I'll try to sum up my problem here briefly.
I have a regular who sees me about one or twice a week; probably my highest spending regular right now. He's a little older than me, probably early thirties, decent enough looking, very good chats for many paid hours. He's no one I would ever date in real life but I would probably party with him or such--Anyway OTC hanging out is not even a situation as he his happily married.
I really appreciate his money in the club, obviously, and probably appreciate having his companionship and our friendship in the club more than his cash. We've had talks where I've explained to him that yes, I am here for the money it's my job and such but I really enjoy sitting with him also.
But I'm afraid that we've become well enough friends that maybe the sexuality/sensuality is getting lost and the line between mysterious stripper lady and hot chick I like to talk to is getting blurred... if you get what I mean. Regulars never last and that is an ending I am totaly at ease with.
The problem comes in that i think maybe he may be afraid to spend money on any other dancers he may become interested in or he may feel pressures to sit and spend money with me when he just wants to hang out and tip with his friends. He hasn't asked to do either, and I never ask for cash or such, but it's become such ritual that I think he would actually feel bad/uncomfortable if he didn't abide by it.
I guess this is coming to a head because of little signs--"Oh, I don't have much money tonight but come over and sit and say hi when you get a moment"--and he invited/payed another girl to sit with us for awhile last night although he ended up being not to fond of her.
He did tell me he's bringing me in a gift later this week, though; a busted instrument (I am a guitar tech and like to refurbish or dismantle old insturments), so....
I'm sure I'm over thinking this but that cat's out of the bag. How do I get back on track with a stripper/customer relationship, and if I can't then whar DO I do..?



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