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    Just was wondering how many dancers on this forum feel awkward or refuse to do lapdances for guy "friends" with whom they hang out with outside of the clubs usually in a non-sexual way?

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    I have done (air) dances and / or table dances for a couple of friends and for various reasons. They were and still are so respectful, no problem. I just look at it as its my job and if they want to pay then fine.

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    I've done lapdances for friends. I enjoy it.

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    First, I am so happy you posted this b/c I was going to post a similar thread about the situation....
    A guy friend of mine (who manages another sc) kept coming in to see me, an he would tip me well on stage, but I refused to dance for him (table dances). He would ask all the time, and I really didn't want to. He sees naked girls all the time, and I'm relatively new to stripping, so I didn't want to make an ass out of myself. Plus, I was afraid it would be really akward.
    Anyway, he came in with some friends on Saturday night (he closed his club 3 hours early). And when the last girl was on stage I told him "I'll dance for you for $200". He was just like, okay...wtf???
    Saturday kinda sucked money wise, so I figured, what the hell? Ill do it, and he will stop asking me. Well, I danced for him and it was WEIRD. I swear I had a flash in my head of us f***ing!!! It was way way too akward for me, and I will never do it again!!
    However, if it was someone I'm not close to, like someone from high school or a friend of a friend's, then I would probably do it (without issues )
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    Quote Originally Posted by laplover69 View Post
    Just was wondering how many dancers on this forum feel awkward or refuse to do lapdances for guy "friends" with whom they hang out with outside of the clubs usually in a non-sexual way?
    I won't do lapdances for anyone who is in my personal life. It's just too...ummm...close...plus, I don't want anyone in my personal life to get the "wrong" idea...our work is very sexual and though we can differentiate, there are many people who cannot.

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    i've done it "jokingly" but i could never give a "serious" sensual dance to a male friend, esp. not one i really know.

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    I never invited anyone I knew from my personal life into the club. However, if someone I had known from outside the club ran into me at work, they were fair game. Either that, or I'd hide until they were gone.

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    I too feel strange being naked in front of someone I am “friends” with but some of the guys I know can handle it and some cant. For me I think it really depends on the individual guy friend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamazon View Post
    I won't do lapdances for anyone who is in my personal life. It's just too...ummm...close...plus, I don't want anyone in my personal life to get the "wrong" idea...our work is very sexual and though we can differentiate, there are many people who cannot.
    I can understand this totally, but sometimes it doesn't seem right when your male "friends" who sincerely care about you often get less action inside or outside of the clubs than a "custie" who could give a flying fuc whether you live or die...

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    Quote Originally Posted by laplover69 View Post
    I can understand this totally, but sometimes it doesn't seem right when your male "friends" who sincerely care about you often get less action inside or outside of the clubs than a "custie" who could give a flying fuc whether you live or die...
    If I had male friends who came into my club for dances, I would help them pick out other girls to get dances from. But I don't have male friends who come into the club for dances. But in case that were to happen, there's just a line that I won't cross.

    The guy friends that I know that come into the club try and get me to hook them up with the chicks and my answer to that is always the same: NO WAY!

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    Quote Originally Posted by laplover69 View Post
    I can understand this totally, but sometimes it doesn't seem right when your male "friends" who sincerely care about you often get less action inside or outside of the clubs than a "custie" who could give a flying fuc whether you live or die...
    Call me nuts, but I think it makes total sense from both the dancer and customer perspectives not to mix business with pleasure. Consider one of your real life female friends, esspecially a physically attractive one. Would you seriously want to buy a lap dance from her? I'm not sure I could show my face in the same club, much less give her my money.

    My parents have lived in a small town where everyone knows everyone, and have ran a small business there for some 30 odd years. Occasionally one of their friends, or even a family member comes in needing something they sell. While they try to maintain the notion that business and business and that friendship doesn't pay the bills, it can be a bit difficult for them to make these transactions, esspecially when said friend or relative asks or implies that they would like some special conditions of sale that a standard customer wouldn't get.

    And thats in an enterprise where intimate human dynamics like sexuality aren't involved in the least. In an enterprise where such things ARE involved, the idea that one's home life and work life should be as segregated as possible is far more important. Esspecially when the work life has to be kept a secret, which is an unfortunate reality for most dancers.
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    If I begin to see a dancer OTC for fun I (note: not "paid" fun) I stop getting dances from them. The first time this happened it just seemed weird to expect a girl I had just had dinner with a few nights ago to get naked and rub herself all over me. Fortunately the dancer in question felt the same way. Since then I have just followed my instinct.
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    I used to give my husband dances when we were just friends, but I suppose it's not the same when you consider the fact we both liked each other at the time...

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    If I begin to see a dancer OTC for fun I (note: not "paid" fun) I stop getting dances from them. The first time this happened it just seemed weird to expect a girl I had just had dinner with a few nights ago to get naked and rub herself all over me. Fortunately the dancer in question felt the same way. Since then I have just followed my instinct.
    Yeah, that's the same scenerio as mine... The "lust" is certainly still there on my behalf inside the club or at dinner though. Guess were no longer labled in the "custie" category and have the dubious honor of being a "friend"...

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    Quote Originally Posted by laplover69 View Post
    Yeah, that's the same scenerio as mine... The "lust" is certainly still there on my behalf inside the club or at dinner though. Guess were no longer labled in the "custie" category and have the dubious honor of being a "friend"...
    Yup, we are in the "friend zone"...which means we are never gonna get it!
    but yes, the lust is still there....
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