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    He's so sweet, but so lame!!!

    Okay, mini rant here and need advice;

    My hubby is a great guy, and I know he means well, but the dork cannot buy a gift to save his life!!
    Example....after our third gift giving holiday together I figured out that he is not one of those guys who knows what his girl wants, and instead will wait till the last minute, walk through the store, and grab something that looks 'girly'. So to help him with that I told him on my birthday "I need a new make-up box, one with drawers or shelves and you can find it at THIS store." Pretty simple right?

    He came back with a tackle box from the hardware store he goes to.

    Dead serious.

    OKay......so, the following Christmas I said "Honey, all I want is Godiva Chocolate, you can find it in ANY Dillards, or you can go to the mall and buy it right from the store....that's ALL I want...Godiva Chocolate."

    Christmas morning, I open up a box of Walgreens brand assorted chocolate...and he yelps out "Honey, I tried, but I couldn't find cadaver (omg!!!) chocolates anywhere!"

    Okay....so, I have given up on him being creative.....given up totally. This year, I grabbed a catalogue from a store I love, Saphora (make up junkie here) and I circled things I would like from that store. Seems simple right? I AM SO NERVOUS! I can only imagine what he'll come back with!

    Now don't get me wrong, my favorite thing about the holidays is spending time together, and family, etc....I do get into it. I get into it a lot, and I LOVE to buy gifts for friends and family, I like to find stuff that I know they wouldn't ever buy themselves but would really like...it's the fun part for me. My hubby gets all sensetive though, because he knows I will do this and he feels like he has to compete, but then his attempts...well....they suck! Hehehehe....

    So....here's the question finally.....How the heck do I handle this? Just smile and thank him and expect a life full of presents that I hide in the back of the closet, or do I try to coach him and see if he ever figures it out? Is it bratty of me to wish that he would put more effort into kowing what types of things I enjoy?

    Blah...silly rant I know...but truly, I am nervous every year when it's time to open the box! "Oh! Honey! A screw driver!!!! Thank you!!!!!"

    hehehehe.




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    Cadavar that is hysterical. I know exactly how you feel though. I don't know what it is about guys being bad about gifts. Mine is awful. For the first few years we were together he could not get the present thing down at all. If we were shopping and I was buying something and it was remotely close to my birthday or xmas, he would just hand his credit card to the saleperson and say, "here it'll be your ____ present." I mean I couldn't really complain, but I tried to explain I like gifts - like the suprise and the thought that he picked it out and even unwrapping it. Oh well.

    He's a little better now. A little. He still didn't even tell me Happy Mother's Day, when I'd just givin birth the month earlier. Yes, I'm still mad about that one.

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    I have read that the reason guys buy lame gifts for girls is because they have this desire to "take care of you" so they gifts that they think woudl be useful to you. They think you could really use that screwdriver, and it might come in handy.

    You know the lamest gift my boyfriend ever got me was my best birthday ever. He got me a dart board.

    the Morning of my birthday, I wake up, and he is gone. He didnt tell me wher ehe was going. he came home, and had a birthday cake. A chocolate chip cake with a smiley face on it. Kinda silly, but I loove thoes kind of cakes.

    Then he gave me my gift. A dart board. Why? because we had gone out a few nights before had had a lot of fun playign darts, so he thoguht I might like one.

    Then he gave me a card with a pickle on it. A pickle card.

    Very silly. Pretty lame. Until I remembered the reason.
    Months before, we were at chic fil a. The lady at the counter asked the guy in front of us if he wanted his pickle on or off.( the sandwich) Anyway, I thoguht it was hilerous, and laughed for days. Want your pickle on or off?

    It was just cute that he had remembered that.


    OK. Sorry, I went off a little.


    My point is, its the thought that counts, btu it doesnt really sound like your guy is putting any thought into it. Walgreens chocolate? He should know better.
    I woudl tell him, I dont care what you get me honey, as long as its meaningful. As long as you put thought into it. I really wouldnt care if my boyfriend got me a totally lame gift, if he actually put thought into it, and really thought it was something I might need, or like.(even if he was off)

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    Ugh about not saying happy mothers day! ^^ I'd be pissed for a bit, too.

    As for the bad presents - I think in a sense that it sucks for him that you have to pretend to like his gifts that he's wasting money on anyway - I'd go with him to the mall and specifically point out things. And THEN give him a cataloge of the same things with all the specifics highlighted. Haha. Poor guy. Let us know if you unwrap a wal mart 4,200 peice makeup kit for 1.99 or not.

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    Aaaaaaaaaaahhhaaahahahaha! I needed that laugh. You're SURE he doesn't have ADD?
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    does he wrap them properly, with sticky tape and everything?

    my husband was so drunk on christmas eve last year, i don't believe he fastened ANY of the paper... it was miraculously held together with scout knotted ribbons. ahahahaah...

    oh how i laughed...

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    Yay! I am not alone!!!!!

    K, I'm glad, because I felt like a little brat for a bit there...but honestly, it drives me nuts sometimes! And truth be told, he buys gifts for everyon that way....waits until the last mintue, then goes out and gets what's available. I told him one day "Ya know, that sucks, because then you aren't aren't really choosing the gift....kinda lame." He says "No it's great, because then I don't have to choose, the decision is made for me!" Ugh...


    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21 View Post
    Aaaaaaaaaaahhhaaahahahaha! I needed that laugh. You're SURE he doesn't have ADD?

    OMG! I laughed so hard at this, it's EXTREMELY possible that he does... He got up last night around 8 pm, I said where are you going, he says shopping....I said the mall closes in an hour or two though...he says Yah, I know, but Wal-Mart stays open all night!!!!

    *sigh*

    I love the big dork....but I'm gonna kick him in the shin if he gets me another tackle-box type present!




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    Hey, at least he tries. I, for one, think its kinda cute that he fumbles, but he means well.
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    hehehe, it IS cute....the first, twice, maybe the third time....but after that...it's spooky.

    And if it were just fumbeling, I'd be so okay with that...but it's more like grasping....while blindfolded, and drunk....yah, kinda like that.




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    Amazon.com has a wishlist thingie and to buy stuff on the list, all you have to do is hit the "Buy" button. Might be a bit more helpful. XD
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    lol man that was an awesome post! haha. I mean not to laugh at your expense but holy shit lol

    A tacklebox? I am with the other girl in thinking he has add. or something. because he remembered to get the box with lil shelves!

    Its cute in its own way. If anything you are at least surprised on xmas morning.

    BUT... I were in your shoes Id have already started to think that he just didnt give a shit enough to remember what I wanted, or that it wasnt important. And that any ole thing will do. I would be upset on that end of it.

    and be glad he didnt find cadavar chocolate ...ew

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    too cute. tell him a gift certificate from sephora if you don't like what he gets you this year

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    Is he being cheap or cheeky?

    Worse present I ever gave a woman... a wok (I loved it by the way) Best? Well I've done more good than bad. Roses on her birthday I suppose.

    I do not give makeup, cosmetics, etc as a gift. If she wants it, she can pick it out, and if she wants to she can wrap it up.

    I think we are weird for gifts, we usually give each other socks and undies lol. Present things are either a total surprise or some how budgeted.
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    Wishlists are awesome. I've also been known to send emails with a selection of webpages already nailing down size, color and style from which he can choose in order to surprise me.

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    I once had to tell an ex that the presents he gives reflect on the relationship. I was dating tis guy who made 100 thousand a year and on the way home from the airport would buy me the convenience store flowers. Problem was he would just take whatever they had. Ie basically had one day of life left in them.
    Your situation is harder to say w/out knowing him. But he has a f*cking scortching hot woman that he is married to and buys you crap? Not a way to keep the romance alive. I am going by your avatar- I guess that's you. Could possibly turn me into a lesbian. I know there's more to it than gifts,but on the few occasions they are given they shouldn't be crap.
    Maybe try it out on him and see how he likes it. Or just keep raving about the cool stuff your custies give you. He should be really nervous -you are hot (did I mention that). He must be phenomenal in bed. Even that really doesn't make up for thoughtlessness.

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    Good god, can EE be any friggin hotter? That avatar is killing me!

    Off topic, sure, but shit! Good-fucking-god!

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    He isn't trying hard enough. If a guy is can-do, he will come back with a box of Godiva chocolates, without a doubt.

    If my guy did this, I would ask him if he lost his brain on the way out the door. If he didn't want to get you the stuff you asked for, he could've picked out another gift that was nice.

    He just went to Walgreens and bought chocolates. I mean, come on, the guy didn't even go to Dillards. Any fool can find a box of Godiva chocolates.

    This is simply unacceptable.

    My bf Might do this... but only as a punishment because I deserved it.

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    Default Re: He's so sweet, but so lame!!!

    you all are cracking me up! I think it's a mixture of being a bit lazy, of being a bit absent minded and being a bit (cheap) frugel.

    So last night he DID hint to me that he "was really good this year...even finished shopping allready!" THAT is a first for him...so maybe he's figuring it out?

    "He must be phenomenal in bed. Even that really doesn't make up for thoughtlessness."

    Mare, he is....and a total sweetheart...just really really bad at this gift giving thing.


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