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    I have found that one of the keys to making money is to ignore the other girls completely, unless they directly address me. Usually there is no reason at all for them to do so. I smile at them when they pass by to be courteous, but I don't try to make any friends at all. I don't even joke around, and I NEVER complain about it being slow with other girls.

    I go to work and I don't discuss my personal life or the customers with the other dancers. I don't go out for breakfast with the other dancers. I don't party, and my boyfriend and real friends don't come in the club. I keep the two completely separate.

    And you know what? It works. I might be a little lonely at the end of the night when the other girls are talking about how their nights went, but my no chatting rule has led me into greater earnings. I don't waste any time at work with drama or even light banter.

    I suggest it, unless you are already friends with the girls you work with.

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    I completely agree. I am friends with only one girl in the club and we work well together. We keep eachother going through the night and promote eachother to the custies but I do not make friends with the other girls.

    Of course I am pleasant to whichever girls are pleasant to me, but I would rather keep to myself and focus on work. In the past, I used to obsess about all the other girls. Oh she is better looking than me, hotter than me, bigger boobs than me, tighter ass than me, making more money than me, etc etc and Ive learned, the less attention I pay to the other girls, the more money I make and the longer I stay sane during the night.

    However, I do find, if a "clique" has bagged a group of VIP guys, I dont feel comfortable walking in on that as I dont know the other girls...

    But whatever, so far so good, I am happy with how things are going for me at the moment.
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    Yep, same here!

    Yea of coruse im nice to them, but i really keep to myself.

    i think it looks bad when two girls are chatting away, when some customer might want a dance from them.

    plus the less time u spend talkin, the more time u can be makin money!
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    My work rule:
    Always be friendly, never make friends.

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    it's really hard for me not to make friends at work, sometimes it can get boring. i guess i'm just a chatterbox

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    yes! girls who sit and gossip all night, or sit and complain to one another, are missing out on money. if money comes in, and you are engaged in conversation, you can't possibly get to it. many sales advisors will tell you not to engage in the "BS Ring" of shooting it with co-workers.

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    Absolutely good advice. You have to ask yourself, "In what way do I benefit from gabbing with all the other dancers?" and if you are unable to come up with a good answer, I think you just found your answer.

    Think about it, why do other dancers chit-chat with one another? To talk about how bad the night was, to talk about personal issues, etc. So how does that benefit you in any way? It doesn't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DancerWealth View Post
    Absolutely good advice. You have to ask yourself, "In what way do I benefit from gabbing with all the other dancers?" and if you are unable to come up with a good answer, I think you just found your answer.

    Think about it, why do other dancers chit-chat with one another? To talk about how bad the night was, to talk about personal issues, etc. So how does that benefit you in any way? It doesn't.
    I guess I'm a little more like tootsie, in that I do talk to the other girls, but I don't think it negatively effects my $$.

    I am often approached to do a few dances for a custy, by another dancer or waitress, b/c we're work friends. Doing something simple, like sharing your snack or loaning a garter makes you seem sweet, so other people want to do something sweet back! I save the gossip for times when I'm already taking a break (I like to break for a song or 2 before stage) or at our nightly meetings after tipout. I don't talk about how my night went to much, just other things.... I think it's made me more $$$ to be "friends" then it's lost me

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    Default Re: Ignoring other dancers works wonders

    i've been doing that since I started and it is definitely true

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    You can't ignore them but don't let them screw up your game.



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    Quote Originally Posted by sophiemarie View Post
    You can't ignore them but don't let them screw up your game.

    yes! It's like saying "not rubbernecking will make traffic smoother"...while true, you just have to rubbeneck if something good happens! the gossip and drama is pretty exciting sometimes.

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    ^^^
    LOL, the craziness at work allows me to be SUPER happy to get back to my very drama-free life @ the end of the night. I revel in my boring-ness!

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    i see your point but its also good to have a few girls who u get along with who u can hustle with - like a group of u to approach a group of guys seems to work well sometimes.

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    I'm not saying you shouldn't be friendly and polite...not at all. I'm not subscribing to the theory that you should pretend that other dancers don't exist at all. And yet there is a balance between being friendly and sitting on a barstool with two other dancers whining all night about how slow the club is, see what I mean?

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    yes totally and i definately don't do that i work very hard when i am there - only taking short breaks to eat during the night and i work 8-10 hour shifts so it's exhausting.
    but i just wanted to point out that if u get along with some other girls with a similar work ethic u can use that as an approach occasionally.
    i get on very well with another dancer at my club and we will sometimes walk around laughing and looking like we are having heaps of fun and it usually attracts customers to us and then we will do double dances and it just works out great!
    we don't stay glued to each other all night though as we are both there to make as much $$$$ as possible.

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    well i dont think being friends with dancers is a problem unless you make it one (ie, sitting on bar stools and bitching- or wasting time chatting). when you have decent relations with other dancers it can help sales (ie, "lets go to her stage shes so awesome"!) or if a customer is looking for a girl *insert description* you can possibly be referred, but i would never send over money to a girl i didnt like.

    as long as you use your time wisely it doesn't matter what kind of relationship you have with anyone

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    You are not there for the drama. You are there to get that money cause if you don't I assure you someone else will./



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    Default Re: Ignoring other dancers works wonders

    Unfortunately I'm a mother of a two year old so my job is actually my social outlet too. I definitely agree with that idea of not talking to other girls because there are some nites I know I could've made more money but I was sitting there shooting the breeze with another dancer. But my social life is important too so I take the good with the bad.

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    I do better at work when I'm friendly with the other girls. We have little chats, but we never keep each other back from making money. It's more like little friendly "what's-going-on" for 30secs, or "how's-your-night?", etc. It motivates me because there's mutual support. The right kind of girls motivate each other. Back when I had no friends at work at all...eh, I was less happy to be there. When shit hit the fan, I had no one to commiserate with, and that sucks. I think it's human psychology to just want some casual friends at your job. It's like every job I've had before. We don't waste time (i remember jobs when I was 'on the clock'- we could only briefly chat, because we'd feel guilty for gossiping when we should be working...and it's no different at the club! I always have that 'on the clock' feeling in the back of my mind). So yeah, friends are good for morale, so long as they're not crazygirls.

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    Default Re: Ignoring other dancers works wonders

    The best advice I ever heard was "Your only friend in the club is your money." And damn its the truth. Im nice to the girls and there is a few that I will chat with if I get a chance but really its just work and it stays there.

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