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    Are we all supposed to have more than one friend??

    I dont want to sound sad or a geek or ought like that but when I try to make friends they seem nice to me for awhile but soon after they dont get back in touch just feels like they've lost interest but when I get back to them I never hear from them again.

    Ive tryed making friends for a few years now and nothing seems to be working. I do get depressed quite alot beause I dont go out or anything at night and spend most of my time on my own. Ive got a boyfriend who lives 60odd miles from me (which doesnt seem far but he has university + works as well + some other stuff but dont want to mention) and one friend who also lives over 100miles from me (but shortly coming back in Feb next year yay!).

    Im not asking for sympathy just wanted to know the answer "are we supposed to have more than one friend"

    Thank you
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    it is difficult to have a deep friendship with more than one person at a time. i find it practically impossible since i got married to maintain my girlfriends because many of them are incredibly needy and resentful of my husband. (issues much)

    sigh.

    it is pretty easy to maintain a bunch of shallow acquaintances you can count on to come by and drink your booze and eat your food.

    bleeding hearts, upon whose shoulder one can sob, are few and far between for me.

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    you know, I was wondering this too.

    I only really seem to have one friend at a time. I've since become very close to a newer friend and at the same pace, distanced myself from my old best friend from college (and she's growing closer to people she works/parties with.)

    I guess as time goes on, people change. And when I change, she changes, and our friendships adapt to those changes?

    And another thing I find interesting is that this really only applies to women.

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    Thank you soo much for your posts, I am so glad im not the only one that feels this way.
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    I have friends but we're spread out all over the place and I hardly ever hear from them. Right now I'm all lonely and bummed because pretty much everybody I know is out of town. *sigh* I'll be glad when the new year is underway and people are back in L.A. again.

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    I only have 2 people that I am actually close with and trust completely. They are (to me) the definition of what a friend should be. I have a lot of other acquaintances that I may call once in a while or go out for drinks, but I don't really consider them an actual friend. They don't really keep in touch with me and I don't really keep in touch with them. Sometimes it bothers me, but I'm pretty Ok with it, when it all comes down to it.






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    I think a lot of it has to do with getting older. When you're young, a lot of the time you have more friends than you know what to do with, but as time goes on, people grow apart, move away or just don't have anything in common with you anymore. Plus, you end up devoting a lot more time to your spouse/s.o./families than when you were younger and the time you have to offer friends gradually lessens over time.

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    I have 3 very close friends. I have known all of them since I was 14. The two girls, Bobbi-Jo & Lori, we see eachother often and play in a Pool League together. My other close friend is John...he's like the "sister" I aways wanted!LOL! Him and I didn't start out a best buds, but as young teens growing up together, he grew on me! I consider myself very blessed. I can trust these three with ANYTHING! I have another couple of friends that I am close with, but jobs and distance keep us from regularily getting together, hence a small drift. I believe friendships need to be maintained just like your relationship with a SO. I feel this is why I have been connected with my girls for so long.

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