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    A couple months ago I was doing my first set of dances in the VIP area on a couch when I felt my bare foot get cut and stuck on something. I wasn't sure at first if it was a broken glass but couldn't look b/c of the awkward position I was in. I pulled my foot away from the "stuck" position to find a 2" long deep gash on the side of my foot's heel. I looked and there was a long piece of metal sticking out of the leather couch I was dancing on. I told bouncer and went to tell DJ I couldn't go on stage. The DJ looked aggravated and told me it was going to cost me $20! WHAT?!?! I showed him my cut with blood gushing out covering my whole foot and told him I wasn't skipping b/c I didn't want to, but I couldn't go up. He said OK and I went in back.
    The bouncer comes in and gives me a bottle of rubbing alcohol and a gauze pad!!! That's it.
    Thankfully a girl had a first aid kit and stopped eating her food (I felt so bad about that) to assist with the bleeding. It bled for hours and it hurt. Bad. I thought maybe I needed stitches then decided not to go to hospital. I kept bleeding through these huge bandages and kept my foot elevated. I told bouncer I couldn't go up on stage for last two sets and he said I had to OK it with the OWNER! I go to the owner to explain and show him my bloody foot. He tells me he's aware of the situation and ok's me to not go onstage. He offered no apology, interst into how I'm doing, how it happened, didn't offer for me to relax and have a drink, NOTHING!

    To top it all off, the little bit of money I'd already made I had to pay to DJ for tipout at end of shift PLUS $5 out of my own pocket!

    I had trouble walking on the foot for three days and it was bruised for over a week. The wound was so deep it took over a month for the scab to go completely away.

    It made me so mad that I haven't been back since. I can't afford to rely solely on my bartending job anymore and need money so I'm trying to gather courage to go to a new club where I might have to work a full shift *EEK*.

    I've worked at this local club for 9 yrs on and off keeping it as my base club when not traveling. I've never had any problems there with magmt, staff, or dancers. I tip WELL and pay more to work than anyother girl since I pay to come in for only a four hour shift. Basically, I've been pretty good to these people.

    I don't know why but that incident made me feel so dehumanized I kind of decided I wanted nothing to do with dancing at a club again. Money talks so I need to go back but am also feeling old as I turned 30 this past summer. I don't appear over 25 and am in very good shape. I just feel......old to dance although I know I'm not too old. I guess I'm not where I thought i would be at this age. Any suggestions for getting my ass back into gear?

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    When you say "old to dance" I think I'm hearing "too old for this kind of bullshit." When I was younger I wasn't smart enough (or maybe just didn't care enough) to know my worth and what I deserved. You get a little older and you're like, "Goddamn it. I am a grown woman. I do not need "permission" to go off stage if my foot is gushing. And it wouldn't kill you to show me basic human respect."

    If you're like me, it's not so much that you aren't where you thought you'd be, but that you're not getting the respect that you expect at your age. Strip club management and customers tend to treat us like little girls. The older I've gotten, the less I can tolerate it.

    All I can recommend is that you plaster that sacharine-sweet smile on your face, bite your tongue when you're blatantly insulted, and MAKE YOUR MONEY.

    FUCK 'EM.

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    Thanks Dottie, yep that seems more on target. I do feel too old for the bullshit anymore. I've served my dues and learned so much in the past 12 yrs of dancing I sometimes feel like they and I both know better than what they're getting away with now....I mean clubs.

    Yeah maybe it's been so long since I put my game face on, I was completely knocked down by that incident. I thought I just didn't have it anymore but I spent way too long becoming very good at what I do to stop now- broke on top of it lol! So I felt like a lowdown gutter sleeze who got no respect. It sucks.

    I need to suck it up.

    I just don't think I could ever give those greedy bastards another dollar since I'm just another body to them.
    Boy did they love me when I had a regular who they'd ask me to convince him to pop bottles of expensive champagne and we had a contest that went on for 34 days straight. They seem to forget how much I've paid them
    I feel like I'm a customer too since I'm paying them so much and I should get some recognition for that when I'm injured.

    I'm thinking I should do exactly that.....say FUCK 'EM and not give them another dollar, go to a new club. I just feel awkward going to a new club at 30.

    All in all, they hurt my pride and self-worth as dancer which is preventing me from going somewhere else right now.

    Thank you DOTTIE :-)

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    It does suck more when we get a little older, because yes, we do realize what they're doing and that it's BS. We know that they see us as expendable, not one of us being worth anymore to them than the next twat walking through the door - even though we also KNOW that our experience and business knowledge is worth much more$ than simply having another body in the room. We know that is incredibly shortsighted business-wise and inhuman, but we're not gonna make them change. Best we can do these days is find a club where we feel the least screwed over.

    And hun, there is NO reason to feel old at 30, or "too old" to go to a new club. Hell, it might just be exactly what you need. A fresh perspective to rejuvenate your work attitude and hustle. I feel too stagnant and unappreciated if I stay at a club too long, so it helps my attitude to move around.

    Sorry about your foot too. Since it was metal that cut you, you really should go to a doc, make sure your tetanus shot is up to date. You don't want or need any additional complications with that.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post

    Sorry about your foot too. Since it was metal that cut you, you really should go to a doc, make sure your tetanus shot is up to date. You don't want or need any additional complications with that.

    Tetanus shot up to date..........probably should've went- could've used stitches I know now but ah well.

    You have great insight Bridgette and I feel better. I guess the only courage I need is to walk through the door. I'm off to the tanning booth. Thanks ladies!

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    i vote for going to a new club. 9 years at one place has got to have you stagnant.
    you will probley be surpised at how much attention you will get as "new meat" somewhere else

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    Yeah, I think I feel a little closed off from the stripping world or something now liek maybe I just feel stale. It's been soooooooooo long since I've been somewhere else and this is so weird b/c I never was like this before. I mean I used to travel and I worked at a top club in FL in it's heyday. I used to walk in anywhere no problem. I don't know what's up. Maybe my age, maybe working my "regular" job for 2 1/2 yrs now has me used to the same boring people and I've become one of them. I hope I can do it this Thurs or Fri. I'm tired of all these "I used to's". I need to "be"!

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    that was wrong of them not to do anything about the situation but at least they let you skip your stages. having been in the business for a while you know that the only person that will truely look after you is YOU. i say go back in with confidence. you've done it before and you'll have something you didn't have your first time, the sense to deal with the bullshit. don't let anything get you down. i'm sure it is just having a regular type job that is getting you down. you are right to have these feelings and when you get back into it you will be so busy racking up the cash you won't have time to worry about anything.

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    Short skirts, that is unbelievable! I can't believe you actually had to ask permission from the owner to skip your set on stage while gushing blood! Yeah, as if the customers would have loved that...."Hello, look at me, I'm so sexy, see my dripping foot and blood trails? Wanna dance?" His lack of concern is even more infuriating. You got injured on HIS property, from HIS broke-ass couch. I hope you find another club with good money and more concerned owners/staff.

    Last night I had a similar revelation about an owner. The club reopened after a short period of being closed for renovations, and he needed girls very badly the first night back. I didn't expect it to be busy, as no one really knew we had officially opened. However, we were still charged to work there, and I went home, after 10+ hours there, with just a tad over 20 bucks. Needless to say, I'm not going to go back there for awhile. I have a new club with potential, so I might stay there...I'll at least give the place that just opened a week or two to catch on. What upset me wasn't the 20 buck take home, but rather the fact that the effort of me and the other girls wasn't recognized or appreciated. There were five of us total, three others left with 20 or so dollars, and one had about 50. I wouldn't have minded paying the standard fee the second night after opening, but the first night when the state's patrons had no clue when it was opening? Nah. Bullocks to that! End rant
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    Damn girl, the owner would be smart to pay you a be rate to keep you there until the club gets hopping. I'd feel pretty crummy about that too, that sucks.

    Thanks for noticing the reality of my sitution of being bloody and the dj wanting me to go on stage. In retrospect, I should've went up there gushing blood to tell the horrified customers "They made me go on stage, they told me I had to pay $20 otherwise." haha I didn't think of that til I left. Too bad, oh well.

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