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    I am now convinced without a doubt that some men come to strip clubs with no other intention than to treat the dancers like trash. Last night I had not one, but two, incredibly rude customers. If you don't want a dance there are plenty of ways to refuse politley. After this guy basically told me to fuck off, I looked to his friend for some kind of apology (he and I had been chatting it up), thinking maybe the asshole was just drunk and that the friend would be embarrssed by it, but he pointed at me and then away from himself, like a "get out of here" motion. I swear this kind of shit is always the young guys. After that, I was talking to two other guys, when one of them started speaking to me in bad Spanish, obviously he was not a Spanish speaker (neither am I) and for some fucked up reason thought it would be funny to act like he didn't understand me. So I thought I'd play along and speak in French. Well I guess he couldn't take what he dished out and then proceeded to tell me in English that he wanted me to leave him the hell alone, and then grapped the beer that he had supposedly bought for me and started drinking it,telling me not to fuck with his beer, and blah blah blah. Then I had a guy give me $100 after doing two dances (that would be $40 nrmally). Since he gave it to me with a big smile and said NOTHING about wanting change, I thought it was a tip. So i proceeded to sit with him for one more song to be polite (after the big tip and all), when he asked me for his change. What the fuck! I couldn't help but run to the bathroom as my eyes teared up. I usually can let that kind of stuff roll of my back, but last night was just too much at once. Not to mention I only made $70. Argggg. Thank you all for letting me vent, I feel better now. Please don't let my complaining put anyone in a bad mood
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    Oh, honey. I'm sorry about that. It sucks I know, but don't let them see your frustration. You did the right thing by walking off before you started crying. HUGS!!!
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    You should have had the bouncers involved. Those type of guys do not need to go to strip clubs.
    He was probably a spoiled brat of some sorts not getting his way. What you described is a classic way of younger guys "throwing-a-fit".
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    Quote Originally Posted by feria42 View Post
    Then I had a guy give me $100 after doing two dances (that would be $40 nrmally). Since he gave it to me with a big smile and said NOTHING about wanting change, I thought it was a tip. So i proceeded to sit with him for one more song to be polite (after the big tip and all), when he asked me for his change. What the fuck! I couldn't help but run to the bathroom as my eyes teared up.
    Sorry you went through this baby....this is EXACTLY why I always say(whether I have it on me to make change or not) "I have to go to the bar and get change for you baby....I'll see you in a few minutes. Then the guy either says ok, and i go get his change(and dont have to waste any more time with him) or says "keep it" and then I KNOW its a tip.

    As for the other douchebags....I'd have had them kicked out for talking to me like that. I wouldnt want any other girl disrespected by them....if for whatever reason I couldnt have them booted, I'd at LEAST warn every other girl...LOUDLY and within earshot of the assclowns that they are rude arrogant cheap assholes and not to bother talking to them....but thats just me...I'm a bitch..:-)
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    Aww, you ladies are great! I wish I had SW in the dressing room!
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    Moving this to Stripping, where it would seem to be a better fit.

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    Wow... I'm sorry you had to deal with all that! Young guys are almost always assholes... if you add even ONE friend to that, they are ALWAYS assholes (with maybe a 2% exception). They don't understand what strip clubs are for and they have no money... a bad combination. I usually scope them out during a couple of tip walks and see how they're behaving. Depending on that, I usually just steer clear of them completely.
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    I'm sorry. It is so hard to put up with shit when you are making no money. Especially when you are a "nice" girl...a tough girl, one with a big mouth and a bad temper, doesn't get fucked with because guys know she is gonna fight back.

    Wednesday night, some guys sitting by the stage were making hand gestures as to what they wanted me to do, I laughed and ignored them. One guy got mad and gave me the finger and then started screaming, "Fuck you" to me until I left the stage.

    He told the next girl, "Get onstage you fucking loser." So she got in his face, had a (verbal) fight and got him kicked out.

    I couldn't make a big scene like that.


    Last night one guy told me "this is the best job you're ever gonna get." Yeah, ok buddy. And then I went onstage and the next guy touched my pussy onstage. ARGH!


    Sorry to vent on your thread. But I meant to say,I feel you. And I know it sucks big time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnie View Post
    Last night one guy told me "this is the best job you're ever gonna get." Yeah, ok buddy.
    What an ass....I'd have to come back with "yeah...but it could be worse..I could have YOUR job"

    You can find fault with just about any profession, so it wouldnt matter what his actual job was.

    I have no problem being a bitch to someone if they are disrespecting me. A guy the other day called me an "ice queen" because I wouldnt let him touch my crotch while he tipped me(a whopping $1 on stage). I told him that if he was nice, or cute, or rich, or didnt have teeth rotting out of his head...etc...etc...that I would have let him...but since he basically had no redeeming qualities at all he was S.O.L.

    Fuck them. Nobody has the right to talk down to me or treat me like that. They shouldnt be able to get away with it and I wouldnt be able to live with myself if I let them.
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    Jeez, these guys obviously do not know what the purpose of going to a strip club is. Im Sorry
    The other night, one of the girls was onstage and a guy came up to the rail to tip her. She stepped down, recieved the tip, then went to give hima kiss on the cheek (what we usually do when someone tips onstage). When she leaned in, he pulled his head back and the told her she was trashy! WTF??? why are you gonna go tip someone to tell them they are trashy??? She told the bouncer, and him and his friend got kicked out. I couldn't resist dancing to "Trashy Women" by Confederate Railroad for my next set
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnie View Post
    He told the next girl, "Get onstage you fucking loser." So she got in his face, had a (verbal) fight and got him kicked out.

    I couldn't make a big scene like that.
    Oh, I've never made a big scene... but I would kill anyone who said something like that to me... I would do my BEST to have him kicked out!
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    Holy crap! What a jerk! So sorry hunny! Geez, what the hell goes through these guys minds?

    "Hey dude, wanna pay 7 bucks and buy some over priced beer so we can piss off chicks in their underwear?"

    "Sure, I can't get pu**y anyway, might as well have some fun"


    Honestly, I'm a very mellow girl, but I don't know if I could hold my tongue after all that.... **Sending you a hug**




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    Quote Originally Posted by sensuality View Post
    Jeez, these guys obviously do not know what the purpose of going to a strip club is. Im Sorry
    The other night, one of the girls was onstage and a guy came up to the rail to tip her. She stepped down, recieved the tip, then went to give hima kiss on the cheek (what we usually do when someone tips onstage). When she leaned in, he pulled his head back and the told her she was trashy! WTF??? why are you gonna go tip someone to tell them they are trashy??? She told the bouncer, and him and his friend got kicked out. I couldn't resist dancing to "Trashy Women" by Confederate Railroad for my next set
    I wish the bouncers at my club would be more helpful in situations like that. They seem to not really give a shit unless it involves them losing money some how. I never ask them for help with anything, and therefore I do not tip them. Funny, aren't they supposed to be there to help and protect us? Jeez.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ExoticEngineer View Post
    "Hey dude, wanna pay 7 bucks and buy some over priced beer so we can piss off chicks in their underwear?"

    "Sure, I can't get pu**y anyway, might as well have some fun"
    Hee hee, that made me laugh. Thanks.
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    How damn rude!!! I absolutely hate the "wave off" thing, but it has never happened to me after I have already been sitting and talking to the guys! When it has happened (and only a few times, thank God) it was as I was approaching them. And then for that guy to act like he didn't speak English?? WTF? If they are not interested, all they have to say is that either they just got there or are waiting for someone else to come over. Pretty simple, eh? You have to have an incredibly thick skin to make it in this biz which comes with time, but believe me, you'll get there! Hugs to you sweetie... I know it sucks, believe me, I've been there as well. Just brush it off and find yourself a guy that will appreciate you and treat you like a goddess! Men like that make it all worth it-you've gotta take the good with the bad, you know?

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    I used to get so p*ssed off & frustrated by these kinds of things. Now I just avoid these guys & make a mental joke to myself, like, "Fine, be that way. I'm sitting on my p*ssy & you're not. & Will never. Or any p*ssy for that matter."

    OR you can be really mean & tell the bouncer the guy offered to sell you drugs & you told him to get out or you'd get the bouncer to throw him out. LOL

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    Try this little mantra:
    "It is a strange, strange world where someone like you gets to reject someone like me."
    You're right, that is why they are there. It's nice to remind them of the sheer artificiality of it. I like to imagine that it affects their good time.
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    I had this guy once who told me: "Oh, you're kinda cute. I don't know why you choose to work here. You're better than this. I mean, what a low self esteem if you have to get a job as a trashy dirty dancer. "
    I just smiled and said: "I guess you are right. but it's not that bad, i mean you must have a lower self esteem if you need to look for trashy dirty dancers to get just a bit of attention from a woman...not to mention that you have to pay for it."

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    Wouldn't it be nice if more clubs were concerned about their dancers and actually bounced douche bags when they acted like jerks?

    Ahhhhhh....The good old days.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Innocense
    I had this guy once who told me: "Oh, you're kinda cute. I don't know why you choose to work here. You're better than this. I mean, what a low self esteem if you have to get a job as a trashy dirty dancer. "
    I just smiled and said: "I guess you are right. but it's not that bad, i mean you must have a lower self esteem if you need to look for trashy dirty dancers to get just a bit of attention from a woman...not to mention that you have to pay for it."
    That's a good response! How did the guy react to it?(or, did you walk away before he could say anything more?)

    And yes, I agree with everyone on this thread so far. I mentioned the whole "guys getting off by mocking dancers" thing in another recent thread. At my first club, guys made fun of me for being "flat" and called me a "liar" for saying that I was getting a boob job and then didn't(in reality, my boob job was scheduled a whole 2 days after the night they decided to show up!). They all stiffed me, and asked me questions such as "Do you really think you're entitled to this whole dollar?" after stuffing $1s down the bustier girls' tops. At another club, I nearly got into a fist fight with an asshole young customer!(never ever did that before!!) But I was ready to quit anyway, so at that point I didn't care what woulda happened to me. And at another club, some short loser told me that he was only there for a free show and that he was a self-proclaimed cheap bastard.

    I wonder if guys can sense when girls are either making money or being broke, because they always seem to mock me more when I am not making money!(but then again, it could be due to the confidence that I exude when I'm making money? or, maybe they simply see other girls walking back to the couch room, and me just migrating around the bar with a fake-but-somewhat convincing smile?).

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    there were a lot of young arseholes in my club the other week. i try not to let it affect me coz it WILL affect your mood and your sales if u let it get to u. i approached this guy, he wanted a $20 (one-song dance) but he wanted to bargain for it, he wanted 2 songs for $20.
    me: "no $20 is for one song"
    him: "well you wouldn't be talking to me if u didn't need the money and no-one else is waiting for you to dance for them are they?"
    me: "do u want one or not, i'll do one song for $20?"
    so we went and did the dance.
    then later when i was walking to the private dance area with another much nicer younger guy who wanted a $50 dance, this idiot came up tried to grab my hand and said "come on you're coming with me". I just pulled away and went with the other guy.

    I guess i wasn't so desperate for his whole $20 this time!

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    Oh my God, Sunnie,
    If somebody would EVER try to touch me on stage(never mind my private area), i would rather teach him a VERY public lesson..I'd immedietly stick him in a face with stiletto or would grabbed him by hair and would hold face down on the stage floor for a few sec. Back in my days, in a certain NY club, one of customers got very rough and drunk and apparently, never being in a private room with a dancer. There were 2 other couples with me, when that guy smashed a beer bottle against the wall all of sudden and started to act awfully bezerk and grabby towards dancers,screaming that he's getting a full refund becouse "we don't deliver". Staying visually relaxed and smiling, i slowly picked up the bottle neck from the floor, put it next to a guy's throat and said :"No refunds in NY." Then immediatly went out, got a manager and bouncers kicked out all 3 of them. I know, it's rather violent story and it was long time ago and u'd never imagine looking at me that i'm capable of that, but thing is -rude assholes get on my nerves quickly and i eliminate a situation ASAP.
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    How awful. Sorry to hear it : (.

    When you find yourself in a situation like this and it's in plain view of others (and the bouncers aren't helping), whats the best way to deal with it without scaring off potential customers?

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    ^An insulting comment to the asshat (if you have one) and to walk away like nothing happened.
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