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    Im not really one of those people who pay too much attention to what other people may think of me. But I think everyone at one point or another does consider the fact that they are being judged. Especially in this line of work. I am proud of my body and quite frankly love to dance anyway. Im in touch with my sexuality and feel cofident about using it. But most of all, Im not Paris Hilton who is blessed with Daddy's money! I need to survive as most or all of you already know too well. I feel like Im already trying to justify dancing. I think if you put the money aside, exotic dancing is a beautiful thing. However my family and even some "friends" dont quite see it that way. No matter what, dancing does not define you as a person, if anything, its just another way to make money. However outsiders seem to view it as another form of prostitution. And although thats just ugly people (Inside and out) speaking, Im far from a prostitute and dont like the thought of people putting me in that category. I guess my question is, how do you keep yourselves centered? I have so much going on with having cancer and struggling to pay my medical bills along with rent etc, I dont want to get off track and lose sight of what Im trying to accomplish in the future. Dancing will help me do these things.

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    viewing it as another form of prostitution doesn't have to mean you view it negatively, although i understand what you're saying. personaly, i view it as a type of prostitution. even if you don't do extras or grind, you're still providing sexual "stimulation" (even if only mentaly) in exchange for money. if you're comfortable with that (like most of us are) then who cares what people call it? words and labels are mostly pointless. how you feel at the end of the day is what matters. my advice is.. it's a great way to get through hard financial times. if you stay grounded and can seperate yourself from your "job" you'll do fine. just don't let yourself do anything you would regret and don't get caught up in the darker side of stripping.

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    One thing I would say about this is simply, live life for you! Noone knows what it's like to walk in your shoes, and therefore they shouldn't be making important decisions regarding your life. So what if they have a problem with it? It's their problem, not yours. It really isn't your concern that their heads are chocked full of prejudices and misconceptions that they very well may never get over. If you go about life doing what other people want and trying to please them all of the time, you are never going to be happy! I say take a stand, take control of your life, and do what makes you happy. People who truly love you will stick by you, and those who don't aren't worth your time anyways.

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    Did you say you have cancer? Are you okay?

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    I think you get to a point in your life where you start to really, i mean really thinking about you. And that is a good thing, especially when you have an illness! Yes people judge..it's just the way we are.

    Until a loved one turns over one million dollars to take care of you, keep doing what you want to take care of you.

    That is indeed a pet peeve of mine. Others telling me what is and not good for me. Especially when it comes to my choice of work, clothes, and animals...screw them. I know this is family you talk about. Be polite, but keep on working where the money is! Even if it works as stripping

    They can't live your life for you. It does not work that way.

    Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Taribella View Post
    However outsiders seem to view it as another form of prostitution. And although thats just ugly people (Inside and out) speaking, Im far from a prostitute and dont like the thought of people putting me in that category. I guess my question is, how do you keep yourselves centered? I have so much going on with having cancer and struggling to pay my medical bills along with rent etc, I dont want to get off track and lose sight of what Im trying to accomplish in the future. Dancing will help me do these things.
    In the years I've been dancing I've certainly had a few friends who probably didn't love what I did, but in that small group I can honestly say that none of them ever equated dancing with outright prostitution. Regardless of what people think though, you need to take care of #1 first - you. If that means you need to dance to pay your rent and medical bills, then throw on those platforms and start shakin' it sister!

    Lots of us have danced and managed to get our goals accomplished at the same time weather it was your degree, starting a fashion line, coming up with a new color for crayola, whatever, and you can too. Just because you start doesn't mean you can't stop or that dancing will be your life forever. It just means that a couple of nights a week you put on something sexy, have some fun, and earn great money. Thats ALL it means.

    Piper

    PS: Sorry you have cancer, I hope you are okay.
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    Oh no, what type of cancer is it? Ill have you in my prayers. Best of luck and personally, i think stripping is FAR from prostitution in every way shape and form.

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    I really appreciate all your support. I have cervical cancer. When it rains it pours!

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    im really sorry to hear that you are sick. best of luck and i hope the people who love you are more supportive especially during this time when you need it the most.
    maybe now that they know you are a dancer it might start to change their opinions coz they know u and love u and will come to realise that u are still the same person.
    as for everyone else, u can't change people's misconceptions.
    sometimes patrons come into my club and ask where is a brothel (there is one down the road from us) and i simply say "i don't know i don't use them" hehe. the reason i do this is because i find it very insulting for someone to approach me in my club as a dancer assuming that i know where they can find prostitutes, i want there to be a clear wall between dancing and prostitution.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Taribella View Post
    I really appreciate all your support. I have cervical cancer. When it rains it pours!
    OMG!!! Did you catch it early?? Stage I, II?? Gosh I hope so. ::ginormous hug::
    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be?" -- Marianne Williamson.

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    I have been sick for over a year, its a long story. It began as abnormal pap smears, had colposcopies, LEEP procedures, cone biopsies and finally it turned to cancer anyway! I was expecting it to so it wasnt a huge surprise. Anyway, yes they caught it early. The thing is, last year when i was in the hospital for a month, i was in between health insurances. This year when i again went into the hospital, my insurance wouldnt cover it because it was a pre existing problem. I owe over 68,000. Its insane. I still have a long road to go . Meanwhile while Im still sort of healthy, dancing will bring the extra money in that i need until my next surgery in March. My bf also lost his job, along w other crap...It could always be worse. There are people hungry and dying all over the world, I remind myself of those things and try not to fall into too deep of a depression ya know?! Thanks for ur thoughts and kind words.

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