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    Im having major issues here. My ex of almost 3 years decided to call it quits,aliitle over a year ago,because i wasnt working or *helping out*,so he says. so i moved out of the house and stayed with a brother of mine about a hour away. i met this guy who i started dating and i ended up pregnant the thing is i dont know who the father is,i dont know if its my first ex or the second one,but im thinking its the first exes,child.anyways me and the second guy got engaged and i was miserable thw whole time because i really wanted to be with my my first ex,but he didnt want me,he said i had a lot of things to prove and etc.i moved back in with my frist ex about 5 months ago because my brother kicked me out of his house* i wasnt getting along with his girlfriend* and now im 9 months along,about to pop. me and the second ex broke up about 4 months ago and i have no plans of ever getting back with him,its just i dont want to date or be with anyone if its not my first ex. the man still doent know what he wants,he makes up all these excuses like, i dont know if your who i want,i want to date someone else to see if it is you i want,blah blah freakin blah...i think one reason why he doesnt want to date me right now is because he wants to see who the dad is,which i guess you cant blame him. but we act like were dating 99% of the time,like i sleep in the same bed with him,we were having sex but stoped due to the fact he says he doesnt want to confuse me,me hug alot,etc. when ever someone ask is that your girlfriend/wife, he always says yes! wtf? we were engaged for almost a year before we broke up,how can you just loose felling over someone that fast? then about 2 months after we broke up he was trying to hook up with a coworker,who i use to always accuse him of wanting to date,guess i was right. theres also a big age difference,im 19 hes 36,but i do love him and i know he loves me,but at times i feel like hes just a pervert going after younger chicks,because he always looks at profiles of girls my age,so i dont know what yo think. he doesnt like the ideal of me wanting to be a dancer,he thinks ill end up on drugs,etc. if he doesnt want to date me after the babys born and we find out who the dad is thats when im moving on,i dont know if ill ever want to date again,but i know i cant go on living life wanting someone who doesnt even want me back. so what do yall think of all this?

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    sorry for the misspelling some thing i wrote this like super quick...

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    I had a long distance long term off and on love affair with guy1 shortly after we slept together though it came out that he had an even more serious relationship with someone else .....I ended things fast .

    Meanwhile there was this other guy ( guy2)who had been begging me for a date BUT being the loyal girl I was I always said NO , after my little heart was broken I had to call guy2 because my car broke down (long story )
    well we met and he was really kool so being on the re-bound I rushed things and we slept together a couple of times BUT then I saw what a complete loser he was so I ended things there too .

    ONE WEEK LATER , I found out I was pregnant .......so whos the daddy ?? GUY 1 or GUY 2 ????

    I felt like such a slut even though it was a pretty normal situation that I feel could happen to anyone ......I really thought it was guy2 and I even told him it was his .............he turned out to be an even bigger loser and ditched me . After my daughter was born it turned out she had a way different blood type than I did and it was semi-rare . I emailed guy1 and explained the situation and asked him his blood type , turns out his and my blood make her blood ........ BUT he is penalizing me because I was honest with him by telling him of the other guy SOOO in his tiny mind she is not his until he gets a DNA test .....or I should say HE doesn't want anything to do with her not even see a picture until I ME ME go and get a DNA test ...............well I haven't yet because I am still hurt by the him cheating on me and braking my heart ......I will someday but not today . If he was a good man/person he would want to know at least her name or what she looks like , wouldn't he ??? I dunno


    Anyways don;t feel bad and just do what ever is the best thing for you and your child

    PLUs they can get a DNA test while you are pregnant I think its called Amniocentesis

    Good luck xoxoxo
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    Okay first of all whether he may or may not be the father is not the question at the moment , it seems to me that you need to relize that how he stopped kissing you hugging you i.e. things "couples "do is because as he stated he "Does not " know if he wants to be with you that will not change just because your having his baby , as well why would you continue to let yourself go through all this , I don't want to sound harsh but take it from someone who understands baby's are not going to make a man stay if he loves you and wants to be with you then you will be a happy family . but if he isn't sure now when the baby is crying for the 10th time that night or having to stay in instead of boy's night out he will act out and it is not fully his fault he didn't want to have a child although you may to have participated he feels that he has no say most men read our mags and they freak so by almost forcing him into that he will run (i'm not saying at all that is what you are doing) but you should sit down take a breath you are pregnant your emotions are on overload you have a dilemia that can be solved it may be a hell of a ride but in the end you win you have given birth and right now nor later do you have time to deal with a man who has to "shop around" don't be his 99% of the time stand in girl till he finds mrs.right cause your mrs.right now think about the baby and please don't be those gals you see on talk show let him be a part of the childs life cause in the end you will be the hated , children are smart the learn as long as we teach.. Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by kenzi_20 View Post
    Im having major issues here. My ex of almost 3 years decided to call it quits,aliitle over a year ago,because i wasnt working or *helping out*,so he says. so i moved out of the house and stayed with a brother of mine about a hour away. i met this guy who i started dating and i ended up pregnant the thing is i dont know who the father is,i dont know if its my first ex or the second one,but im thinking its the first exes,child.anyways me and the second guy got engaged and i was miserable thw whole time because i really wanted to be with my my first ex,but he didnt want me,he said i had a lot of things to prove and etc.i moved back in with my frist ex about 5 months ago because my brother kicked me out of his house* i wasnt getting along with his girlfriend* and now im 9 months along,about to pop. me and the second ex broke up about 4 months ago and i have no plans of ever getting back with him,its just i dont want to date or be with anyone if its not my first ex. the man still doent know what he wants,he makes up all these excuses like, i dont know if your who i want,i want to date someone else to see if it is you i want,blah blah freakin blah...i think one reason why he doesnt want to date me right now is because he wants to see who the dad is,which i guess you cant blame him. but we act like were dating 99% of the time,like i sleep in the same bed with him,we were having sex but stoped due to the fact he says he doesnt want to confuse me,me hug alot,etc. when ever someone ask is that your girlfriend/wife, he always says yes! wtf? we were engaged for almost a year before we broke up,how can you just loose felling over someone that fast? then about 2 months after we broke up he was trying to hook up with a coworker,who i use to always accuse him of wanting to date,guess i was right. theres also a big age difference,im 19 hes 36,but i do love him and i know he loves me,but at times i feel like hes just a pervert going after younger chicks,because he always looks at profiles of girls my age,so i dont know what yo think. he doesnt like the ideal of me wanting to be a dancer,he thinks ill end up on drugs,etc. if he doesnt want to date me after the babys born and we find out who the dad is thats when im moving on,i dont know if ill ever want to date again,but i know i cant go on living life wanting someone who doesnt even want me back. so what do yall think of all this?
    OMG I don't think I read your post clearly !!! Sweetie I do not know this guy BUT take your baby and RUN and run fast and far . This guy is a asshole

    Could you imagine knocking up a child and then not being there for them ?!??!? Holy shit what a loser . He sounds like a sicko to me seriously . I can not believe that this grown ass man is not being more careful with a girl your age , I am so pissed right now if I knew this guy I would hurt him .........This is why I am not dating men anymore THEY ARE SICK SICK SICK


    Sorry for the RANT but damn he should be ashamed of the way he is treating you . I am so sorry and if there is anything I can do for you let me know !!!! wow
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    Quote Originally Posted by alice aliyson View Post
    Okay first of all whether he may or may not be the father is not the question at the moment , it seems to me that you need to relize that how he stopped kissing you hugging you i.e. things "couples "do is because as he stated he "Does not " know if he wants to be with you that will not change just because your having his baby , as well why would you continue to let yourself go through all this , I don't want to sound harsh but take it from someone who understands baby's are not going to make a man stay if he loves you and wants to be with you then you will be a happy family . but if he isn't sure now when the baby is crying for the 10th time that night or having to stay in instead of boy's night out he will act out and it is not fully his fault he didn't want to have a child although you may to have participated he feels that he has no say most men read our mags and they freak so by almost forcing him into that he will run (i'm not saying at all that is what you are doing) but you should sit down take a breath you are pregnant your emotions are on overload you have a dilemia that can be solved it may be a hell of a ride but in the end you win you have given birth and right now nor later do you have time to deal with a man who has to "shop around" don't be his 99% of the time stand in girl till he finds mrs.right cause your mrs.right now think about the baby and please don't be those gals you see on talk show let him be a part of the childs life cause in the end you will be the hated , children are smart the learn as long as we teach.. Good luck

    YES what she said ........I am too pissed to be that calm but thats pretty much what I meant xooxox
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    thank you guys, yes i am very hormonal,and confused,but hopefully things will turn out for the better

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