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    Part of my hustle is that I complement other dancers in front of customers and always say positive things about them, even if I am at a new club. I just returned to the club I started dancing at in Tucson. Dancers are usually pretty mean to eachother there and that is not professional. All I said was "Hi Sexy" to a girl that has been at the club forever while I was sitting with a customer. This dancer only does LDs very occasionally. Her regs come in and give her their money at the stage. She was sitting with some of her regs tonight in front of the stage and encouraged them to tip me they gave my seventy bucks for one song. They all bought dances from me and paid me more than double. Yay for being nice.

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    I do this too. Men seem to like women who are not just friendly to them, but to each other as well. Cattiness reeks of jealousy.

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    At my new club there have been alot of girls who compliment me. I appreciate it but it's not like they are encouraging their custy to tip me. It's more so like, "oh isn't she pretty..I swear she has the biggest boobs in here" Nothing wrong with that..it gets the customer to check me out and smile, but that's usually the end of it. I got no room for jealousy, but I will compliment when a compliment is due.







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    This hustle turned on me a couple of times recently where the custie ended up wanting to spend time with or get a dance from the other girl...doh!

    Gonna think twice about turning their attention away from me.

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    A lot of men just like variety. I encourage customers to get dances from other girls. There are some that are looking for an intimate experience with one girl in the CR. But there are others whose idea of fun at a SC is to get dances from many girls. Sometimes the customer wants to help the other girl out to because he thinks that she is your friend. What goes around comes around!
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    I try very hard not to say bad things about other girls. it works most of the time the only time it doesn't work is when it backfires on you. "ya she's a nice girl" "ok thanks i think that i will get a dance from her. Thanks a bunch i was wondering if she was as nice as she looked"
    thats the only down side of being nice.
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    being bitchy about other dancers infront of your customer shows insecurity on your part which puts the custy off you. being TOO nice about other dances may also tell the customer that you think he would be better off with someone else. its how you deliver your line and also down to what the customer perceives.

    i am new at my club and i had been sitting with a group of very posh gentlemen on a stag night. they liked me so much i spent most of the night dancing for all of them. later, i came upon a girl who was trying to drag the one who liked me the most into the VIP. i was just walking past and this guy was calling out my name and giving me a big hug and saying how much he liked me and she literally grabbed him and said, "dont listen to her, she doesnt know what she's doing, she's new here, she's crap". right in front of me! i was only saying hello and had no intention of getting in on her VIP. i just ignored her, finished saying hi to the guy and carried on walking.

    he later told me he was nearly caught in a VIP with some ugly bitch but left to come find me for a dance instead. haha!
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    Customer POV here:
    Being nice to the other dancers is a good thing. Ever heard the expression "a person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, or to others, is not a nice person"? Or the one about a date who's rude to the waiter?

    (not to equate dancers with waiters, but I'm sure you get the point)

    Same thing applies here. IMO, most guys are turned off by rude bitchy behavior and high drama. We know that eventually WE will be on the receiving end of that bad behavior if it's part of a girl's personality.

    Logic follows that a girl who is kind to the other dancers will be kind to me.

    Then there's the male fantasy about getting a dance from two girls at once - and that won't work with an absence of gentility among dancers.
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    I am very kind to the other girls, I always say positive things about them, and I encourage the men to tip. (I often tip with them, the guys get a kick out of that.) It helps bring the guy into a positive, upbeat mood and I most often get dances from guys like this.

    Most of the girls that I work with don't do that and are mostly bitchy haters. Most of the girls like to bad mouth me to the customers and I know that. Yeah, there is an occassional guy who likes to see a cat fight but I don't think most customers at a strip club want to see that. The girls who like to badmouth me as well as other girls generally don't sell as well and seem like bitches and a guy isn't going to spend a lot of money on a girl he perceives that way. Also, older guys appreciate a girl who is kind to everyone while the young ones with no money may get off more on a hater.

    If the girls that I work with could understand that and get out of their juniorhighschool mentality then maybe they would make money too. Oh well. And I generally outsell most of the other girls.
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    I've always been kind to and about the other girls I work with. No-one wants to work in a catty environment.

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    Funniest thing is customers being bitchy! One man I was with was slagging off each dancer near us, saying my bum was better, or he didnt like her tattoos, opr he thought my dress was better or she was too dirty!!! So funny. I kept sticking up for her though, cos like you say cattiness is not pretty!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tallulah View Post
    Funniest thing is customers being bitchy! One man I was with was slagging off each dancer near us, saying my bum was better, or he didnt like her tattoos, opr he thought my dress was better or she was too dirty!!! So funny. I kept sticking up for her though, cos like you say cattiness is not pretty!
    Yeah, i met a custy like that that last week. He say, "that girl's boobs are small and saggy, she could use a boob job, but I'm sure she knows that." I asked, "are you buying them for her?" Her boobs were saggy, but I dont think it was his place to make comments like that. When the girl came around for tips he told her, "I have laid some improvements for your body, we can disscuss it later if you want." what a retard. I was gonna get up and leave, but I had been chatting with him already and didnt want walk away from a possible sale, so I asked him for a dance, he gives me a once over and says, "yeah, I'll get one. you're yellow-skinned, thats good...i like fair women...i cant stand dark women, but i can tell that you are not really a redhead, b/c no black woman can have red hair and I've been with a readhead, but she was white and blablabla." what a fucking loser.
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    The guys at my club mostly sit around the bar (The stages are in the center) when i'm sitting and chatting with them I'll often encourage them to tip the girls on stage and they usually give me the stash of ones on the bar so i can tip her also. Of course I save some so he can give them to me too.

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    I always think that if the guy isnt going to buy off of me, i want to do everything i can to make him spend his money on some other girl in the club. I get along well with a lot of the girls i work with. If something as simple as a compliment can help them out. Then by all means i will.

    I often have new guys who come in, and they will say that they are an ass man. They ask who has the best ass. I know my ass is kinda flat. Not my best feature. But i know of 3 girls who have great bums. I know so-and-so is gonna be up on stage next blah blah blah. Its karma.

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    Being nice to the other girls is a good thing. What goes around comes around. Even if the other girl is bitchy I just turn the other cheek, ignore her, and do my best not to talk shit about her to others. Why sink to their level when they are being jealous catty bitches? Silly.
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    I'm really fortunate that the girls where I work are always nice to each other. I am nice to everyone and sometimes if I'm sitting with a custy and make a comment like, "she's so hot" or something like that,the guy will buy me dances from her. So we both get paid and he gets his jollies off watching 2 girls (sort of.) Everybody wins

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnie View Post
    This hustle turned on me a couple of times recently where the custie ended up wanting to spend time with or get a dance from the other girl...doh!

    Gonna think twice about turning their attention away from me.
    I agree 100 percent. I used to make coments about other hot girls b/c i thought they were hot, and thought men would understand that means im confident as well as interested in girls (which most guys like) , however half the time the ONLY thing it does is focus their attention on the other girl and make them think you wish you were more like her(low self confidence). Unless asked specifically I will not comment to or on any other girl , good or bad. Keep his focus on me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnie View Post
    This hustle turned on me a couple of times recently where the custie ended up wanting to spend time with or get a dance from the other girl...doh!

    Gonna think twice about turning their attention away from me.
    This has happened to me too, but the way I see it, if every girl catches the "nice" bug, and compliments each other, maybe somebody will turn a customer's attention on to me and I'll get a dance the same way that I ended up giving one away. You know that whole "goes around comes around" thing. The last club I worked at was filled to the brim with the nicest girls imaginable, and we all ended up doing better because of it... and if some catty bitch came in and acted like a bitch, either she lost the attitude quick or she didn't last long at the club. Good attitudes are just as contagious as bad ones... just be a sweetheart and others will follow suit, and you'll all end up richer for it.

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    What I try and do is talk up about the other dancers I like/admire and try not to talk about those who I may not get along with as well...I agree that you show a lot to a guy by how you talk about/treat the other girls you work with.
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    kindness goes a long way in my opinion.

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    It helps alot to be kind. Not only does it make for a pleasant work environment, it can help you make money too.

    Many times I've had a guy ask to bring a friend along for a dance, either to do a double or to also entertain his friend. So I'll grab a friend or even a girl who I know is cool and in turn she'll end up doing the same for me.

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    everyone likes to get compliments!

    be positive- positive results come.
    be negative-negative things come your way.

    basically we reep what we sow .

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    I think it always helps to be nice to other dancers. But I think everyone's focusing too much on "being nice" being the act of saying somethign to the customer's that's nice. I think it's important to be sweet and friendly and helpful to everyone's face, too. I really like doing double dances/double-teaming guys... so girls know that I will always grab them and make them some money. They do the same for me. Also, I'm the first person to lend someone an outfit, help them with their hair, introduce them to someone. What goes around comes around...

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    The dancers at my club are all nice to each other with the exception of a couple of girls. I am always helpful and friendly to everyone and I often will help others make money. For instance if i line a dance up and the guy has a friend who wants a dance too but not from me i will grab a girl for him (if he wants me to). I find that the other dancers are all repaying the favour when they can. I also do a lot of double dances with other girls at my club esp when there are groups of guys.

    It's a better situation for everyone.

    There are also some of the more experienced girls in my club such as APrilLeigh (from here on SW) who will see an inexperienced dancer spending too much time with a customer and maybe struggling to sell a dance and she will come up and say "come on who is gonna get this hot chick naked?" - stuff like this IMO makes the atmosphere more friendly and everyone benefits.

    I'm not sure about the whole talking up other dancers while trying to sell your own dance tho, I don't see how this is productive to the ABC rule.

    Some customers love drama too, I had a guy the other night say "so which dancers don't u like here, who is a bitch?" and I replied "hey I'm the only girl u have to worry about now baby" and he laughed and said he liked my attitude.
    Don't ever take the bait and bitch about another dancer to a customer like this coz he is probably going to go straight up and tell her what u said about her.

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    I agree! Whenever I sell a dance but have to wait till the next song starts, I'll sit on the customers lap and praise the current dancer on stage for how talented, pretty, etc. etc. they are. It always puts a smile on the customers face.

    Also, I think that when you praise another girl for her looks, it helps play into that 'two chicks at the same time' fantasy all guys have, heh heh.....

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