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    I have started to go to the dayshift, recently, of my local club. I luckily ended up coming into contact with a dancer who came back to the club after taking a year off. She remembers me and I remember her from before. I have started becoming her regular again. Now, here is the weird part. A girl who I had seen several times at the night shift had been seeing me come in the dayshift. We started talking to each other and she is really nice. She asked me for dances the first few times she saw me coming in the day. Now she realizes that I am not too interested in getting dances from her because of my newfound regular girl who also works the dayshift. This has not stopped her from conversating with me for most of the time I am at the club. She basically tells me the inside gossip of happenings in the club, how her other dances with guys have been, and personal stuff about herself. Right after she gets done dancing for other guys, she comes right back to me to starts talking. When my regular comes to get me for dances, I go back with her, but I am feeling kind of bad for this girl who I have spent most of my time with in the day but have never gotten a dance from.

    What should I do about this situation?
    I think this girl is nice but am not sure I want to get dances from her.
    I tip her on stage though.
    This does not seem to bother her as she has recently stopped asking me for dances and just talks with me for most of the time I am at the club.

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    you are her "island in a sea of insanity". it works like this: i don't wanna let custies see me not working, but sometimes i just wanna sit back & chill out without going into the dressing room. so i identify a custy with three attributes- a familair face around the club, no intention of buying dances, doesn't mind me just loafing around his table. thus identified, you become the one i can kick back with while still scanning the floor for potential $$$. if you tip on stage, all the better.

    what you do about the situation depends on how you feel about it. are you ok with her hanging out or do you want her to go away? if you want her to go away, you're gonna have to tell her straight up that you're there only for a specific dancer that's not her. if you don't mind her being around, don't feel guilty about not getting dances. she's already figured out that you don't want them from her & she hangs out anyways.

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    Yup, you're a pawn. That's ok though, if you enjoy her company and conversation, go with the flow. She obviously thinks you are a pleasant person. Assholes don't get that type of attention for free. You COULD tip her occasionally for her time.

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    sometimes, a girl just needs to vent..... don't feel bad, she's making her own choices

    I think a nice thing to do would just be to let her chill with you, and tip her on stage.

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    Ahhh... the safe spot... There's a guy at my club who comes in to see one girl in particular and doesn't do dances with anyone else. He is an all around nice guy, may tip occassionally on stage but to me he is also a safe haven. I can take a break and still be out on the floor, chat with him about anything and just kind of turn my game off for a few (we all need a break sometimes...) Sound familiar? If I had to put money on it, I'd say you were her safe spot. Enjoy the free company, if you tip her on occassion I'm sure she'd appreciate it.

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    Yep, I do it too. It probably just means that she finds you pleasent to talk to and hang with. But I would NEVER sit with another dancer's regular.
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    What they all said. If I am lucky I can find one guy every night to 'hang' with. Sit and chit chat and laugh and look like lots of fun all the while relaxing.

    If you don't mind it, then don't sweat it, she's a big girl, if she needs to go make some money she'll get up and go....

    Usually when I find a guy to hang with, I always tell him, "IF you see a dancer you do like, let me know, I'll grab her for you..." Just so he knows I don't want to stop him from having his fun too.




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    LMFAO, I used to use custy as an island. I didn't think they mind. Oh well, sorry.

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    I finally ended up getting dances from this girl (who sits with me) when the club had a dance special and my regular had just left the club. She was really into the dance and did everything within the limits of the rules in the lapdance. I kind of caught her off guard by getting dances from her. She had been having a slow day and I decided I would check to see how her dances were since she had been so nice to me in the past few weeks. I am wondering how this will change how she deals with me in the club.

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    Welcome to the safe haven society.

    Means she trusts you enough to relax with you. I think most dancers like to find a "safe" customer who won't tell them they've got nice t*ts, ask them it they get turned on by dancing, start asking for phone numbers, etc.

    I sort of do the same for a number of dancers. We might see each other at intervals of several weeks, but the conversation just picks up from where it left off. Tends to be an interesting conversation as well; I've talked about alchemy, cosmology, psychology, buddhism and a myriad of other subjects that have held my attention.

    (Mind you, I've also been on the end of conversations about neanderthals, fu*king retards, perves, etc. Wonder who the dancers could be letting off steam about?)

    As the dancers said, you can be an island of sanity in a sea of madness. Just like we all take coffee breaks at work, I think a lot of dancers like to take sanity breaks. For sure, she likes you as a person, or she'd soon find someone else for her 'break'.

    Quote Originally Posted by hallrvdrul View Post
    I finally ended up getting dances from this girl (who sits with me) when the club had a dance special and my regular had just left the club... I am wondering how this will change how she deals with me in the club.
    It'll change the relationship, but in what way depend on you and her. Firstly, you've just moved from her safe haven to her safe haven/customer mental pigeon hole. She'll view you a little differently as a result.

    It's quite possible she enjoyed the dance on a personal level. Dancers by definition have an exhibistionistic streak and it was probably nice for her to dance for someone whom she knew was going to be polite and appreciative. It might be the way a dancer earns a living, but it doesn't mean they don't from time to time get a bit of fun out of it as well.

    I think you'll also find that (for good or bad) having a dance from her will become part of the routine. We all have expectations as to what would/should happen, and her expectations were changed when you had a dance.

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    Enjoy it, especially if there is free mileage - try to tip her as generously as possible. She could be a valuable resource for your goals at the club.
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    Perhaps because of the trust factor she knew you would never cross boundaries. That comfort allowed her to leap right into her best dance for you that only regulars would normally get since those dances make her more vulnerable to a jerk ruining her day by crossing a boundary. Be friends are your own risk though if you just want good dances as the worst dances I've had are when we've sincerely been just friends as that makes the dances entirely personal, awkward, embaressing, or whatever. That does not happen often in a strip club unless you are seeking it.

    I get the island treatment from the sister of a girl that I have a crush on to the point that I do not want dances as it would end the happily-ever-after situation that I hope for. This sister of the girl I like is kinda young in the sense that she is still beginning to become comfortable in a club and kinda is there only because her sister and she go together to the club. I can tell she is trying to calm down and take a break from the scene with me, but I'm always surprised when she does this even when there are guys waiting specifically for her with money in hand.

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    It has gotten to the point between me and this dancer that she comes to ask me who she could give lap dances to. Also, the other night when they were doing dollar dances at the club, she went to several guys to give dollar dances and then came to me to give me one. She said she did not feel right taking my dollar since she had been on so many other guys that night.

    She tells to me to come to the club whenever she works and I am fine with going since I don't currently have a job right now and have lots of time to kill until college starts up for me again next week. Other dancers have come up to me and stated that what is she is doing is against the rules of the club. They say you are not supposed to conversate with a customer for more than 10 minutes unless they are getting dances from you. The club I go to is a pretty high hustle club, so I was shocked when all this attention was given to me for free a few weeks ago and it hasnt stopped since.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hallrvdrul View Post
    They say you are not supposed to conversate with a customer for more than 10 minutes unless they are getting dances from you.
    if that's the rule, that's her problem. however, i have a sneaking suspicion that they're just pissed that she's hogging what they see as a potential customer.

    do you feel free to get dances from other girls when she's working? do other girls feel free to stop by when she's sitting with you? as long as you're happy with the answers to these questions, keep on keepin' on.

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    he also said he's about to go back into college-

    how old are you? safe haven might also be her liking you just a little.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fancygirl View Post
    he also said he's about to go back into college-

    how old are you? safe haven might also be her liking you just a little.

    I am 21 going on 22. The dancer is also 21 and is about 8 months younger than me. Most of her customers seem to be older guys. Her approach with these customers is the "wanna dance" approach which seems to work with these guys as she gives a really "aggresive" lap dance. She does not seem to mind that I get dances from my regular on dayshift and will always leave her seat with me if I ask her. The girl that I normally get lap dances with on the dayshift is probably the most popular girl on dayshift as she is always in the backroom giving lapdances and has little time to talk. This makes it really nice to have this other girl to talk to when my regular is busy with other customers.

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    Ya, sounds like she's got a crush on you....

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    Sounds like your in SC heaven. The prob for her is her earnings probably suffer.
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