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    Default how do u get a regular?

    most of the girls at work have regulars. they make so much money off them by doing so little - sometimes not even having to dance for them.

    so now im wondering if i have a regular or not.
    he has now been in twice just to see me, after the initial meeting.
    he comes in buys me a drink, takes me to dance and last shift he gave me $250 and i didn't even really dance properly coz he kept chatting to me during the dance.

    he has told me he likes me a lot and wants to take me out. so i now he is only coming back in in the hope of seeing me OTC. I know this will sound stupid but i'm starting to feel a bit guilty taking his money.

    is he a regular or is he just trying to see me OTC and then he will stop coming in once he realises I won't?
    he is pretty close in age to me (im 27 and i think he is about 32) whereas most of the other dancers get older regulars and they seem to think it's just an ITC thing - or maybe i'm assuming this.

    so are all regulars just guys who are trying to see u OTC?
    or is he a true regular?
    i think he will stop coming soon and give up.
    i have only been dancing a few months so i dont know how this works.

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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    From my experience once he realizes that you wont go out with him he will stop spending so much. I found that younger guys like to do that . They like to show it off in hopes of getting you OTC and when you wont he moves on. Older men can sometimes be more experienced and know that its not going to work and go ahead and give you the money without too much hassle.

    But this is coming from a girl that cant keep a regular for too long because I wont call him or meet him after work.

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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    nope... once he finally gets it that you won't go for him, he'll stop. A regular is a guy who understands fantasy vs. reality and they may ask once or twice, so hopeful, but for the most part they respect you AT your job and IN your job- they understand dancer/customer relationship and don't push it. I had a non-reg like you're talking about- i danced for him perhaps 8-10 times... (no tipe, of course) and every time.... "embyr, when can i take you out? there's a great sushi place i know, you'd love flying in my airplane, i need someone of your intellect, we'd have such great sex (**EEEEEWWW**) etc etc) after he realized it wasn't happening, he stopped coming in. I don't lead people on, I tell them I can't do OTC, it's their fault if it takes repeated tellings and lost money to sink in.

    Then again, most real regs will at some point hesitantly ask for an e-mail or something... and then still come back after you say "no." They get it... but they can always hope. You want to make a guy fall for you and all your charms without screwing him up. go for the lonelyhearts... better targets/ however- regs just happen. you'll get some... it takes a while. they like consistency.... you're new. give it time. good luck!

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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    I've been working on cultivating regs again; After some really smokin' hot dances, I ask, "so when are you coming back to see me?" If he's interested he'll ask for your schedule. I make "dates" with them by telling them to come in on X or Y day after 8pm. They dont always show up, but its a start.

    If he comes back thinking he'll get you OTC and wont spend anything, ignore him--dont even have a drink with him, just leave. He'll understand that you need to be paid for your services.

    Sometimes I ask for a business card and shoot them a quick email letting them know when I will be in the club and invite them to come see me.

    Also if you wants regs you have maintain your schedule. If you skip around its much harder.

    the relationship ends eventually with a customer getting frustrated that you wont date him OTC or becomes enamoured with another dancer, but just enjoy the money while youre gettin it. some customers you will have many months or even years.
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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    Getting a regular just happens. I don't depend on it. I am a hustler to the fullest. I like to hustle a room full of men than have to deal with a regualr that will eventually annoy me. I have had my regulars and made well off of them. Now that I have a real man I can't see having one.
    If you can get one work them to the ground and take that money like it's no one's business.



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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    I'm sure it mostly depends on the dancer's personality type. I've always had regulars. My technique is to make them feel SPECIAL. Like I really care about them, because I actually do care a little bit about them. Some girls make fun of their "loser" customers but I feel that is totally biting the hand that feeds them. I'm not the most agressive hustler.

    I still have most of the regulars I had when I started 2 years ago (except they come in quite a bit less regularly now!). I'm very sincere (but very secretive and careful) with my customers, and they really trust me and feel comfortable talking to me. I do give out my cell phone # to the ones I am comfortable with. Since I only dance twice a week, sometimes I can arrange for 2 or 3 of them to come in and visit me at the club in a night. Kind of like scheduled appointments, but I never let them feel like they are a scheduled appointments! I never tell them my real name, address or birthday, siblings, etc.

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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    I agree it is hard to get regulars, I thought it was impossible when I first started dancing. Now I have a select few that come to see me. When I dance for a man that doesn't creep me out and I could see him coming in more often (providing he spends money of course!) I ask for their card, shoot them an e-mail the next day, just being nice, saying hello. Two days later I'll give them a call, ask their plans for the weekend, evening etc. Ask if they would be intrested in stopping by. While I never tell customers there is a possibility of them seeing me OTC, I try not to tell them there isn't. Try to SEEM available but never BE available.
    One of my clients (well friend now, really) has been coming to see me for three years now, and we have a good time shooting pool in the club and having drinks. He always spends, never asks to see me OTC and is very well manered. Most are not like that. Just the pick of the draw I guess. Good luck!
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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    Regulars just kind of happen. In my case they just come to see me a few times, I then give them my business e-mail, we KIT, they see me on their own here and there, if I have a slow week I'll e-mail them to come see me yada yada ya. The only time I give a custy my business card/e-mail right away is if they spend at least $400 with me and are very polite. Besides that they have to earn it.
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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    I've been working in CA for only a couple of months now. I have never had a regular!!! All of the guys who have spent good money on me and who come back just to see me are highly expecting me to go out with them. I had a guy who was really hot, he was a little older though, and he used to visit me at least 2 or 3 times a week and used to spend money on me. He did it for about a month, and then he just stopped. He realized he was just my customer and didn't like the idea.

    Before working in CA I worked in Las Vegas. The club was really expensive and we usually only got people who were on trips. I worked there for almost a year and I never got a regular. They were all travelers and lived in different cities or states. I didn't know the concept of a regular until I moved here.

    I think your guy is not a reg though. He seems to be into you and as soon as he realizes that he is just your customer he will give it up.

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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    regulars are short-lived... usually. especially if they want to see you OTC. but the best way to deal with that and keep it ITC is to tell him that you aren't ready yet and aren't comfortable enough to go OTC. but, regulars are often crash and burn. ones that aren't are rare. the best way to cultivate is to find someone you connect with and are comfortable with, one with whom conversation will naturally flow. i would have to agree, your guy is not a regular, and while you can probably get him to visit a few more times by saying what i first stated in this post, it will not develop into full out regular-dom.

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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    more times by saying what i first stated in this post, it will not develop into full out regular-dom.
    is this risky? i mean i don't want to string him along and end up with an angry stalker or something?
    i agree he is not a regular, he is always asking me to meet him OTC. i have just been taking his money coz it's easy and coz he is generally more pleasant than most of my customers.
    should i just keep taking it until he gets the hint?

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    Default Re: how do u get a regular?

    I have the same problem. I can only keep a regular for so long, you can only keep promising your number or promising to meet up with them for so long until they get bored and realise that they are being led on a wold goose chase! x x x

    Goodluck though!!! x x

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