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    How do yo mums out there go abut working nights and getting home late getting up early for the kids? How do you mange to be happy for them and how do you manage to get out of bed with so little sleep?

    If I was to start stripping I would work 2 nights a week from 7 till 2-3ish so I wouldnt get home untill 4:30 and then I would need to get up and 7:30 for my little one. I dont know how i would cope. I also work 3 afternoons a week at a regular job.

    How do you handle it? do I not do it or do i just grin and bear it?
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    I don't have kids, but it would stand to reason that you'd stay up after work, get the kids to school or the babysitter, and sleep all morning. At least when I was a kid and my mom worked nights (as a nurse), that's what she used to do.

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    I don't have kids but I've wondered the same thing. I think at least 50% of the girls at my club have at least one child.

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    Well let me tell you, it is VERY difficult and draining. I don't get to bed until about 4:00am sometimes. I guess it all depends on how old they are and how many you have. Do you have a husband or boyfriend to help out? I have my husband, but when he went to jail for a month I only got about 4 hours of sleep a day, and then I would put my son down for a nap and then MAYBE get about another two hours. I don't have any family or babysitters where I live so my husband and I do everything on our own. Daycare wouldn't be so bad if it didn't cost so much money. Maybe you can find a reliable and reputable babysitter, like a stay at home mom or something that can help you out. I know alot of women only charge like $100/week if they are stay at home moms. My only advice to you is either find yourself a babysitter or if you do have a man, see if maybe he can babysit and you can work full time. That's what I did. And it worked great. Cheap and effective. You can make alot of money dancing if you treat like a real job. The only cons about it is you have to pay alot in taxes and you have to pay your own insurance, social security, and medicare. But if you can find an accountant who works with dancers, I'm sure he could help out alot. Seriously, think about quitting your other job and do this full time. You'll make a hell of alot more money and you'll be able to spend more time with your baby. It's all about what's more important to you. I know alot of girls at my work do the same as me. They man don't work, so they are the stay at home mommy, while we go out and make the bacon. Then when the kids are old enough to go to school, you can adjust things accordingly. My son is only three and a half so I still have a ways to go before he goes to school. But as soon as I can get him in preschool, I will be working 10pm-5am again. I live in vegas so those are the prime hours to work. That way I'll get home in time to get him ready for pre-school come home and sleep peacefully, wake up, go get him, come home and get ready for work. It all depends on how you want to live your life. If you really want to dance, you'll figure it all out. Trust me.

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    I dont know how other mums manage, honestly its hard. I used to go home, sleep for between a couple and a few hours depending on what time the club shut, then get up again to breakfast school and go back to bed. It was often very hard to get back to sleep and quite often I couldnt.
    If I had been at a club which regularly stayed open late, late, I would probably have just stayed up and just gone to bed after my son was in school - theres plenty of time to sleep in school hours.


    Im very lucky, my mum stepped in and so I could have unbroken sleep used to get my son up and take him to school.

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    I go to school in the morning and work the afternoon shift(12-7.) My son goes to daycare and his daddy picks him up when hes out of work at 5.

    When I work night which is rare my boyfriend will get up with the baby and I will sleep in for a few more hours.

    My son wakes up at 6am so its VERY hard. If my boyfriend and I have a morning off I will work a night shift so he can take over in the morning.

    Now that my boyfriend is dancing he gets home at 4am... so we will reverse roles... I will get up with the baby at 6am and take him to daycare and daddy will pick him up in the afternoon when he wakes up... I will work till 7pm.... OR if daddy doesnt have to work a night shift then I can work a night shift.

    How confusing huh? My boyfriend usually works 7am-5pm but is laid off for the winter so he is ALSO stripping.... this making it very confusing because I also like to work at least twice a week and I go to school full time.

    Lets just say we make it work... Also my club understands I'm in school with a toddler and admires that so they are pretty understanding to my non flexable schedule.

    The thing is we dance for our son... Without dancing nether my boyfriend or I would be able to get me through school.... We just make it work with nothing but the 2 of us and his daycare.

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    There are heaps of girls at my club with young kids and some have infants. I actually asked one night how one of the girls gets up for her kids and she said that even though her husband looks after them the next morning, she still hears them or they come into her room so she is awake anyway.
    I suppose u have to weigh up the pros and cons of it. If you dance 2-3 nights per week u will prob be able to give up your other day-job so u can work less.
    Even with the late nights i would think that dancing a couple of nights a week would have to be better for your relationship with your kids than working 5 days a week. at least you're working while they are asleep.

    are u still planning on working at centrefold? what nights are u planning to work? just asking coz u wrote in your post u think u would be finishing at 2-3am, this COULD happen on say a monday, tuesday but from wed-sun you are more likely to be finishing between 4 and 5 am on on weekends u could be walking out the doors at more like 6-7am!
    it depends on how busy we are and what time u started your shift but if we are busy, even if u got there early, your last table wont be til 4am and then u can leave after your last table.

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    I just dont think it is going to be possible to do it then. I dont want to work weekends friday night occasionaly may be possible. I travel an hour and a half to the club so i wont get home till god knows when so i dunno it sounds hard...................................
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    I don't get to bed until about 5/6am- then I have to get up at 7:30am to get her ready for school. Then I drop her off and go back to sleep until about 2:00/3:00pm- then pick her up after school.
    So I get my sleep while she is at school. Of course I could just sleep in and have her dad get her ready for school, but we know how dads seem to forget something or another.

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    lol yes but the thing is my little one is only 3 so she isnt at school and she only goes to care tues wed and thurs arvos when I am at my regular job. hhhhhmmmmmmm If only ....................................... God i wish.
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    u wont know until u try lol i know every time i reply to your posts im encouraging u to dance but this is only coz i think u really want to do it.
    u wont have to work weekends, in fact they are always desperate for girls to work earlier in the week mon-wed coz no one ever wants those shifts (due to it being slow), another bonus is no house fees on those nights either and earlier finish.

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    When my son was home with me, I made sure to get extra sleep on the nights I didn't work. When I did work, I would set up his "breakfast" (usually dry cereal or a granola bar and chocolate whey powder in milk) before I went to bed. Then in the morning, I would get up with him, give him his food, and let him watch TV for a little while while I slept on the couch. Alternately, I would curl up on his bed and nap while he played in his room. Admittedly, being stuffed into a toddler bed while listening to Dora and Sesame Street in the background is not great sleep, but it is enough to get by on. After I woke up, the TV got turned off for the rest of the day, and then we had breakfast (for me) / lunch (for him) and home pre-school. Our day went pretty normally after that.

    Another trick I used when my son was that age is, I would say "Oh, my, I have lost my teddy bear! Will you be my teddy bear?" Then he would hop in bed with me and usually go back to sleep for a while.

    Oh, and my husband let him stay up to like 10 or 11 pm, so he would sleep for me during the day.

    You might also check into a pre-school she coudl go to a couple of days a week. Good luck!


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    I have two kids one 4 and one 9months. The 4year old goes to preschool on tuesdays and thursdays. So when he goes to school I dont work on mondays and wednsdays so that Im not dead the next morning for him to go to school.

    On average I get about 4 hours of sleep on nights that I work. If my husband is home the next morning then he might let me sleep in. But the problem that arises occasionally is when I get home baby dosent want to sleep or he hears me come home then Im up for another couple hours getting him to sleep.


    Overall its exhausing but still very rewarding. I may not get any sleep and have to pile on the concealer to hide the black circles under my eyes but I get countless hours of mommy time with my kids. I can take care of the bills and go on toy shopping sprees just for fun.

    Parenting is all about sacrafice but in the end its worth it. You can make it work if you want to. Its going to be hard but if its worth it to you then you will make it work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kitty46 View Post
    How do yo mums out there go abut working nights and getting home late getting up early for the kids? How do you mange to be happy for them and how do you manage to get out of bed with so little sleep?

    If I was to start stripping I would work 2 nights a week from 7 till 2-3ish so I wouldnt get home untill 4:30 and then I would need to get up and 7:30 for my little one. I dont know how i would cope. I also work 3 afternoons a week at a regular job.

    How do you handle it? do I not do it or do i just grin and bear it?
    You just do it. *shrug*

    I'd get home at 2am, get to bed around 3am, sleep 'til 6am, get up, get up the three kids, make coffee and a lunch for my guy, see him out the door, take a nap.

    Rinse, wash, repeat.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Sirona View Post
    You just do it. *shrug*

    I'd get home at 2am, get to bed around 3am, sleep 'til 6am, get up, get up the three kids, make coffee and a lunch for my guy, see him out the door, take a nap.

    Rinse, wash, repeat.
    That's it. Don't sleep. Lot's of coffee and visine.




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    When I danced I had little ones too. I danced 7pm to 2am. Hubby got them to bed and then in the morning he would bring them to the sitter when he left for work and then I would pick them up after I got done sleeping. They were at the sitters from 7am when he dropped them off till usually around noon, cause I woke up between 10 and 11. On weekends they werent at the sitters at all cause hubby was home.

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    My partner works from 8 am till 5 pm and i work regular job from 2.30pm till 6 pm on tues weds thurs and thats when my little one is at care. I guess it would be possible.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lola Lee View Post
    That's it. Don't sleep. Lot's of coffee and visine.
    Meh. I just slept when ever I could. It's kind of like when you have a baby and you can only sleep in chunks of time I guess.



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    I have a three year old, and I work about three nights a week. I basically take naps when he does, and luckily, he takes like three and four hour naps every day. I also watch two other little ones during the day, but their moms both work in restaurants, so I watch them from like noon till five or six in the evening. Sometimes it is hard, especially because I am somebody who needs sleep! But the most important thing that gets me going is thinking about one of my friends little boys, who was born with a heart defect. His mom had to decide whether to keep him on the ventilator or to let him go, b/c the doctor said he would only last a week or two. So when she finally decided to take him off, the doctor told her she could hold him while he died. That little boy lasted 28 hours on his own, even though the doctor said that he would only last two or three. This was such a sad thing that happened, and whenever I think of her holding her little boy while he died, I think of how truly blessed I am to have a happy, healthy little boy, and that there are people out there that have suffered so much more than I ever have. This is what gets me through those times when I am really frustrated or fed up with everything.

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    man i'm feeling this right now! It's sooooooooo hard to wake up, but when the kids wake up they are UP!!! i just suck it up and get them dressed then after i take them to daycare im back to sleep!

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    I have a son too! When I first started I tried to work dayshift, but since I work an hour from my club I found it being too hectic with trying to have someone pick him up from school and then my husband would be with him until I got home and I missed the homework, etc. Due to my drive time I just do weekends. I work 12-7 which I can still see him before work, and then my husband lets him stay up until I get home after work. And I'll tell you a big hug and kisses from my son really helps some days! Stinks that we can't do a lot of things on weekends, but there are times I may not work a Sunday or go in later. If I do need to sleep in a bit my husband is really cool and gets my son up and going. My son is also really good at waking up on his own, watching cartoons, etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kitty46 View Post
    How do yo mums out there go abut working nights and getting home late getting up early for the kids? How do you mange to be happy for them and how do you manage to get out of bed with so little sleep?

    If I was to start stripping I would work 2 nights a week from 7 till 2-3ish so I wouldnt get home untill 4:30 and then I would need to get up and 7:30 for my little one. I dont know how i would cope. I also work 3 afternoons a week at a regular job.

    How do you handle it? do I not do it or do i just grin and bear it?
    It's really really damn hard...My son just turned 4 on December 19th...I am a single mother but have to say the father is awesome...He takes our son for two weeks and then I have our son for two weeks...when Lyric is home (as you can see I am awake) 8:40am....I guess you get use to it ...after doing something for awhile your body just gets immune to it! But I can say this...I am damn tired! LOL
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    Maybe start off working nights and see if its not too hard on you and if it is work day shifts? Unless youre day job is a serious one you need to keep...

    I have a kid and used to work day shifts and on nights had a sitter with the baby for a few hours so I could rest.

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    Umm I don't know how how I do it sometimes because I get home around 5:15 a.m. and wake up betw 7:15 - 7:30 a.m. to get my daughter ready for school and myself for my day job. I pick up on sleep after I get home at 6:30 pm from my day job if I'm not working at the club that following night, otherwise I do it all over again.

    I definitely won't recommend my madness lol

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