commence. Please, Be seated.

    ok

    You need to address this like an adult, as it appears no one else in that house is acting like one. Time for you to lead by example.

    Sit your mom and her boyfriend down. And just ASK them "What are your guys' plans to pay me back because I was just wondering". Things will get hairy if they intended to screw you. If not they'll just answer.

    I bet they'll probably come clean with you and tell you their thoughts. I mean you did approach them and put them on the defensive, ether way, save up. But going on your little sister's word isn't enough to get pissed, but it is enough to go to them directly and address them like adults. If it fails:


    So if things get hairy... here's what you need to have prepared:

    1) If they use rent as collateral, you should have a lease agreement (I can email you one) in hand and say "It is a LOAN until you have me sign this." If they have you sign the lease make sure it's indicated month to month, and that whatever they declare as "Rent" also includes a deposit that you get back when you leave. NOW YOU can complain about landlord/tenant rights like unfit living environments.

    Hey if you're going to be with them and paying a rent, you might as well document it and protect yourself. And make sure you've got control of what goes on.

    2) A list of rules regarding your things and space.

    3) The amount of money owe'd why owe'd and how it will be paid back (either via rent, or via cash)

    Upon discussing this with them, if they refuse to sign the lease, then tell them you will take them to civil court.

    I really doubt it would get bad. But communication here is key. You loaned the money out on a verbal contract. If they aren't going to pay you back based on the original agreement, you need to enforce that they make sure it doesn't change again via their leisure.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    ^^^^ Smart..I like that.







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    I have to agree with cinnamonkisses that is smart ...............Mast I think I like you and yeah ill send you my email through a pm

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