Hmmm where should I start...ok, a little over 3yrs ago, I studied abroad in Australia for a semester. For most of that time, I steadily dated this guy "Don."(name has been changed) He seemed to be a really sweet guy and everyone liked him. He was career-driven, honors student, and was an open-minded liberal Christian. Liberal as in, he didn't have any qualms about having sexual relations. A few months later when I was back in the US for college, he visited me for a week and my family thought he was really great, too. After that, he moved to Virginia Beach amongst a few other US cities(lol he preferred the US over his own country ironically). We lost touch over the next couple months, and then we started talking online and stuff here and there.
Around this time 2yrs ago(over a year since I dated him), we were talking online. I asked him how he was doing, and he said "I'm doin good...except for being sick. Y'know, diseases and stuff." I assumed that he was referring to "disease" lightly as the flu or mono or something. A few convos later, he told me that the "disease" was an STD, HPV to be exact. Meanwhile, I was thinking "how can you get ill from HPV? HPV is symptomless, except for genital warts, which only occur with a portion of the strains."(cancer too, but that's a long-term consequence, not an immediate identifying "symptom")
Then a few convos later, he started implying that *I* had been the one that had given him HPV. I was like "WTF?" He also offhandedly implied that this was possible because I'd been with more sex partners than him at the time. The whole thing didn't make sense, and he didn't seem angry about it, but it was still insulting to be blamed for giving him an STD! Later, I got tested and the results came back negative each time.
Around the time that he first stated that he had the STD and that I'd given it to him, I was going through a really hard time in my life and it felt like I was constantly being shitted on and falsely accused of stuff by nearly EVERYONE. Don was adding to that, by kicking me when I was already down. So time passed, and me and "Don" kinda drifted apart. Don started to get a little snobby in some ways. For example, belittling me for dancing(hey, I was trying to support myself and pull myself out of a dire financial situation!), claiming that it was "one step away from prostitution."(wtf?) Just snobby stuff like that. He'd also bad-talked breast implants, but then when he saw pics of me with my enhanced boobs in a tank top, told me how much better they looked regardless of being fake. How annoying.
So this brings me up to last night. We were talking online, and somehow I'd accidentally made a mean joke about this guy in my town who is rumored to have genital warts(HPV). Then I told him "thank god I'm clean," realized who I was talking to, and explained, "Look I know you said that you got an STD from me, but I've been tested several times since then and I've always come up clean for everything." It took until THEN before Don replied nonchalantly, "Oh, I know. I don't have anything anyway." Then he went on to explain about how the HPV thing was a silly "scare," how the "illness" was mono that he caught from "some slut" down at Virginia Beach, and how the so-called "HPV genital wart" was actually a regular mole on his STOMACH! What? So basically, he waited two whole years to tell me that he really didn't have HPV, and he didn't even officially apologize to me for falsely accusing me? I told him that I too have regular moles(including this nasty wart on my head, thankfully covered by hair), that I've had them since childhood, and that they are NOT an STD! He was like "yeah I know." Then why didn't he tell me this before and apologize? I confronted him about the false accusation, and he denied outrightedly blaming me in the past. Other than that, our convo went smoothly, but still! Arrrrggggghhhhhh!!!
One of my BIGGEST pet peeves in the world, is being falsely accused. When I was poor, I was falsely accused by seemingly everyone for all these stupid things, such as stealing, being a cokehead, being shady, littering, etc. This STD false accusation just takes the cake. I don't seem to get as many false accusations nowadays, but then again that's probably because I've been more ballsy/assertive lately, plus I have a materialistically "more respectable" lifestyle(i.e., my own place, nice new car, finished college, I make good money, etc.). Yeah I guess it was so easy to pick on the helpless poor girl that didn't stand up for herself! #@$!#&%*[email protected]@


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