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    Angry I dont wanna be a rat, but its driving me nuts!

    Ive been dancing for a little over a month. Im no longer the "new girl" which makes me feel a little better.

    I seem to get along really well with almost everyone I work with. But there is one girl who seems to have a problem with me. She looks at me like im a retard speaking jibberish when Im speaking in her general direction. She gives me the bitchy once over whenever she can. But hey, I cant get along with everyone all the time. I try not to let her get under my skin. But on two occasions now she has approached a customer that im sitting with. Last night in particular she even tripped as she tried to get past me and the table, to where Mr. Whoever was sitting. Im pretty sure she was drinking. After she sat down on his left knee, (I was to his right, with his arm around me) I just got up and left shaking my head.

    I dont wanna start shit. I dont care if shes rude and disrespectful to me backstage, but not on the floor, not in front of customers, and definatly not when it interfears with my cashflow. Everyone knows that approaching a customer who's occupied with another girl is against the rules. When i started I knew it was just a given.

    Do i tell management? They have been really good about making sure each new dancer is comfortable and no other girls are picking on them. They say they want to weed out the catty stuff.

    I know if i talk to her face to face, shes likley to bitch slap me. She will definatly start posting junk about me on another anonymous stripping site (like ive overheard her admit to)

    Advice on how to deal?

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    Default Re: I dont wanna be a rat, but its driving me nuts!

    you can tell, but it probably won't make a difference...except make your worklife even more difficult.

    if it's any consolation, customers see right through that. Unless he's really into her for some reason (like they know each other from before, which may be the case since you're new and you wouldn't know, or she's just his type), it works against her.

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    Default Re: I dont wanna be a rat, but its driving me nuts!

    Management really won't give a crap. Of that I'm 99.99% sure. Just ignore her, or when she sits down immediately pull the customer away for a dance.

    And I wouldn't worry if she starts posting shit about you on SCL. Not a big deal; no one gives it any credence.

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    Default Re: I dont wanna be a rat, but its driving me nuts!

    Just don't let her walk all over you. Next time, don't give up. If you don't want to start shit, but don't want to get walked all over, just say something politely to her in front of others, such as, I'm sorry, but could you please give myself and this gentlemen a little bit of privacy? If she sees she can't walk all over you, she'll stop. Management will never succeed in weeding out catty staff in a strip club. Its an all woman staff for the most part - and thats gonna lead to cattiness. You just have to stand your ground and concentrate on what's best for you and your money.

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    Default Re: I dont wanna be a rat, but its driving me nuts!

    what a bitch!
    u have to stand up for yourself tho, she is a bully and if u don't she will keep doing stuff like this to u.
    as pooka said say something in front of the customer it will embarrass her and make her look like the stupid one.

    or u could always bitch slap her lol j/k

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    Default Re: I dont wanna be a rat, but its driving me nuts!

    give it some space, and next week she'll be picking on someone else, more then likely.....

    untill then, just do your own thing, don't talk to her, and don't share custy's w/ her!

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    Default Re: I dont wanna be a rat, but its driving me nuts!

    Whatever her problem is, it has NOTHING to do with you.

    I have never worked in a club (I am in the process of working in a club), but those type of people exist in every profession and instance. I've delt with these type of people my whole life.

    You are doing the right thing, ignore her like the plague. If you are talking to the girls and she starts to approach, just excuse yourself and leave.

    Do not give her the opportunity to let out her little fustrations on you, and if she does, don't say a word. No reaction. That will get her even more upset, and her taunting will probably get worse or stop.

    People who act like that are mentally weak, they pick their victims and pray on them.
    Who does she pick, you, who only worked there for one month. LAUGHABLE.

    When she approached your customer, that was a low blow, but you handeled it like a camp. If she needs that 20-40 bucks that bad to take cheap shots, let her have it.

    You said that she told someone she is going to post some false information about you on a website. That's slander. And if she bad mouths you to customers or management, that is defamation of character.

    I apologize that you have to experience a bully. Geesh, you must feel like you are in HS.

    Take care girl.
    Last edited by prettychristy001; 12-27-2006 at 08:55 PM.

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