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    Default Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    Last night after working 7pm-1am, paying tipout I went home with $8.

    I cried I was so frustrated and ubset.

    I cant believe I was that girl but I was fuckin bawling in the DR at 12am and the housedaddy wouldnt let me leave.

    Please someone tell me I'm not a crazy drama bitch.... I was just so damn frustrated.

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    You are not crazy. It happens to everyone at some point.

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    ^^^ Yes, EVERYONE has been there!

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    I agree, everyone has been there. There were times that I kept my anguish all bottled up inside, perhaps unintentionally making a sad face at one point or another, and when other girls asked me if I was ok, quickly saying "I'm fine." But as soon as I'd get out of the club, I would either go into an angry fury to my friends about it, or I'd cry about what a failure I felt. And yeah, there were a few times that the alcohol didn't help me with my venting.

    It's good to let it all out. I've found that bottling up my emotions usually does me more harm than good. I'm teaching my friend M--k to be more expressive, and that saying "I'm fiiiiine" in his bitter monotone isn't going to allow me to help him much.

    I really hope tonight is a lot better for you!

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    been there!

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I had a breakdown in the dressing room once too. Some days just get to ya. Just look forward and vow to make the next time a better time.
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    Ugh been there too.At least you left with $8 bucks!!! I left with minus 5 ..............sucked

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    Yeah we all feel ya! I cant say I have ever cried because I am not a *cryer* (not that theres anything wrong with it) by nature, I am more of a *get pissed off and yell* type of person. But oh yes there has been those nights where you cant even afford tip out and you want to cry/kill but just remember those nights are usually far and few between! Chin up!

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    Um, I have never cried in the dressing room because I didn't make money. I HAVE worked a few nights where I made shit money and even gone home in the negative, but this was at a club where money was SO inconsistent, it was just generally expected that occasionally you'd make nothing and the next night you could easily make $1k or more.

    I gotta say, it seems like these stories just get more and more common as time goes on. I am quite sure that the general club practice of overloading the place with girls paying house fees is a major cause - too many girls just spreads the money too thin. Every experienced stripper knows this. There is no such thing as infinite money.

    So I haven't cried but I've left pissed off because of making shit money. I get pissed off because it's generally the CLUB that causes the situation.

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I've been there...as a matter of fact I was there last night! *rant*
    Last night was so f*cking slow!!! I was so pissed off, soooo pissed off! I left with $60. It was 12:00 am and there was 0 customers on the floor. The only girls who made money were the ones who had regulars. It sucked! I changed my cloths at 1:00 am...just waiting to get the hell out of there!

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    I'm thinking the real estate bust is causing alot of this. It will get better. It may take more time, but it will. It always does. It's cyclical.

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    Been there, done that, more then once. I have had a few break downs in the dressing room... as have many many many other girls. It sucks... I think clubs need to realize they're just making pay outs way too big for the lack of money thats out there now.

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I think I cried in Thunder Bay (actually, yes I did, but in the bathroom I think). And I am usually Miss Stoicism herself. I've never really gotten too upset over earnings, but I will get emotional if the stress of dancing (I admit it, sometimes I just hate being a stripper...'tis not good) gets to be too much. When I start to lose it, I usually go have a cigarette and force myself to do ramble math equations to distract me. Or I will try to say girls names backwards in my head for a while (ie- Cally/ Y-lac, Jenny/ Y-nej, Scarlett/ Tel-racs). Distraction is a great way to refocus and pull yourself together. Not that there is anything wrong with being emotional, but it's inconvenient sometimes.

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I've done it, for sure... but I tried not to do it in front of people... I left with -$40 once... mother fucker I was pissed...


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    Heh i've left with negative $150 before... yea I wasnt happy..

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    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon View Post
    I think I cried in Thunder Bay (actually, yes I did, but in the bathroom I think). And I am usually Miss Stoicism herself. I've never really gotten too upset over earnings, but I will get emotional if the stress of dancing (I admit it, sometimes I just hate being a stripper...'tis not good) gets to be too much. When I start to lose it, I usually go have a cigarette and force myself to do ramble math equations to distract me. Or I will try to say girls names backwards in my head for a while (ie- Cally/ Y-lac, Jenny/ Y-nej, Scarlett/ Tel-racs). Distraction is a great way to refocus and pull yourself together. Not that there is anything wrong with being emotional, but it's inconvenient sometimes.
    Haha I'm glad I'm not the only feak in the world that does the backwards name thing. =D

    Don't worry Collegegirl.....no need to feel like a failure, it has nothing to do with your abilities when you have random nights like this.

    We've all been that girl.

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    What's really fun? Say medicine names backwards!

    Tylenol?

    Lonely!!! (t)


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    i don't think i've cried over money specifically, but i've cried in the DR many a time over being called fat or being told that other girls are better than me. money doesn't upset me, because i know i can always make more another day. usually i'm pretty thick skinned, but a few times when i've been feeling fragile i've broken down in the DR after getting some nasty comments.

    but yeah, it happens to everyone.

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    I cant do the backwards words/names thing... makes my head and mouth hurt(dont ask lol)..

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I've been there too..I went in the bathroom staring at myself in the mirror wondering why no one wanted me...I try to be as optimistic and go in with a clear head and positive thoughts but shit, sometimes I just sit back wondering "HOW DOES SHE GET THE DANCE, WHEN I DONT'" But then I jump back into my reality that this is only one night. For all I know the next time I work I'll be "THAT GIRL" who is going non-stop banking out the ass.







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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I've never cried over money at the club. If I wasn't making money, there was none to be made. I have, however, cried after being yelled at by a mean bouncer, and once after my dad busted me for stripping.

    Now in my personal life, I've cried over my finances, but never at the club.

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    I've never cried over money really, but I once cried because a guy screwed with me so bad. Totally made me sell him, then just blew me down. I'm sensitive, yes, but only about a few things. Well, he just seemed to know all those things!

    The other time I cried, I'd only been dancing itc for about 2 weeks, and a guy grabbed me onstage. I thought he was going to break my arm, then he tried to touch between my legs. I kickd him, and ran offstage, colapsed on the floor, and sobbed into my managers arms. I was traumatized, but I learned my lesson, and no one has gotten even 1/2 as close again!

    Both of these incidents taught me lots, now I don't invest myself so deeply in the sale, if I feel wierd about it I walk away. The other time I grew eyes in the back of my head, and I'm always aware of where all hands are.

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    i remember the manager barking at me for something... i was so on the fricken edge... i held it together in front of him (just) then ran away crying to the toilets.

    extra points if you have put the lid down and sat on the top of the toilet crying and pulling long bits of toilet paper to cry your mascara into....

    it's part of the job description

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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I've never cried over money and I've never cried in the dressing room... But one time I cried after I got home (ok ok ok, and on the way home!) cuz these two girls were pretty damn mean to me!

    Yea, this job can be rough...
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    Default Re: Yea I was that girl. I cried in the DR.

    I cried one time, I worked on what was always my best night and barely made any money. I was stressed out because for about 2 months up until my crying episode I wasn't making much money and one night I finally just lost it! I'm not one of those girls who causes drama or anything but that night I just couldn't take it and all the customers were bigger aholes that night and that was it for me. I took a few weeks off and felt much much better and started doing better money wise after that and haven't had an issue since!

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