OK I am a very nice person...sometimes a little too nice. But I'm trying to work on that. I sometimes feel that people push me around or talk down to me in a very accusatory, condescending way...in ways worse than they talk to their "enemies." I am trying to work on this and figure out why people disrespect me so much. It always seems like I run across a lot of "assholes" who mouth off at me for like no reason at all. This kinda stuff happens to everyone here and there, sure, but not 1/5 as much as it happens to me! Why? Is there something about me that gets misconstued or misperceived about the way I carry myself? WTF?
It happened again last night. WTF? Me and my friend Bob were in center city, attending a friend's birthday party, then around 12:30 we all left the party so me and Bob decided to get a few drinks at one of the local bars. I advised him that I was hungry and didn't want to drink on a somewhat empty stomach, so Bob inquired at the bars about if they were still serving food or not. We went to this one bar that Bob had been to a few times. Keep in mind that Bob is in his early thirties, has a prestigious job, and has huge involvement with political figures...basically he is a respectable person. He asks the very tall female bartender if they have food, and she says that the kitchen is mostly closed but she could put something together. I said in an easygoing voice that I wanted mozzarella sticks or fries or just basic fried bar food. Didn't matter specifically what. She said she had chicken salad or something else, but she could accomodate us. I said ok and said yeah if they had some basic fried bar food that'd be cool. (she said she could accomodate us?) I was NOT requesting filet mignon or something. She was very vague and kept kinda saying the same thing, that she could accomodate us or something I couldn't hear completely because of the loud bar noise. I said ok that'd work, you know, just something fried or full of carbs(basically stuff that would coat my stomach so I wouldn't get sick if I had a few drinks...my stomach is very sensitive to even a small amount of alcohol...but I didn't tell her that part). I was easygoing...if anything, a little too spineless or indecisive but she didn't specify options.
All of a sudden, she perversely scolds, "OK JUST REPEATED YOURSELF LIKE 3 TIMES. IF YOU'RE GONNA HAVE AN ATTITUDE WITH ME..." and went on. I'm like WTF? Attitude? Here I am, sucking on a blueberry ring pop(from the birthday party), acting sweetly unsure, and didn't say anything in a mean voice. So WHY is she saying I had an attitude? She sauntered down to the other side of the L-shaped bar and me and Bob were like WTF? Bob was like "Screw it, let's go." But I had to ash my cig(that bar doesn't follow Philly's new no-smoking rule). I went up to an ashtray to ash my cig right by where the bartender was standing, and said somewhat assertively but nicely, "Hun, I wasn't trying to have an attitude. I think there was just some misinterpreteation." Then she ranted on and on about something, making it sound like I'd killed her pet cat for godsakes, and when I tried to say "But that's not how I said it or meant it" she scolded harshly, "And don't interrupt me when I'm talking!" That pissed me off that she was talking down to me like a small child, and I DID interrupt that time to tell her so. This got into an argument with her bitching and ranting and raving, and finally I loudly said, "Fine, be a bitch. We're leaving anyway..." but before I completely got the "We're leaving" part out, she said "Then just leave. Right now." So I sassed back, "You're not kicking us out, we're leaving anyway!"(similar to someone saying "I'm not fired, I quit!") But WTF did I do to warrant THAT? And WHY oh WHY did she cut me an attitude, but not Bob? I wonder if it's because I look young, and looked younger sucking on a ring pop. Why do people disrespect me like 5X more than the average person??
Oh oh oh! I just found out that this bartender bitch also bartended at SIGNATURES, the former strip club in center Philly! Bob says that she was kinda gossipy there. (so she's a catty stripper-related person...go figure!) So some of you SWers probably know the fucking dickhead that I'm talking about.



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I mean, why would anyone care about that? It's not unusual. She does have some high-spending VIP customers that she pimps girls out to though. 

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