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    Default Customer Conundrum

    I'll try to sum up my problem here briefly.

    I have a regular who sees me about one or twice a week; probably my highest spending regular right now. He's a little older than me, probably early thirties, decent enough looking, very good chats for many paid hours. He's no one I would ever date in real life but I would probably party with him or such--Anyway OTC hanging out is not even a situation as he his happily married.

    I really appreciate his money in the club, obviously, and probably appreciate having his companionship and our friendship in the club more than his cash. We've had talks where I've explained to him that yes, I am here for the money it's my job and such but I really enjoy sitting with him also.

    But I'm afraid that we've become well enough friends that maybe the sexuality/sensuality is getting lost and the line between mysterious stripper lady and hot chick I like to talk to is getting blurred... if you get what I mean. Regulars never last and that is an ending I am totaly at ease with.

    The problem comes in that i think maybe he may be afraid to spend money on any other dancers he may become interested in or he may feel pressures to sit and spend money with me when he just wants to hang out and tip with his friends. He hasn't asked to do either, and I never ask for cash or such, but it's become such ritual that I think he would actually feel bad/uncomfortable if he didn't abide by it.

    I guess this is coming to a head because of little signs--"Oh, I don't have much money tonight but come over and sit and say hi when you get a moment"--and he invited/payed another girl to sit with us for awhile last night although he ended up being not to fond of her.

    He did tell me he's bringing me in a gift later this week, though; a busted instrument (I am a guitar tech and like to refurbish or dismantle old insturments), so....

    I'm sure I'm over thinking this but that cat's out of the bag. How do I get back on track with a stripper/customer relationship, and if I can't then whar DO I do..?

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    Default Re: Customer Conundrum

    Introduce him to a 'friend' who you think he might like. If he isn't spending money on you, you still need to make a living. Maybe if you introduce him to this 'new' girl he will feel like he has permission to spend on his new pretend girlfriend while you make money elsewhere.

    I've got customers like that, too. Not my regulars anymore but are nice to sit with when I'm not busy. I'm glad that they still enjoy visiting the club, but I totally understand the point of going to the strip club, to meet new and different women, not to have a marriage relationship.


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    Default Re: Customer Conundrum

    Yeah. I mean, the thing is he is still spending just as much money on me as he was, even after he said he didn't have a lot of money to spend... I only had an hour left of work though, so.

    I just want him to know if he did want to do that, he doesn't need to to worry about my feelings, as he seems to do.

    But thank you, you gave me a great suggestion I am going to try. I'll ask if I can invite over one of the girls I like a lot and try to see if he wants to veer off that way or such. The girl he invited over on his own that night ended up annoying him or something so he stopped giving her money and she eventually left.

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    Default Re: Customer Conundrum

    Sometimes guys just need a little push, or a hint that you won't get mad if they spend money on other girls. If there is a promising nice new girl, make a point of bringing her over to the table and introducing her/inviting her to sit with you and him. Even if he isn't interested in her, he'll probably appreciate the consideration, and be more confident about showing attention to other girls without hurting your feelings.
    Always remember: Everyone you meet has loved something, has lost something, and is afraid of something.

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