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    I know that a lot of you girls have your "regular" and "good" customers but do you have any customers that you actually consider friends? I mean customers that you'd consider hanging out with outside the club. Movies, lunches, that kind of thing. Nothing more serious than that.

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    No. They'll always see me as a stripper first, human second. Just no.

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    only one, but he pays me for my time even though i would consider him a friend. and he doesn't live in my town. in fact, i think he plays many roles for me, friend, regular, lawyer, sugar daddy etc... but it never is just friend so i guess... No.

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    I do, he has been my customer for a number of years now and we hang out OTC...go to movies, concerts, sporting events ect... Nothing sexual, no PD or anything, just hang out as friends. He pays decent in the club and he comes in 3 or so times a month, easy money. He just buys me up for the whole night and I sit with him and give dances. He always has been polite and he knows I have a b/f and I am TOTALLY not interested in him like that...just recently he got drunk and told me he was "in love" with me, now he has gone from having my respect to being a PL. That sucks because now I am not going to want to hang with him for fear of alterior motives or not wanting to lead him on. I am going to have to set him straight soon or cut his OTC off completely until he gets over his stupid middle school crush...

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    Also to the OP, dont think that this is typical stripper behavior because its not. I just happen to be a pussy who feels bad for people sometimes and they get alittle extra. (Never will alittle extra involve sex, I just mean time)

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    NO. Work is work. Personal is personal. I see them as wallets and they see me as meat. And, despite any complaining I may do about how they don't see me as a real human with real feelings, when it all boils down I prefer they see me as meat. Then it never gets complicated or annoying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    NO. Work is work. Personal is personal. I see them as wallets and they see me as meat. And, despite any complaining I may do about how they don't see me as a real human with real feelings, when it all boils down I prefer they see me as meat. Then it never gets complicated or annoying.

    Grind, pay, grind, pay, grind, pay. That's the way it should be!
    Oh, Bridgette, you make it all sound so magical!

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    ^^Well, I take part of that back. It can still get annoying when they see me as meat. But much less so than if they start shoving "feelings" into the mix

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    I remember when I was a little younger I was baffled by a lot of dancers just because they were so good at showing all the attention to me and creating the impression of friendship and their personal intimate feelings towards me. It was so magical. I went into a flurry of confusion and slight depression because I thought I had a "good" one in the bag and ended the night leaving alone with dreams of what could have been.

    I've seen so many guys, especially the young ones, fall into a dancers grasp and get lead on all-night-long. I actually feel sorry for those guys when I see it now, because I know what they are going through and what they feel after they HAVE to leave.

    You girls are so demonic. But we love you anyways.
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    Custies are my ritual sacrifice victims. Along with your heart, I take your money. LOL

    Seriously...why do people overthink this?

    The number of men I've befriended through work I could count on one hand. The rest of them get the back of my hand. PIMPSLAP!!!!!

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    I've befriended a lot of my customers... even more so when I stopped lap dancing.. now alot of guys who were my regulars have become friends of mine.

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    I think it's possible. I've had a few. It's not easy however, cuz like it's been said there's just a lot to sort through. You can't really think anything of it if it's just ITC, but once you start going OTC it's a different thing because they can be more themselves. Alot of it depend's on the girls though. Some are open minded and willing to get to know you, some can't see you as more than just a walking wallet.

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    Seriously...why do people overthink this?

    The number of men I've befriended through work I could count on one hand. The rest of them get the back of my hand. PIMPSLAP!!!!
    You girls are the fantasy. Most of you are the answer to our prayers. Most of the young guys fall in love the first time you girls touch them. Seriously.

    You walk up to the guys, talk with him, flirt with him. You get real close so he can smell the perfume, put your hand on his arm/chest, stare in his eyes lustfully and listen to everything he has to say and you smile and make him think he's is the mold of which God created men from. That is serious head trauma for a young male mind to comprehend. It actually goes deeper than that. For the young one-you are the wet dream come true.

    A more experienced male will take the experience for what it is..entertainment (most anyways). The young ones WILL fall in love and attach themselves to you. Be-friend you in anyway possible.

    Those ones you girls call "friends"...want to be your love slave for all time.

    The ones you have to "Pimpslap" don't have the patience for friendship. They need to get-it-on now. Be careful with those kind.

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    **A Code of Honor: Never approach a friend's girlfriend or wife with mischief as your goal. There are just too many women in the world to justify that sort of dishonorable behavior. Unless she's really attractive.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Masscott View Post
    . Those ones you girls call "friends"...want to be your love slave for all time.
    The ones you have to "Pimpslap" don't have the patience for friendship. They need to get-it-on now. Be careful with those kind.
    AWWW kid...you couldn't walk a mile in my 8 inch heels. I'll still be nice to you though.

    Men are simple creatures and to the male brain..."attractive naked female=sex." Any attempt at friendship/doing a favor for a cute girl he's seen naked is a ploy to get some p*ssy. It's THAT simple.

    I have plenty of sad gross stories that prove that "friendship" with a dancer often ends in mutual degradation & awkwardness for both parties. But I don't want to bore you. Just trust me, Little Grasshopper.

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    Men are simple creatures and to the male brain..."attractive naked female=sex." Any attempt at friendship/doing a favor for a cute girl he's seen naked is a ploy to get some p*ssy. It's THAT simple.

    I have plenty of sad gross stories that prove that "friendship" with a dancer often ends in mutual degradation & awkwardness for both parties. But I don't want to bore you. Just trust me, Little Grasshopper.
    My dear, that was the point I was trying to make. You mis-read my post. Young men think with their pants/crotch. Period. Young men think lust=love. The entertainers provides the lust.

    Try reading again.

    Oh..and you can keep the heels.
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    *Plain women know more about men than beautiful ones do. But beautiful women don't need to know about men. It's the men who have to know about beautiful women.

    **A Code of Honor: Never approach a friend's girlfriend or wife with mischief as your goal. There are just too many women in the world to justify that sort of dishonorable behavior. Unless she's really attractive.




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    "Redundant" Tag Puts An Uzi In Its Mouth And Pulls Trigger*

    *fark.com reference

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    Um..yea.
    I guess I should work on that.

    I was adding the topic-nothing more.
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    **A Code of Honor: Never approach a friend's girlfriend or wife with mischief as your goal. There are just too many women in the world to justify that sort of dishonorable behavior. Unless she's really attractive.




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    I dunno, maybe it's just different here cuz it's such a small town... at any rate, yeah, don't overthink it...

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    I'm not getting the "over-think" issue.

    I think that you all are trying to "over-look" the issue. Men be-friend the dancers because they are "lustfully" infatuated with you. Dancers know how to get close to their wittiness and scrabble it like eggs. Could it be that the dancers/entertainers have a guilty conscious to be-friend the customer??
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    **A Code of Honor: Never approach a friend's girlfriend or wife with mischief as your goal. There are just too many women in the world to justify that sort of dishonorable behavior. Unless she's really attractive.




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    While they are customers? I've had one or two. See, the thing is, if I were a waitress, or hairdresser or... like repaired furnaces, I could go out to a movie with a customer and still keep the customer. In a strip club guys are, largely, paying me to hang out with them - and touch me and take off my clothes and stuff, but still, in the strip club my company is worth something. I seriously fuck with that worth if I start seeing my customers socially, either for free or for cash. So, when I make the decision to see the customer socially I am either a) DAMN sure that I still have him hooked, and he KNOWS that what I'm doing is, at least in part, customer relations or b) deciding that I like his as a friend better than a customer. Now, for that, being a "nice guy" (in the non-capitalized sense) isn't adequate. I mean it is necessary, but not sufficient. Everyone is nice. You have to be someone whose company I enjoy so much I am willing to give up money for it - so in way, I am, indirectly paying for that person's company. There are many, many (I daresay MOST) customers I like; but very few I would be willing to pay.
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    But you do realize that your intentions of "customer relations" is not their's?

    You are basically stringing them along for cash. Not friendship. And those individuals are wanting friendship and probably more.

    The question above has the intention if any entertainer could be a friend with their customer. My point, well backed by yours, is that even if the customer wanted a friendship-it is only a link in the chain to what he really is after.

    The entertainer understands this and uses it to her advantage. Correct?
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    **A Code of Honor: Never approach a friend's girlfriend or wife with mischief as your goal. There are just too many women in the world to justify that sort of dishonorable behavior. Unless she's really attractive.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Masscott View Post
    But you do realize that your intentions of "customer relations" is not their's?
    If the customer imagines that I might some day relent and sleep with them... that is not related to anything I've ever said or implied.
    You are basically stringing them along for cash. Not friendship. And those individuals are wanting friendship and probably more.
    Again this is a weird characterization. I'm "stringing them along" if I'm misleading them. If I'm not, I am not stringing them along. I'm performing customer relations on a valued customer. As I said - I make sure they know this, or I wouldn't go; if they don't know this, they are unlikely to come back to the club and spend money. They would far rather take out to a $13 movie or a 1.75 coffee.

    The entertainer understands this and uses it to her advantage. Correct?
    The entertainer knows that her customers find her sexually desirable? Yes, we are on top of that one. Do we use it to our advantage. Let me see. Imagine me creeping up behind the customer, slapping my hands over his eyes and saying (not in a sexy voice, because apparently sexually attracting your customers is wrong) "Would you like a dance? You may not watch, touch me or do anything that might arouse you. Would that be good for you? No? You mean, you come in here FOR THE PURPOSE of looking at sexually attractive women and paying them to arouse you? Fuck, I've been worried that the second you get the suggestion of a hard on that I would entirely responsible for your mind, brain and your every action. So, I won't have to, like, do your job or anything tomorrow if you get turned on during the dance? You'll still be able to make decisions independantly of me? Okay... if you're sure... maybe you can watch a little bit."
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    Quote Originally Posted by rozz View Post
    No. They'll always see me as a stripper first, human second. Just no.
    Not all of us guys have that same neanderthal attitude towards women. That's why I like to stick with the same girls so I can get to know them a little better as a person. Several of the women I've hung out with over the last few months made my "friends" list. If they needed a favor, I'd be more than happy to help them, no strings attatched. Unfortunetly, I've come to realize that all of them except 1 or 2 consider me nothing more than a walking ATM machine. But I degress. Not all guys are going to view you as just a piece of meat and you should be able to tell the difference between them.

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    Agreed. The ones that look at the women as a piece of meat are the ones that are "pimp-slapped".
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    **A Code of Honor: Never approach a friend's girlfriend or wife with mischief as your goal. There are just too many women in the world to justify that sort of dishonorable behavior. Unless she's really attractive.




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    I wouldn't mix friends w/ biz, but that's me. I don't think I'd feel comfy hanging w/ my custys otc, b/c I'll alway see them as my custy, and they knew mr 1st as a stripper....

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