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    (i dont know if this is in the right place so if it isnt im sorry!)

    i started at a new club about 2 weeks ago and i couldnt be happier. the only problem is that one of the girls i keep in touch with from my last club has been telling her friends (the girls who i considered my friends but havent bothered to talk to me since i left) how much i love it and how good the money is, and now she and another girl are planning on auditioning this week. my friend already quit with the intentions of coming to work with me. i kinda have my own thing going, ya know? maybe its selfish but ive had problems in the past working with a friend where we went club to club together and we arent friends anymore. of course i would never tell her not to come, and i love her, but im doing things differently here and it's reflecting in how much happier i am and the increase in my money. she even wants to work the same schedule as me. i feel bad for even thinking this, because shes my friend. am i being selfish?

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    No i don't think you're being selfish. Friends at work are distracting. I do that. I know I distract my friends and they distract me, we all do better when we are apart. (There are like five of us.) Also you don't want loads of girls coming over and over saturating your new club....

    Maybe, so as not to hurt her feelings, you could just say you do your own thing here and you'll talk to her and little breaks and at the end of the night but that's it. And let her know that before she starts with you.

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    I wouldn't say you are being selfish....more like self preserving. Obviously you can't tell her not to come...but maybe what you could do is just stick to your plan, keep working the way you are, and if she goes along with it, great, if not, maybe she'll move to another spot where SHE has more fun?

    I went through the exact same thing when I switched clubs.....and a good friend came to work there with me, but I had changed my hustle, my style and my attitude about work....she satyed for three nights and went back to her other club. Funny thing though, she called me and said she was sorry, that she just didn't "feel it" at this club...and hoped that I wasn't mad!




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    I agree with the other girls--let her know in no uncertain terms that you are there to work and will be saving any socializing for non-work hours. Tell her you've made some changes that are working for you (you don't have to share your secrets if you don't want to) and you prefer to fly solo and keep the social hour for outside of work. If she's really your friend, she's not gonna have a problem with it.

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    You have to pay attention to yourself. There are many times I can't get my girl in the room and visa versa you move on. Don't feel guilty.



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    It's not selfish. You don't go to work to socialize, you go to make money. I would make sure she understands that. She may not like it at this other club, especially if you have to do things differently to make the money there

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    Default Re: is this selfish?

    hey girl
    i bet i can guess who it is! anyway
    no it's not selfish. if you are being different and making more money you don't want her to come and spoil it. ive kind of been there. this is when you are friendly and nice, but if i were you i wouldn't go out of my way for her. maybe work diff nights? or explain to her that you're acting different and are staying away from things you may have done before. not all clubs are right for all people, so she may not even end up liking it.

    anyway
    i'm glad you're happy where you are now.
    and let me just say that i have heard many negative things about someone you 'used to be very close with' and that apparently she has made many girls quit recently and caused drama. maybe that will make you feel better.

    hit me up sometime
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    haha starr im sure you know who it is! i'll send you a message with more details because i dont wanna put them out here like that juuuust in case haha..

    she didnt get hired anyway.. but then she kinda got an attitude like "they hired YOU but they wouldnt hire me?" silly girls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    she didnt get hired anyway.. but then she kinda got an attitude like "they hired YOU but they wouldnt hire me?" silly girls.
    What?! What a dumb bitch! She is very insecure and jealous now you can say good riddance and get on with making your money with your new techniques.

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    That's kind of funny that she didn't get hired. Lucky for you! I'd just be cautious in the future to keep the details of new job to yourself that way they don't wanna switch!

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    yeah well karma bit me in the ass.. ive twisted my ankles a billion times wearing my platforms.. tonight i had no shoes on but was doing a room and twisted my ankle and i'm pretty sure it's broken it hurt so bad i was crying in the office with an ice bag on my foot for about 2 hours. i'm going to sleep on it and see what tomorrow brings but i can barely walk on it so i'm pretty sure it's broken

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    Ohhhh no!!!!!!! I'm thinking of saving a little fund...like a "sprained ankle insurance" or something.....I'm so scared of this. I hope after you sleep on it it feels a little better. Gotta be careful on them damn things. It wasn't Karma - you weren't being rude for wanting to be focused and driven, just bad luck. Its goin around lately. Sure hope you feel better, girl.

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    Poor Girl! That is my nightmare, I twist an ankle or break it, then I'm down for who knows how long!

    I hope it's not broken though, poor girl, feel better soon!




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