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    Default Lost All Interest In Sex - How do you & your partner cope?

    I have seen a lot of posts regarding loss of sex drive. So my question is to you all is:

    When you loose your sex drive, what do you and your significant other wind up doing about it? How do you help out them with their sexual needs and desires?
    a) Do you manually/orally do it just so they can feel relieved?
    b) Do you give them a credit card number and say "find a good website"
    c) Do you lend them to your horny friend?
    d) Do you tell them it is okay to get with someone else (a stranger) to just have a fling with?
    e) Tell them to wait it out until you are ready?
    f) Are they understanding?
    g) Do you just do the deed regardless if you are into it?
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    Default Re: Lost All Interest In Sex - How do you & your partner cope?

    These times come and go, just be patient. This is a great opportunity to re-get to know your partner where most would discard and wait to be turned on by someone else.

    Do some shit together. If you take a genuine interest in each other that is equally distributed, then yes, you'll eventually reacquire that "luvin feelin"
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    I say it's best try to please your partner at least once a week even if you aren't in the mood, unless ofcourse doing so causes physical or emotional pain. Sex drive is something that fluctuates in a longterm relationship but you don't want to lose that intimate one on one connection or the relationship will fail. If it really love the desire will return so I think it's best not to freak out if the level of sex changes from time to time.

    Sometimes outside things like stress or illness can alter the level of desire of one or both people. It's natural and normal in any longterm relationship. But when it's only one person I think it is important to be willing to meet the other persons phyiscal and emotional needs on a fairly regular basis. It's not healthy to deny a partners needs all the time. Sending a person outside the confines of the relationship will likely spell out the end of that relationship.

    Real love is give and take thing. Sometimes we are the givers and sometime not. Good relationships are about being willing and able to see and understand the other persons perspective.

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    The one thing I don't do, when I'm not feeling it, is ignore it. I explain it to him so he doesn't think it's about him. (unless of course it is, but that's not what we're talking about here).

    Like Mast said, it happens. And it happens to most of us at one time or another.

    I just feel that, if I talk to him, he doesn't feel neglected and is more than willing to give me the time and space that I need to work through whatever it is that's bothering me.

    And then, with no pressure, we're able to do other things and enjoy each others' company. Eventually, the sexy feelings come back.

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    Got a divorce. Seemed to solve the problem.
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    It always helped for us to go out...get me drunk and then let all hell break loose in the car on the way home. LOL

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