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    Hey, guys! I have a question posted on the pink side and but I need a man's opinion, too. There is this guy I've known very casually for years. I always had a crush on him, then a few weeks ago he shows up in my club, I gave him a dance, and he tells me he's had a thing for me all this time too. He even remembers little details I mentioned years ago. I end up haveing a friend give him my number, he calls we hook up. I end up haveing sex with him on the first night.
    Now it's been a few days and he hasn't called. Did I give it up too soon? Did he just want to bang a stripper? Is he not okay with me being a stripper? Or could he just be busy? Please help!
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    He just wanted to bang a stripper. You instigated it, so why not?

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    who knows what's up but i wouldn't hold your breath waiting around for him to call...
    Oh, I musta took a wrong turn at Albuquerque.


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    This blows. I feel used, and I really did like him. But I mean, if I hadn't fucked him he just would have given me more time and more lies to get attached to him before he got what he wanted.
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    What is "Few Days?"

    If it has been three days, then it just means he didn't fall instantly in love with you.

    If it has been seven days, then he might have lost your number. But he could still show up at the club and find you.

    If it has been 14 days, then ET is right. Bummer.

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    "See, believe it or not (and I don't care whether you do), it's never been about the sex. I get sex at home, anytime, and we like it, and it's good for both of us. No, my stripclub experience has been about acceptance, and affirmation, and desirability...There have been some women who have a personality that just clicks with mine, and in the faux-sex atmosphere of the club, it's a mix that is completely seductive." - Jay Zeno

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    well, to honestly answer your question. no, i wouldn't date a stripper. frankly, there's not much of an upside.

    Quote Originally Posted by Eve21
    Now it's been a few days and he hasn't called. Did I give it up too soon? Did he just want to bang a stripper? Is he not okay with me being a stripper? Or could he just be busy? Please help!
    i have no idea. still, it's only been a few days.
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    Oh, don't be such a girl. Just call him.
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    Wow, I really love you guys!
    Yeah, I'm more than a stripper - and he's known me before I started so I don't think there should be a problem with that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Oh, don't be such a girl. Just call him.
    Ditto, plus guys are told that if they call to soon they come off as pathetic.

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    ^^^

    And it appears to be working. She is wondering why he hasn't called? Is he not interested in taking it farther? And now he is a prize (a challenge) to be had versus a some guy she is going to soon write off as boring because he is too pathetically easy to get.

    Yea, I know, I'm about to get a lecture on "playing games is bad" from the academic feminists, except I don't care. The only thing I care about is what works, not what the current socially popular belief of the day is . A mate that is a challenge to get is often more attractive then one that is easy (it's another one of those genetic things that works, and makes complete sense if you factor in our biological natures).

    p.s. And yes, it is very possible he now sees you as too easy to get, and very possible that he perceives strippers as easy sluts. It's really the same thing I'm talking about above. Of course if you want to know the truth of the matter, call him and ask him. Doing so may make you look desperate or needy, or maybe he will think it's cool that you called him. No way to find out but take the risk.

    p.s.s. Dating a stripper is not completely out of the question for me, but it's also not a goal. It really depends on a couple of key factors. First, how normal she is emotionally. Second, is she engaging in risky behavior during her job that increases the odds that I'll end up with a disease (call me crazy, but I like being STD free, TB free, Hepatitis free, Herpes free, etc.)? We've all taken some risks, but if she is taking a lot of risks daily, multiple times a day with multiple guys, the odds go up, and up, and the odds of passing it on are also high.

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    Nope. He's had a dance from me - there is no mileage. And he's known me for quite some time, I was with the same person for 3 years, which is why I never made a move before. I feel a little slutty giving it up so soon, but I've only been with 3 people in my life - all long term relationships.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eve21 View Post
    Nope. He's had a dance from me - there is no mileage. And he's known me for quite some time, I was with the same person for 3 years, which is why I never made a move before. I feel a little slutty giving it up so soon, but I've only been with 3 people in my life - all long term relationships.
    Well, I'm a big advocate of giving it up when you want to; I wouldn't worry. Seriously - just call. What is the worst thing that can happen? He'll brush you off, and was either a) not really interested in the first place, b) was interested but is turned off by the fact that you're a stripper, c) was interested but is a big nasty hypocrite who loses respect for you because you slept with him or d) was initially interested but changed his mind for other reasons. You'll keep breathing afterwards, I promise, and if it is one of the above things, you'll probably feel better about not actually having to go out with him again. Or, (better scenario!) he's thrilled that you called and was just shy and didn't want to seem like he had no life and was just counting minutes to call you.
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    Well, for whatever it's worth, my S.O. and I ended up in bed the first night too (although we had been eyeing each other for several weeks before that), and we've had a solid relationship for many years since. Good chemistry, combined with two-way mutual interest, similar goals, etc. It's not a universal deal breaker when it comes to long term relationships, just the reality is that some guys (maybe many) will write a girl off as a too slutty (or boring because it was too easy) if he doesn't have to work for her affection (including sexual affection). Likewise some girls will write a guy off as just another man whore if he tries to sleep with her the first night.

    The only way to find out now, call him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xdamage View Post
    ^^^

    And it appears to be working. She is wondering why he hasn't called? Is he not interested in taking it farther? And now he is a prize (a challenge) to be had versus a some guy she is going to soon write off as boring because he is too pathetically easy to get.

    Yea, I know, I'm about to get a lecture on "playing games is bad" from the academic feminists, except I don't care. The only thing I care about is what works, not what the current socially popular belief of the day is . A mate that is a challenge to get is often more attractive then one that is easy (it's another one of those genetic things that works, and makes complete sense if you factor in our biological natures).

    p.s. And yes, it is very possible he now sees you as too easy to get, and very possible that he perceives strippers as easy sluts. It's really the same thing I'm talking about above. Of course if you want to know the truth of the matter, call him and ask him. Doing so may make you look desperate or needy, or maybe he will think it's cool that you called him. No way to find out but take the risk.
    I agree

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    Quote Originally Posted by quote=Eve21 View Post
    Nope. He's had a dance from me - there is no mileage. And he's known me for quite some time, I was with the same person for 3 years, which is why I never made a move before. I feel a little slutty giving it up so soon, but I've only been with 3 people in my life - all long term relationships.
    slutty? oh, don't be silly. normally, it would be our patriarchal duty to condemn you for being a slut. i mean, 3 guys is 3 too many. however, in light of mitigating circumstances and a quick check of out Hilton-Spears slide rulers (otherwise known as The Skank Scale). we've determined that you fall somewhere between a tramp and a trollop. a much, much lower score compared to the other strippers down here.
    Quote Originally Posted by xdamage View Post
    The only way to find out now, call him.
    once, not one those, "hi bob, this is sally. i'm just checking to see if you got the last 3 messages i left for you today" calls.
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    Yes, those are just lame ^^^

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bob_Loblaw View Post
    Yes, those are just lame ^^^
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    Augh.. I really hate that you guys have rooooned the phone excuses.. I had a legitimate one last month.. girl was supposed to call me.. but I was in the middle of changing my cell provider.. new phone, porting old number.. never goes smoothly for me. So I'm left waiting thru those three days wondering if she tried to call... gee, voice mail was probably hinky... I should call her, but oh no I'd sound like a turnip trying to play the ol'phone problems game. Gak.

    So I took the mature, adult route and text'd her like a high schooler.

    Oh, and I vote with the majority.. Yes, call the guy and see what's up!

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    Don't call him.

    If he wants to get in tough with you, he'll do it.

    I slept w my ex of 3 years the first night we met, but we had spoken before by phone and email. He probably called 4 days later, but I'm not really sure exactly.

    It sucks, but that's the way it works. If you call, then you're jinxing yourself. Men fucking suck! But I guess we women do too since we're the ones who enjoy that "challenge". I don't think its a biological imperative rather than builty up anxiety and anticipation.

    Guess what X, she may be excited when he calls in the next few days, but the longer he waits, eventually she'll find some new string to tamper with, her chemical connection to him will diminish, and he could be SOL.

    There's a fine line with the calling game. Especially for attractive outgoing people. I've done the one-night stand thing so many times. I remember spending a couple of days miserable and suffering because he didn't call even though I knew him for a long time, he knew me, we were into each other, had the connection. Sometimes they just never call, and you get over it.

    No, I wouldn't date a full-time stripper. Although I would date a former stripper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Oh, don't be such a girl. Just call him.
    Agreed.

    Or at least wait a day, then call. Good grief!! Any number of things could have happened. He might be as worried that he hasn't been able to call you. And he's not got SW/SCJ to support him.

    What's more important is what he says/does, etc., when you make contact.

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    This is modern times girl! If you really like him, give him a call. If he's not interested in you any more, write it off as his loss. As for your original question, I'd love to date a stripper. Most strippers are fun and exciting people. Besides, if I like you enough to go out with you, it's going to be because of your personality more than anything else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    It sucks, but that's the way it works. If you call, then you're jinxing yourself. Men fucking suck! But I guess we women do too since we're the ones who enjoy that "challenge". I don't think its a biological imperative rather than builty up anxiety and anticipation.
    Well, I'd say the anxiety and anticipation is the emotional manifestation, but not the biological cause behind it.

    Basically here is the theory:

    First note she has already made it clear that she has had three long term relationships, that she is the type of person who associates sex with long term relationships versus an interest in a series of one night stands.

    Biologically, human's are very good at assessing potential long term mates. It's at least as much intuitive as it is intellectual. They assess physical health, mental health, ability to parent, ability to protect, and more. One of those factors that people assess is how likely is the other person to cheat or not. Given the cost of unwanted pregnancy (and now STDs) those are bother expensive biological imperatives.

    The theory is that people who fall (emotionally) for others too easily, or who are too easy to get into bed, are more likely to stray*, and straying is expensive biologically. The inverse is that people who are difficult to attract emotionally, and who are reserved about who they have sex with, are less likely to stray in a relationship. It's really that simple.

    * Note that straying can also include becoming emotionally involved with someone else, even if no sex is involved, it's a distraction from the long term relationship that most are unhappy with.

    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    Guess what X, she may be excited when he calls in the next few days, but the longer he waits, eventually she'll find some new string to tamper with, her chemical connection to him will diminish, and he could be SOL.

    There's a fine line with the calling game.
    Sure, there is a fine line. The whole notion behind the art of seduction comes down to timing.

    But this assumes he looks at her as a long term potential mate. That's not a given. A lot of people (men and women) are looking for one night hookups, or the occassional fuck buddy . If that's what they want (casual sex), then the biological reasoning I mentioned above doesn't apply. In fact, the opposite type of person will do just fine, someone who is not reserved about who they have sex with, and if you are looking for a quick emotional roller coaster, someone who becomes emotionally attached quickly.

    It's just the way it is. The characteristics people look for that make someone good for quickies and no complexity sex are often at odds with the characteristics that people look for in a long term mate. Once you accept that, a lot of the confusion people have about the whore/saint complex just disappears.

    p.s. Some people really are not jealous, and really just don't care if their long term mates stray (emotionally, or physically). Some are oblivious to the possibility (believe it will never happen to them), or some are brought up in societies where they are taught to expect non-monogomous relationships, and there are other exceptions. For those types, probably what I wrote above won't jive with them and they may not consider these factors when assessing a potential long term mate.

    But Eve21 on the other hand, it's clear that she is the type that associates sex as something done in a long term relationship. What I wrote above applies.
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    What about a text message telling him you enjoyed the time you guys spent that night...if you don't want to call.

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    I think it's time for an update here Eve!! What happened?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    No, I wouldn't date a full-time stripper. Although I would date a former stripper.
    Oh God, sweetheart, "date" doesn't even begin to cover it. It takes us three full days just to recover voluntary muscle response in the limbs, as I'm sure you know.
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